Would you date someone who admits on a second meeting

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They 'occasionally' do cocaine?

Nah. Mid 30s with kids? Not a chance!

Walk away...... don't look back.
Not your problem to resolve - prob why he's no longer with the mother of his children. He did not and does not want want to be helped.

A bag of coke costs at least £50 to my knowledge?

I can understand teenagers and young adults doing this at at party or on a night out as it's so common now but a man of 30 or so with kids?

Nah, not for me, that £50 could buy a day out. Or a kids uniform or a coat. Anything actually for the kids.

Also if in a second date he is saying occasionally, he means every time he goes
Out with his mates at least and he is sounding you out. If you said it's fine with you, he will be offering you some and getting you to buy it with him and he will use your relationship as another opportunity to take coke.

It wouod depend what ‘occasionally’ means.
If it’s once every 3 years, that’s one thing.
If it’s once every weekend that’s another.

No I woulden't

Absolutely no way.

bag of coke costs at least £50 to my knowledge?

How big is a bag? A gram? 5g? A pound?

In the context here, no.

If he was someone you were seeing casually and did not want a future with I guess some people might be OK with that.

If "occasionally" has been acknowledged upfront the word occasionally is likely a massive understatement and reality equals "shitfaced most weekends having banter with the lads" a more likely tale

Yes I would, but it depends on your lifestyle choices.

I do it with DH very very occasionally and it's no issue, but if I didn't take drugs I couldn't be with someone who did

It costs roughly £50 a gram depending on where you are in the country. But an occasional user would be unlikely to want a gram to themselves. Most likely, it would be split two or three ways. Whereas a proper addict might be spending £100 - £300 a weekend on it, which I have witnessed.

No

I wouldn't.
If he's admitting to using it at all he's looking for a junkie buddy. Steer clear.

He says he only does it when he's tired.

I think he's probably one of those people who does it because he's insecure.

Having dabbled at uni, I came away with the realization that coke - in many different ways - is a particularly dirty drug. I know a few people who still do it occasionally in our mid-thirties and I think it's really sad. I definitely wouldn't date anyone who still did it - but then I wouldn't date a smoker either. I'd steer very clear OP!

No. There are nearly 7 billion people on this planet. Pick one that doesn't take recreational drugs.

'If he's admitting to using it at all he's looking for a junkie buddy. Steer clear.'

Oh really? Gosh I think I'm quite naive about drug users.

I think he's probably one of those people who does it because he's insecure.

Diddums. 🍼👶🏻

Melting - how do you mean?

I'm not sorry for him - that's not what I mean!

Me personally I would ditch him.

Depends on your circumstances though like your age, your lifestyle---his age, his lifestyle.

I'm 38 and he's 37. I will not be continuing this relationship. I can't be with a drug addict.

Another definite no here!

He says he only does it when he's tired. I think he's probably one of those people who does it because he's insecure.

Oh dear god, just give him your savings and car keys now and save yourself months of heartache.

I wouldn't, no.