Added myself to dh and ow fb chat - part 2

[MissMarpleMyArse]

My first thread received so much support that I've been advised to make another one due to the number of messages. I knew my dh was up to no good, added myself to their Facebook chat and blew it all up.....

I only just found this second thread, I hope you are OK OP, and the flu hasn’t left you too wiped out Keep your chin up.

@PleaseJustSayNo - to see if she's ok!

I found out that my husband was having an affair too just after Christmas (via messages between them both).
I was advised by my solicitor that to file for divorce under adultery, i would have to prove that they had been having sex. I'm not stupid and fully expect that they were but proving that is almost impossible unless one of their messages had specifically said "we are sleeping together".
I decided, for my own sanity, to wait 2 years and divorce more amicably. A messy, bitter divorce isn't what I or our children need after everything else. He know what he did and so does she.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do next x

Hi everyone. Thanks for thinking of me. I've been so bloody ill, had to go to hospital because I couldn't breathe properly. They did a chest X-ray and said I had pneumonia and put me in a antibiotic drip and oxygen. Then another doctor cane round in the morning and said she thought it was bronchitis and I could go that day. Still feel like death warmed up but glad to be home.
My mum and the girls have been amazing. He offered to move back in to help but we all declined.
I think having read all of the advice I will just keep everything to myself and see a solicitor. If I ever feel better. I can't believe you have to prove they've had sex to go for adultery, but I don't want her felling that important so I'll just do what I need to to get out of this sham of a marriage.
Thanks again for all the advice, you lot are amazing too xx

Hope you feel better soon MissMarple - glad you're surrounded by other strong women!

Get better soon Marple! We're all thinking of you

I hope you feel better soon, the Marple Army is behind you and ready for when you feel more like yourself x

til your ready for and a

I am 6 months down the line and filed under adultery. He is ignoring the papers which include a declaration of admission. I will now be going down the route of unreasonable behaviour and to be honest i’m Now happier about that as it will tell the whole story. My advice would be to not rush your decisions. Really hope you feel better soon xx

Hope u feel better soon miss marple

Get well soon xx

Get well soon OP you have done amazingly well I'm sure he will find out soon enough that you know about the hotel. But as another PP said it will be a proper mind fffff!

Get well soon @MissMarpleMyArse x

Feel better soon lass.

Wishing you a speedy recovery

By the the way does any one else think he was a piece of sh1t trying to use her illness to worm his way back in! What a manipulative scum bag

He offered to move back in to help but we all declined. That must have stung

He offered to move back in to help

Oh how kind of him. Prick. Hope you feel better soon OP. Silver lining? It's doubtful you'll ever feel worse than you do right now. The only way is up.

will now be going down the route of unreasonable behaviour

My understanding is that most family solicitors go down the unreasonable behaviour route. I think you can just use wording like " The respondent formed a secretive relationship with a married woman to the petitioner's distress" or "The respondent exchanged secret messages of an overtly sexual
nature with married woman to the petitioner's distress" etc

The mechanics of the grounds are a small part of the legal side really, the main bit is unravelling finances and care of children etc.

Hope that's not upsetting but hope it may be helpful. You have been a complete legend. A Mum
At school is going through something similar with some violence thrown in too, and she was diagnosed with pneumonia. It seems the initial shock and strain translate into a physical illness, but she is a few months on now and is definitely on the up- looking fab in fact.

Get well soon MMMA

MissMarpleMyArse sounds like all the stress has built up and knocked you for six....take it easy and hope you start feeling better soon.

Get better soon, MMMA!!! You have an army of us should you ever need our virtual support, and your mum sounds like Wonder Woman too!

Consentrate on getting better, put yourself first for once

You are a star OP. Get yourself well💐. You don’t need to do, or say, anything for a while. Keep your powder dry and all that.

Read yr last thread and although sorry to hear you are ill well done for batting him off. You prob feel shit but you have an inner strength and will get through this. Take care