Added myself to dh and ow fb chat - part 2

[MissMarpleMyArse]

My first thread received so much support that I've been advised to make another one due to the number of messages. I knew my dh was up to no good, added myself to their Facebook chat and blew it all up.....

You deserve a medal for not going batshit. Those two will get their comeuppance

@MissMarpleMyArse

I think you are an inspiration to anyone who will ever have to face making awful, difficult decisions.

I'm sure everyone reading this is willing you to heal and recover but please know that by posting here, you are also helping so many people.

I am 10 yrs on from your position and I'm glad I saw it through even when I thought had no strength left.

Lots of love to you x

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I've found this thread so difficult to read at times with the other posters comments but honestly, what shines through, MMMA is your strength and dignity. I wish you were my RL friend .

Love and strength to you. X

@YearOfYouRemember I so agree with you !
OP you are genuinely so gracious in all of this . I lost my absolute shit at my ex , It’s a good job he doesnt live in my city as I know I would have been done on a murder charge or two I probably fall into the category of “rough women” as one of the previous posters mentioned 😂.

I’m midlands based so if you’re ever close let me know because I’d love to buy you a dam drink 🥃

It’s been a rollercoaster reading your thread OP, but you really are handling it so graciously. You’ve done the right thing contacting the other H, he has every right to know. Just wanted to send you some virtual and say you’re doing brilliantly, it’s a horrendous situation.

What a woman you are!!! Well done you for being so brave! Take the bitch down I say!!

MissMarpleMyArse

you did the right thing... you've done the right thing from beginning to end.. I support every decision you have made lovely.... sending hugs

Hope you're okay op

I genuinely think you did the right thing. I know its so hard though. x

Gosh how hard OP! Hats off to you!

My only question now is, why is he waiting for her to sleep to getting print... if I was him I'd have been demanding the phone off her there and then to check, he's acting like he's done something wrong

If you can engineer this into a conversation with the OW husband, he may have the date of his wife's night away in a text message from her. She would have been quite brazen to call him on the said night?

Thanks so so much everyone. I can't put into words how much this means to me.
Maybe I should buy you all a drink and put it on his bloody credit card!!
I don't know why the husband wouldn't just take her phone, I did wonder as that's what I did. Maybe it's as simple as she would say no.
DD2 has just made me the irresistible offer of snuggling up on the sofa with her, a fluffy blanket and hot chocolate to watch tv. Sounds the perfect end to a crap day.

I don’t even drink but I’ll have a bottle of something expensive if he’s paying!

Just as an aside, if you have a joint account then charity chuggers are always around ready to take bank account details XH couldn’t work out why he was donating to about 16 different charities

That sounds lovely, enjoy your evening

combatbarbie I would guess because he doesn't want any hystrionics, wants to see any evidence in his own time and then decide what to do.

He's not acting like he's done something wrong at all. He's taking a measured approach. Poor bloke.

I've been following your story OP and I have to say you are incredible, the way you have handled this has been amazing.

You are one strong woman!

Take the bitch down I say!! 😂😂😂 I proper lold reading that , thanks @whymewhyme

Has anyone seen that film where two men meet on a train and agree to kill each other’s wives do that the original Husbands would have an alibi and it would be difficult to prove a connection? I have often thought that MN should start a vigilante group where we take on other MN users husbands and ow 😂 imagine !

OW: “I was in Tescos walking down the food isle and this stranger accosted me and forced my head full force into the freezer! She then kept closing the door repeatedly on my head , it was terrifying !”

Cheating Husband : “fucking hell ! Well I was ran over at a zebra crossing today , I flew straight over the bonet... what is wrong with society eh?!”

It must be refreshing to know that at least two out of the four adults can be open and honest with each other!

I think you did the kind thing in letting OWH know. She could have strung him along long term and he may have been oblivious to it all

Enjoy your chocolatey snuggly evening 🍫

@MissMarple I have just caught up on all of today’s threads! Wow what a day you have had!!

You have stayed so calm and composed through all of this. Your H is a twat to jeapordise all of this for “a slow wank” although you now know it is much more.
More than anything right now you should be so proud of how you have taught your daughters to respect themselves and never be treated this way as thy grow, take strength from the lessons you are teaching them.

Stay strong

Mine's a pint! Thanks knobhead.

Miss Marple you are a legend but I’m sure it’s horrendous in real life.

I know you have evidence now but there may well be more if you think it dates back 6-7 months? I’d keep your eyes on those credit card/bank statements/nights when you were away and see what else you can find. He is a liar and a cheat. Good luck x

Sounds like he wants to believe her in that there was nothing physical going on even when confronted with the evidence.

My ex swore that she wasn't sleeping around and I wanted to believe her and despite catching glimpses of her messaging other men wanted to believe her. Now time has passed since she ended things with me I am certain she was sleeping with at least one other guy. Women like this have a way about them that intoxicates men, their habits are very enticing to most men and they are able to lie with such ease. I doubt her husband will want to lose her but he will never be able to look at her the same. If he looks on Whatsapp and sees her online he will always be wondering who she is messaging. Even if he forgives her it won't last as he won't have the mental strength in the end.

He will be desperate for her to fall asleep now as all I wanted to do when I knew she was messaging other guys was have a quick snoop but I could never bring myself to do it.

I hate to mention this - but what if OW has a rock solid alibi for that night? He may not have been with her that night...

Good on u OP

You are doing so well OP