What if I never move on

[onemoresmartie]

Hi everyone

Sitting here wondering and knowing my ex will move on and be with someone else soon and how horrific it will make me feel...

Does everyone feel like that? I just know it will tear me apart. I feel so unloveable and I don't want to open my heart to anyone ever again

Just feeling really low and could do with some words of wisdom or hand holding

Sorry but £2 in your bank saying sorry is 😂

Ps block himmmm

I think it's because usually by this point I would have gone crawling back to reason with him and get back together....this time is different and he knows it. £2 is borderline insulting and he's probably just had too much time to Maudie and think it all over.

You believe you deserve this treatment. Otherwise you wouldn’t even entertain the idea. What happened to you to think that this is some kind of great love? It isn’t its shit. Hold firm.

You have to block, or you will be set back every time he makes contact. It will make the process quicker for you. That's all it is, just a process. And one day it will be done. Look at it this way, OP, the relationship is going to be over at some point even if you get back together this week and temporarily feel happy(ish), so why draw out the pain? You're doing the worst bit now, and you just need to keep going until you get to the stage where you cringe at yourself for ever loving him because that is really how you'll feel in the end.

You respond to him and you WILL regret it

I know, I'm playing how it will go in my end and there isn't a good outcome. I would be dragging myself right back into all the shit...he's only doing this because Christmas is fast approaching and he doesn't want to be alone. It always has been and always will be about his needs.

Each day I'm getting stronger, I just need to have the strength to not go back no matter what he sends me...his behaviour is making me worry that he isn't okay though which is obviously what he wants

Block him now and don't look back, 2019 could be the year for you but only if YOU let it happen 💐

All men like that act like they are 'not ok' when they realise they have lost control of you. They are ok, though. Just unoriginal.

Not ok, because they are needy for attention 😐

He 'misses me' apparently is another message I've received
Of course he does
Is there a way of blocking on email?

OP, there should be a way of blocking the email. Maybe Google how to for your email provider.

@onemoresmartie even if he isn't OK, he has a family. You have a son to look after and he's far more important.

Agreed...the next few weeks are going to be tough but I know the alternative would be shit and I would regret it almost instantly so I have to be strong

If you feel the urge to contact him come on here instead 💐

I have felt the urge all day to unblock him...trying to keep busy but I feel I'm going to cave later 😢

Stay strong Smartie x
You only miss who you want him to be, not who he is.

Yes, stop thinking of any good times and remember the bad and what he put you through. Don't give him the power to keep doing it!

Delete his number. I split with my ex 5 months ago. I still miss him. Remind yourself of all the bad times when you get the urge.

While he is blocked, delete his number. That way you can't be tempted to invite abuse back into your life.

Don't unblock him, there is absolutely no point.

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The problem is people think that they should get back together at Christmas and that they're the only single person out there. It's not true, loads of people are, you just need to realise that being alone is better than being with a total user.

I have been mostly fine but I keep unblocking him and contacting him when I've had too much to drink.

I keep setting myself back and It's madness and a cycle I can't seem to break
I hate myself today as I was doing so well...he said he was expecting me to show up at his place

I don't know why he doesn't block me

Because he's enjoying you getting in touch, like you need him. STOP IT !

I feel like I've taken a million steps back....all he has done is send me selfies 🙄

Only you can put the first foot forward to get him out of your life.Can you change your number and delete his? He'll be thriving at the attention you give him, do you really want that?