Would you date someone who admits on a second meeting

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They 'occasionally' do cocaine?

Another thing that bothers me is that he told me his 14 year old son has been having sex since he was 12 and he lets him smoke cannabis I have a 14 year old girl and I would be horrified at the notion of her taking any drug. I know you can't stop teenagers having sex if they are determined but 12???

No fucking way.

I mean...unless you want to be talked at every time you go out and have to deal with them wandering around a party asking if everyone thinks it’s would be “totally hilarious” to phone Steve and get some coke. Then crouching in the floor ramming it up their nose followed by rubbing it on their gums.

Plus the money, the illegal aspect, the health and death risk and not to mention the ethics.

My best friend is going out with a coke head and everyone thinks he is a gobshite.

Oh dear God. You posted here about coke use when he told you he supplies drugs to his son! Of course you shouldn't date him.

Nope. It's rule number 3 for improving my mental health, no junkies.

@Meganc559 you need to do some reading. Start with this: www.theguardian.com/society/2018/jul/31/middle-class-cocaine-users-are-hypocrites-says-met-chief-cressida-dick

Cocaine users are complicit in murder, child slavery, smuggling and environmental destruction - and more. Never mind dating someone who uses it, I couldn't be friends with anyone who used it.

I also think someone telling a person on a second date that they are an “occasional” class A drugs user, is potentially an abusive fuck.
If you don’t immediately block and delete him, he will take it as read that you’re easy to walk all over because you have zero standards or self worth. It’s a pretty savvy way of him saving time whilst looking for someone to treat like shit.

No, run for the hills.

I would have found it a turn off at 18, 25 and 36. No. What a twat.

Another thing that bothers me is that he told me his 14 year old son has been having sex since he was 12 and he lets him smoke cannabis

That's 'another thing' alright. Is there anything else?

Noooooooooo

So drug user and dealer to his own child ! Not to mention the fact that he is supportive of a 12 year old having sex..! Please tell me you're not going to continue dating this piece of scum?!!

Another thing that bothers me is that he told me his 14 year old son has been having sex since he was 12 and he lets him smoke cannabis

Block. Delete. Move on.
Get well rid and never think of him again.
If you had sex with him get yourself tested.

No I'm not seeing him again! I'm horrified about his poor son - I'm sure SS wouldn't look favourably on his parenting to say the least. And yet he tried so hard to come across as the lovely family oriented dad with warm fuzzy pictures of him and his kids.

No thank you

I'm not anti drugs but coke in particular is a drug that really changes people. I don't like it and can't be bothered dealing with someone and their come downs, they chat shit, it's expensive and just sucks the fun out of life when you're not the one high as a kite and feeling awesome

Look at Witney Houston - deceased proof that you can spend $20M on cocaine...

No. There are nearly 7 billion people on this planet. ”Pick one that doesn't take recreational drugs.”

Umm... being pedantic here, sorry, but that would mean a non-drinking, non-smoking partner too.

Although I would also not want to be with someone who dabbled in cocaine / weed / ketamine / heroin / uppers / whatever either.

I don't have a problem with occasional coke use.
But i would steer away from a "cool dad" who encourages his son to smoke weed. What a wanker.

No I wouldn't date someone who takes drugs, it's incompatible with my lifestyle and family and I'm perfectly happy to be labelled judgemental if that makes people with lower standards feel better.

Quite a drip feed about his son. That tells me way more about him as a person than what could (in isolation, but the drip feed reveals that drugs are central to his way of life) be an occasional social use of coke. Surprised the drip feed wasn’t your headline ask.

Actually, were you asking WWYD for advice, or just a hypothetical chat?

It wasn't a drip feed, it came out in a text after I started this thread.

I've blocked him

I think OP you have done the right thing. Good job you found out sooner than later.

Oh, sorry for accusing you of drip feeding!
Blocking him was the right thing to do. Onwards and upwards!

I know people who take recreational drugs very occasionally. It's not very important to them. If the subject came up during a second date I'd assume they had a drug problem. It's not something you'd bring up until it became relevant.