Would you date someone who admits on a second meeting

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They 'occasionally' do cocaine?

Another thing that bothers me is that he told me his 14 year old son has been having sex since he was 12 and he lets him smoke cannabis shock

Jesus wept. That bothers me far more than him taking coke himself. Ditch him, and give social services a call.

Hahaha no

No, I’m so anti drugs

I wouldn't be calling him again but I would be calling SS. Seems that he doesn't do boundaries either.

Cocaine is highly addictive and can kill even after a few uses as it can trigger sudden reactions such as heart attacks. I remember a study in which rhesus monkeys, I think, were given the choice of food or cocaine. A lot of them died as a result.

Do you honestly think I should call SS? And say what? He did also tell me he takes cocaine in front of his son...

I'm starting to struggle with this one.

Ok well report the thread then. Not everyone is good at dating - I have Aspergers ok???!

And?! That in no way explains why you are questioning what to say to SS in the same post as you tell us he takes coke in front of his child. That post has zero to do with dating.

Yes but his son lives with his mum. Do SS listen to such things?

Actually it does explain it. But if you don't know anything about AS then I can see why you might say that. Just don't assume that everyone thinks like you. All of this has unfolded over the last few days. In the beginning he sold me the image of a loving father sending me photos of him hugging his kids and telling me he'd do anything for them.

Graphista, hopefully you see this because I can't tag from my phone.

The person you described further up the thread, was their symptoms and death due to cocaine use?

Hell no.
I think coke users are morally bankrupt. They just want a bit of fun and don't give a fuck about the lives that are destroyed in the process.

I reckon a lot of you here would be surprised about how many of your children's teachers are weekend cocaine users.

It wouldn't surprise me it all. I'm well aware that you can't judge a book by it's cover. Scumbags come in all shapes are sizes.

Wouldn’t surprise me either. I have lots of acquaintances who do it, from all sorts of professions. Still think it’s scummy.

No my exbil was an ‘occasional’ only on a night out user he is now completely addicted and can only see his dd through a contact centre. Leave well alone, for the pp’s that think it’s harmless and most don’t get addicted Some do!

Nope. No way. I wouldn’t date anyone who used any illicit drugs. Even weed. It’s a dealbreaker. Same goes for someone who drinks or gets drunk regularly. I hold absolutely no judgment towards anyone who uses drugs or alcohol heavily, each to their own. I just don’t want it in my relationship.

floatingwhale, thats abit different from actually dating someone who does it.

Well I did as you all suggested and reported him and he has figured out it was me and is now frothing from his drug den.

I am quite scared. How should I deal with this?

How do you know he thinks it was you?

One of his friends has told me. Next time I'll just keep my mouth shut. I don't need for me and my family to be at risk.

Has he been arrested then? What exactly has happened to him?

I don't know. At least he doesn't know where I live.

Why are his friends updating you? How do they have your number? Do you know them anyway? Just say ' I've broken up with x now, we just didn't click.' and if you know them from before the dating why didn't they tell you he did coke?

Why would he think it's you? I should think he talked for Britain whilst high so can't possibly know / remember whom he blabbed about his junkie ways to/ he told you in the 2nd date so it's hardly a secret is it? and his ds probably tells his friends about it, so it could be a parent. You've had a lucky escape.