Amazing husband.. what’s wrong with me??

[Jod07]

So my husband is fantastic like really! He’s hot, he does everything for the kids and I. We have been together forever basically, sex life could be better atm but everyone goes through a little drought right? So my dilemma is... Out of curiousity I downloaded an app I heard some younger girls in work talk about and got chatting to a guy... now I have no intentions of ever meeting up with him but it is quite exciting chatting to him... my husband is currently in the kitchen cooking dinner while I’m being a conplete bitch and messaging another guy!... what the fck is wrong with me!? Like I know this sounds crazy but I honestly don’t know why I’m doing it it’s total self sabotage!... any advice?

Why don’t you go right now and tell your H exactly what you’re doing?

Go on, his reaction may just focus your mind.

Have you physically met this man? If not then how do you know it’s not fake

I think the lack of sex at the moment between you and DH means you are maybe feeling a bit unattractive - maybe you aren't even aware of it but texting this other man is making you feel wanted again and giving you validation that you are attractive. That's my guess! Anyway, I do think you have to delete this app and don't do this again as you have the potential here to ruin your marriage. All it takes is for someone who knows you or DH to see you on this app and there will be no going back

I've got it. You're in your 20s with a DH and kids. You got married too young, feel you've missed out and are now acting out what you should have been doing with your 20s. I have a middle aged male 'friend' who does that. Still, in his 40s he's still fucking around. Amateur psychology over with.

You have two choices: Delete the app and never reinstall in, get help for your issues and learn. OR tell him right now. Those are the only choices. So stop with the nonsense 'I can't help it' bullshit. It's not crystal meth.

What if it was him having secretive saucy chat with another women.....mmm.. doesn't feel so good now does it?

You sound sixteen. You obviously settled down too early and missed out on some crucial maturing.

Poor old hot fantastic husband, his wife desperate to fuck around for validation and excitement.

I don’t know the answer for you. I have a feeling you’ll get all giddy and do it all anyway. Unless you have any respect for your husband or yourself.

You’ll lose him ultimately. Break up your family. He’ll meet someone else. Your kids will probably have a lovely step mum then.

If you don’t want that to happen delete the app, have a serious talk. Or maybe your H isn’t for you - however awesome he is? Your behaviour suggests that he isn’t.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply, your comments have actually helped me I think, even tho some hurtful and unnecessary I suppose I deserve them to an extent.

Delete delete delete

And go and seduce your husband.

To an extent?
Totally.

Did you delete the app?

Not yet but I will!...

No you won’t, you’re enjoying it too much 🤷🏻‍♀️

I hope your husband finds out what a twat you are.

You’re miffed at the grief you’ve had here,what do you think your oh would give you? You sound delusional

Why don’t you delete it now?

Because deleting it isn’t going to solve the problem. I know there is obviously something going on that’s making chatting to someone else exciting I have never ever thought about doing this before never mind actually doing it! I want to get to the root of the problem not just delete the app and hope the problem goes away... and no I am not a narcissist!

So you’re still talking to him?
Surely deleting it is a good start? Then you can analyse why you’re doing it?
You’re just making excuses. You’re enjoying it and have no intention of stopping. Good luck to you when it all comes crashing down.

Fucking hell. Well best download even more apps then, yeah?

No deleting it won’t solve the problem. But surely you can see it’s the only place to start the process of growing up and not betraying your H and kids.

Deleting the app wouldn't solve your relationship problems but it would mean you weren't cheating on your husband. You twat.

Nothing but cuntish behaviour. If your husband is as great as you say he is then he deserves better!

Delete the fucking app, and then think about what made you download it in the first place. Ffs. Act like an adult, not a teenager cheating on her first boyfriend.

It’s not even like this is someone at work you’ve got a bit too friendly with almost by accident. You’ve deliberately downloaded tinder or whatever with the intent of cheating, even if only over email. Your poor husband. I hope he finds out, leaves you and meets someone awesome who appreciates him.

Most people like attention. You get loads of it on those apps.

Although loads of the men are married and bored at home. Not gettimg sex and will soon want you to start sending them pics...then racy pics and if you're close enough...they'll want to meet up with you. Women I've spoken to often regret it

They'll shower you with complements... which I'm sure if they gave their wives... they'd be in a better place.

I learnt quite a lot playing along with it.... some people were genuinely unhappy and for me... it helps me understand more for areas of my work.

Although many of them swear they'd never cheat IRL.... but I've had a few husbands tell me it was what ended their marriages. It's not worth it.

You are seriously GRIM, you came for attention👋

So if you want to get to the root of the problem why don't you delete the app and have some therapy?

Do you believe in loyalty and respect in a relationship?

And for what it’s worth, flirting with someone new who finds you attractive would probably be fun for most people in a relationship, at least for a while. But adults who are in committed relationships shut that kind of thing down as soon as it gets beyond being friendly, because they don’t want to jeopardise what they already have. And they don’t go on fucking tinder. Grow up.