Noooooooooooooo! Caught DP rubbing one out and it’s freaked me

[babygoose48]

First time it’s happened in the 4 and half years.

Came home from parents evening tonight and all the lights were on but the door was locked. Went inside, called out to DP... nothing. Grabbed a pile of clean clothes from the kitchen and I heard he was upstairs with a video playing reallllyyyy loudly.

Went up with pile of washing. Noise was coming from bathroom. Shouted out ‘Heyyy!’ Turned corner to bathroom, door was wide open...

DP standing there, audibly watching porn on his phone and rubbing one out.

I was just stood there gawping with this pile of bloody clothes, and then I noticed that he was that far in to it he didn’t even realise I was standing there beside him so I scarpered in to the bedroom.

I sat there for ten minutes panicking and folding these clothes whilst he finished.

I mean, I know he wanks and I know he watches porn as we’ve both told each other we do, but I’ve never caught him in the act and it’s really freaked me out, I’ve never seen him like that before!

Felt dead weird all night, especially when he came to the bedroom and realised I must have walked past at some point and we had a quick chat but I think I’m still in shock.

Please someone make me feel better I don’t know whether to laugh or cry

I'd suggest to him....that if he wanted privacy... that he needed to shut the Bathroom door...

if not.. well...... okaaaay

Just laugh darling... Hey, I shat in front of my husband when I gave birth. Not glamourous but whatevs. Make a joke and as Gemini said, tell him to close the door. 😉

Of course he knew you were there. The open door etc was part if his fun.

Were you at parents evening because you have kids or because you're a teacher? I hope you don't have kids because leaving the door open when they might go past is very wrong

I'd have more of an issue with the porn?

I'd have much more of an issue with the porn too.

I can only assume you are a teacher without any kids coming home from parents evening......otherwise Dad....what are you doing there?????😂😂😂

I wouldn't be cool about this AT ALL! Especially if my kids were in the house!

How uncontrolled can you get? Porn is not on.

I can't imagine being with someone for 4 years and feeling shy/weird about seeing them masturbate.

Don't you communicate about sex??

And yes, I'd have an issue with the porn too.

Aside from that...I hope you don't have children.

I can only assume you are a teacher without any kids coming home from parents evening

I was thinking the exact same thing!

I think what's even more awkward than seeing it is that it's gone unmentioned. You have to say something, OP!!

10 minutes to finish a wank? Amateur.

How could he not notice you're there?! I get being in the moment and all but if someone shouts, twice, and you have the door open and they can see you and you could see them, you know they're there hmm

I'd makea joke and also feel the same as you.

I love how everyone had already jumped to three conclusion that he didn't want privacy and that he'd risk kids seeing him. Doesn't it seem more likely that he just expected OP to come home a bit later?

Hey. I really hear you. I remember the shock I felt when I saw my then OH watching porn for the first time, it sent me for a real emotional loop. There isn’t really a “right response” to this in terms of not knowing whether to laugh or cry.

I suggest you wait a bit until your emotions have evened themself out a touch before you decide whether or not to do anything about this. This is just based on my experience, not because your emotions are wrong in any way. Probably talking to your DH would be wise, whether yo feel angry, confused, aroused, all three, or something else. Any of these responses are okay.

If he is wanking in the manner you describe and had kids at home at the same time I would be really quite concerned but otherwise I would say wait until you get over the initial emotional jolt before deciding whether you need to tackle this at all and how.

Hopefully your lids werent with you

I think I’ll be in a minority, but I don’t really understand the problem? Men (and women!) masturbate. It’s not like you caught him doing something dirty and shameful. I’d have either winked and said “have fun?” when he came back in the room, or offered to help him out!
As a grown woman, I don’t understand why you are almost in tears, folding washing in a panic, when you say you know he does this. Get a grip! (He has )

I think I’ll be in a minority, but I don’t really understand the problem?

sorry to disappoint.. but you're not in the minority.. the act was not the issue.. it was the OPEN door... that was the issue...

@DeltaZulu89 it also wouldn't bother me. I think I would have done similar to what you say. In the nicest possible way, i think it's very naive for women to believe their DHs don't watch porn, especially in this day and age when it's so accessible on your phone; it's literally at your fingertips

You're in "shock?" Really? Why is this even a problem? Silly bloke should have shut the door.

Gemini69, she said the front door was locked, and she hasn’t mentioned any kids or anything, why should he shut the bathroom door? It’s not like it was in the living room or in front of the window. He obviously thought she would be gone longer or he lost track of time, hence the loud video, he wasn’t trying to be an exhibitionist lol. She does say it was the act itself that bothered her as well...

Do you have kids??? We're they in the house??? If so massive issue with him watching porn loudly and wanking with bathroom door open.

Like others have said....any kids in your house? If so this is really shocking. Otherwise, tell him to shut the door next time. Btw the phrase 'rubbing one out' just ewwww.

cherrysherbert...yes I thought the same.
Rubbing one out...horrible.

mushroom you're wrong. Some people don't want to watch people being exploited, abused, and raped, so they don't watch porn. Some of those people are men.