Would you date someone who admits on a second meeting

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They 'occasionally' do cocaine?

Sorry, the thread had moved on while I was considering my comment. Glad to hear you've blocked him. The information about his son is horrifying.

He's sharing all this to test your boundaries. And now he knows where those boundaries are. Well done, OP.

No

Nope. Definitely a deal breaker for me as I wouldn't tolerate any drug use.

Nope, I'm getting divorced because my dh occasionally takes cocaine. It only gets worse in my opinion op.

I probably would have in my early twenties, but now I'm older (and boring) and have kids they just wouldn't fit in with my lifestyle at all. I hope they enjoy themselves, but it's not compatible for my life

A no here as well.

There are billions of men on the planet. There’s no need to settle for a crap one

'He's sharing all this to test your boundaries'

I honestly had no idea until I joined MN that people do this. It's shocking actually.

Depends on context. Mid twenties, no kids, actually occasional use and not regular? Wouldn't bother me. But a father in his thirties, no. (It's not that I think drug use should be limited to young people, but that there are inherent risks that I believe someone with children should weigh up as too dangerous).

Definitely not- it can cause serious mental health issues, aside from all the other things that everyone has mentioned.

Genuine occasional use wouldn't be an issue for me. What would be an issue would how they behaved when using and were they able to afford it, having lived for many years with a man who became aggressive when using and left us destitute.
However I also dated a man who used very occasionally and never had an ounce of shit behavior on it, also could afford it.

@bakingdemon
Everyone is entitled to an opinion I m just saying it wouldn't bother me to date someone that was a good person but had it now and again. If people are an arsehole when they take it, usually they re an arsehole without it.
I would much rather be around people who had had a bit of coke than be over them selves drunk

And I read the article, I bet there's more cases of "disorderly behaviour" with links to alcohol.

Again it's just an opinion

I might, depends how much is occasionally.

No way. Who wants a rotten-nosed coke head as their bloke? Coke is very addictive and it will always be more important to him than you are anyway

Having partied a lot in my mis spent sad youth, who am I to judge.

Having had kids, it is all different and reading your post about his son I'm appalled.

Once spent an evening with friends all taking coke, one tried to convince me to join them. I'd just had a miscarried and was still breastfeeding.

Eventually we drifted. Never got over that.

Nope.

There are billions of men on the planet. There’s no need to settle for a crap one

Love this. Everyone should have this as their mantra !

It's just not possible to have a thread on mn about alcohol, cigarettes and rec drugs without the predicable outrage and dramatic responses.

"A drug user, is a potential abuser"
Wind your fuckn neck in.
There are a lot of drugs used and abused throughout the world everyday, some legal some illegal.

"I take it occasionally"

"Whenever I'm tired"

Either this guy sleeps like a baby or he snorts like a banker.

Absolutely nope. No way.

I will not be continuing this relationship.

This what? After date 2?!

I smoke occasionally. I drink socially, too. I don't smoke weed but I'm not bothered if it's smoked around me. I draw the line at associating with cokeheads tho.

If it's comes up that early I would bet it's more than occasional. So no.

No to drugs, and no more dates !

Coke is highly addictive and very problematic for users. Almost instantly altering the brain permanently

It isn't physically addictive as some drugs are. You are confusing cocaine with crack cocaine. It can be psychologically addictive. I dabbled in it at university and thoroughly enjoyed myself!

However aged 37 with two kids he should be old enough to know better.