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Physical and emotional abuse destroying me

81 replies

28forever · 29/10/2018 20:17

Really need to vent/ chat my dp is a horrible human being but I just can't seem to just end it for good.
Last weekend admittedly I had to much to drink.and over reacted when some knob in pub made a stupid comment and my partner didn't stick.up for me.but we got home and he got my hair and smashed my head into.steering wheel, dragged me from car by my hair then dragged me around kicked and stamped on me .
His gut reaction is to pull my hair and hit me at every argument. He then completely blames me the next day ! I'm apparently insecure !!
He then ends our relationship because he's sick of my shit ??? Wtf!!!
He never once said sorry.
He is just an absolute bastard and i hate his guts.
Today he was shouting my name and telling me he was going to drive me to my work to tell them he doesnt want me anymore ! He speaks to me like shit , he has spent all day telling me " fuck off dickhead "
If i ring its wtf do you want?
I'm.not perfect but he blames all his issues on me.
He has just told me to " GO get help for who you are"
I'm.just so low. Why can't I just walk away.

OP posts:
BMW6 · 31/10/2018 17:10

Sounds like you are addicted to him like a heroin user is addicted. They know the drug is ruining their life and causing premature death, but still can't quit using.
You need professional help to get over this just like a drug addict does.

You should contact Police, Womens Aid, Freedom Programme, see your GP, ANYONE who can give you the help you need.

NameWithChange · 31/10/2018 22:49

What you are addicted to is the highs and lows of the behaviour. Not him. As soon as you realise that and see what a pathetic specimen he is you will be on the right track out of there.

... and you will look back and wonder what the hell you saw in him. There is nothing of any value in him at all.

Banana1979 · 01/11/2018 02:42

You need to report this to the police..then get a restraining order against him
He's told you he doesn't want you..why do u want to be with a man who hates you hurts you and does not want you
You want to stay with him because your self esteem is broken and u feel lost
Ask your self what do you love about him? Report him then block him, don't allow him in
Hes going to break your spirit and possibly even kill you..or you might get really Ill through all the stress
You are wasting life with him when you could be having an absolutely amazing relationship with someone that adores you
Imagine u had kidswith him. He could seriously hurt them and social services would get involved making your life hell. Is this what you want?
Be strong
.see your gp. You need an adult safeguarding referral. You need to put ur heart aside
He could have killed you you know
Remember when u was a ittle girl..what would you be saying to your adult self ? Run! DM me any time I want to help you

MistressDeeCee · 01/11/2018 03:21

Sounds to be the most unattractive and un-appealing dickhead ever. He needs the Mr Unshaggable t shirt.

Does he ever shut his motormouth?🙄

How do you live with his constant fuss noise moaning bitching and criticising in your life?

There's a lot to be said for getting rid of pain in the arse folk and living your life freely and peacefully instead of wasting years on him as if he's the 1 man left in this world.

Urth1hizafraidov · 29/04/2020 04:08

Darling
You was once in command, he can sense your strengths. You’re the one he’s afraid of because you didn’t carry through you’re first threats in the beginning,
Please follow the other advice it is a million percent right and even you know it.
Let him threat and say all the same things as usual, it’s mind games honey because you’re letting him do it time after time.
Think about it, it’s you that has the power over him and you’re giving him reason to believe the opposite.
Take back you’re life don’t give this insecure coward anymore of it.
Yes he’s very insecure that’s what he wants you to feel like him.
Grab the twat by the bollocks give a good kick and slam that door on him once and for all darling.
Trust me he won’t get passed a week without taking stupid measures unless you correspond with him.
Who’s in control you or him... you have to let him go ell never let go if you don’t.

And don’t be too afraid if he carries out new threats or maybe coursing disturbances when you do leave him for good it’s his way of showing his insecurities to everyone. Then you’ll see.
He had no power of you to begin with.... you are the one he’s afraid of.

volatility · 29/04/2020 05:16

Zombie thread but hoping OP got rid of this abuser

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