What if I never move on

[onemoresmartie]

Hi everyone

Sitting here wondering and knowing my ex will move on and be with someone else soon and how horrific it will make me feel...

Does everyone feel like that? I just know it will tear me apart. I feel so unloveable and I don't want to open my heart to anyone ever again

Just feeling really low and could do with some words of wisdom or hand holding

Why has he not blocked me? I can still see his online status and he is constantly on WhatsApp
I'm obsessed with looking and can't stop myself

How can I stop this

Giving you a handhold OP - I know how hard this is, I’ve been through it all myself. I think you’ve got to accept that this relationship will take time to move on from, rushing it won’t help a bit. I think you’ve got to ask yourself what the relationship really gave you, for me, my previous relationship was like a drug, I kept going back for more but it was so destructive and unhealthy, and, like you, I fantasised about the vision of my ex but in the end it was all a facade and he’d actually conned me.

This type of year is always the hardest but stay strong OP. I’d suggest deleting his number and changing yours to completely sever contact. I saw my ex a few weeks ago and was shocked at how rapidly he had aged and how out of shape and old he looked. There was zero attraction or allure on my part and everything I used to idealise about him had suddenly disappeared.

One of my happy moments recently had been having way too many wines, dancing until dawn and not thinking about my ex once. That and seeing him running every day after I called him a playboy with a paunch.

I never thought I’d break free of him but I have and the most satisfying thing in the world was telling him to fuck off when he begged to come back to me and be a father to our daughter.

Stay strong, keep writing on here, we are all here for you x

Give it time look after yourself ,it will get easier, think about your son ,he is the innocent party & will know when your upset

OP - I don't think guys think about severing ties like us females do! Last time I checked, my ex hadn't blocked me on WhatsApp. Although you've now got me paranoid!
As PP's have said, this is going to take time. I am in the same boat right now. And I realise that, but I do know that one day, hopefully in the not too distant future. I will be ok.
Sending hugs, be kind to yourself x

"I'm obsessed with looking and can't stop myself "

What I did was change his contact name to the most hurtful thing he ever said to me, and then archive the chat. That way its not on your active list, and the name reminds you why you don't need him in your life any more.