Added myself to dh and ow fb chat - part 2

[MissMarpleMyArse]

My first thread received so much support that I've been advised to make another one due to the number of messages. I knew my dh was up to no good, added myself to their Facebook chat and blew it all up.....

Ooh @pinkandstripey good point!

Ring the hotel and ask what they ate? I did this, found out what she ate and the husband confirmed what she would normally order!

Good for you OP. You're handling this so very well. I'm glad you gave him the choice of knowing everything. He deserves to know.

It amazes me the control people have over people, if I was ow husband, I wouldn't be waiting for her to drop off to sleep to grab her thumb to chk the phone .. if she has nothing to hide the slag bag should just hand it over!! I recon he'l believe her bull shit but I pray her visit to premier inn is on there get outta that!! but like always once cracks are there you can re plaster as many times as you like but the cracks always come back.

You are one amazing lady and fist pump to you x

MissMarple you have nothing to be sorry for, you are showing the slags husband what kind of lying bastards this pair of losers are.

I hope Karma bites both of them damn hard, they both deserve everything coming there way. Vile idiots. Lovely to read your girls are being supportive - bless them

Fucking hell OP. What an eventful day! Snuggling on the sofa sounds like a perfect way to end the day!!

You have been brave and strong. I admire you so much. I know it's an awful, horrendous situation but you really have done this with such class.

I suspect OWH merely wants to confirm things in a less confrontational manner. I would do it this way. I would sneak the phone away and then I would have plenty of time, without pressure, to look where I wanted to look. I'd have plenty of time to absorb it without someone standing over me going "Are you finished yet?"

He's going to keep manipulating you. His ego won't let him believe this was his fault. Keep strong Miss Marple!

You’re a woman and a half op.

PlinkPlink - totally this. Being able to check through everything calmly without having to lock yourself in the bathroom whilst the other person carries on outside. My poor friend's experience.

he does not trust her to allow him into her phone.. he knows she will lie manipulate and deceive... his idea of the night time thumb trick is cool... good luck to him lol

Who cares about alibis and the ow. You’ve torched the whole thing (totally agree that was the right thing to do) but what ow and her own poor dh do from now on is irrelevant and you don’t need their drama on top of yours. You don’t need more reasons or evidence, you already know the truth.

Weirdly, the thing that I found myself obsessing about when this happened in similar fashion was not all the times he had been with ow but all the times we’d done family stuff and he’d pretended like it was all normal.

Even if they didn’t meet that day he still lied to you, went to dinner (at a price that probably suggests he wasn’t alone) and stayed in a hotel. At a time when he had the house to himself...

what an idiot he is.

OP you are amazing

@pinkandstripey I thought that too.

OP I really hope there isn't another woman involved but it could just be messages between the two you found the other day

I perhaps phrased it badly. You know where he was and how much he spent, don't doubt yourself if it turns out he wasn't with that OW.

OP you are both brave and clever and your DDS have a great Mum.
Focus on yourself now. The other H has the information and this is now their story. Think about what you want to happen next for you and your girls.

I hope you've had a lovely evening with your DD. You deserve it.

And I hope the OW's husband gets the answers he needs tonight; he deserves to know for certain so he can decide what he wants to do, too.

OP what grace you've had through this, it's really admirable. Even down to the way you're handling this fornyour girls. It must be so hard to stay silent to them but you're doing the right thing. Calm and measured is far scarier than crazy and out of control.

You are amazing OP

Ive also been following your thread OP and you are one amazing lady though I do miss your mum!!!
Hugs to you and your kids

The ow husband will appreciate you telling him definitely...glad to see yours is now at least trying for some contrition. About a week too late like...
Thinking of you op-it's the worst of times tbh-but you will come through x

OP you are an amazingly brace woman. Please stay strong! Sending lots of hugs and wine.

I am sure OW's H is grateful for your messages. I hope you hear from him soon.

@BackInTheRoom

Ring the hotel and ask what they ate? I did this, found out what she ate and the husband confirmed what she would normally order!

Really?