Would you date someone who admits on a second meeting

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They 'occasionally' do cocaine?

I met a guy once in Substance Misuse Prevention who had been extremely wealthy and lost it all to drugs - started with coke I believe - being a millionaire doesn't protect you from the fallout of drug addiction it just gives you further to fall

Hell no.

There'd be no way. For me it says absolutely nothing positive about the person but says a whole load of thing about them I find a huge turn off. Listening to them try to persuade me it was a casual normal thing and just for fun would be very boring as well, when its very dangerous and he has no idea what he is really taking. It show's a lack of critical thinking and some weird priorities. Don't do it OP! Imagine being around him when he's on it and what a prat he'd presumably look and sound.

I used to - he had constant nosebleeds, wanted to be out every weekend on binges getting in at 7am and not doing anything the next day. Yes he held down a professional job but always struggled to get out of bed.

Also I find groups of men in their late thirties or early forties that do coke are quite immature and reluctant to give up their party lifestyles and settle down. The guy I dated was 42 and still seemed to want the party to go on forever, despite the fact that a lot of his friends that didn't do drugs were marrying, having children etc. He seemed to think they were all boring but to me it was like carrying on dancing in a nightclub when the lights were on and everyone else had gone home. That in itself was a major turn off in the end.

I know loads of people who take cocaine as an occasional party thing. I don’t, stopped because of the lives it wrecks smuggling it in, not because it affects those middle class creative and city types. People really do use it re recreationally and socially without descending into squalor and crime.

But I wouldn’t be impressed if it was a necessary part of our nights out.

No, I wouldn't. Drugs make you a fucking bore.

Graphista , I agree that your attitude towards 'recreational' drugs changes massively if you've seen first hand the devastation it causes.

No I wouldnt but then ive never touched any drugs. not my thing.

No

Hell no.

It's only a second date. Why would you bother, when there are plenty more much better bets out there.

(Only been out with one drugs user. Far and away the nastiest man I've ever been involved with. And druggies in general - I knew a lot when I was a student/young academic - are mostly complete losers who drag those around them down.)

No, no, no!

Throw this one back op

No, not in a million years.

Absolutely NO! Run for the hills

No!

No but at least he/she has had the decency to tell you now and you didn't find out what 'occasionally' may be further down the line....

Oddcat - exactly! I've lost someone to drug addiction and contrary to the way it's often portrayed in tv/film it's NOT always quick, it can take years! And I don't mean the addiction takes years I mean an od/bad batch can take years to kill them! During which time they can be semi-comatose or in and out of coma, or having repeated heart attack, strokes etc. NOT pretty and NOT at all glamorous when you can't control your bladder and bowel, let alone arms and legs! Or even need them amputated!

Vile stuff! Illegal for damn good reason imo

Wouldn’t bother me but if it bothers you then fuck him off.

I'm trying to find someone decent and people with drug issues are boring. I did think that probably he was minimising tbh. Thanks for your replies.

Google 'county lines'. He's complicit.

Yes.

County lines is to with the horrible murders that happen far up the chain? That makes it even worse. I've never in my life taken any drug. I just don't see the appeal.

I really don't mind occasional drug use if it genuinely was occasional. Don't have an issue with it. To be honest I'd rather it was coke than cannabis

Absolutely not. To me “occasionally “ means “actually quite a lot but I’m trying to break it to you gently”. Move on OP.

Yes MrsExpo I 100% agree. For someone to be doing a drug like cocaine they must have the contacts to buy it for a start.