How often do you speak with your OH/Husbands during the day?

[WhiteRosesAndSunflowers]

I'm a SAHM, but before having children (when both OH and I worked), OH and I used to regularly message and text throughout the course of the day.

Since having DC's, contact is absolutely minimal, though not through lack of me trying! I've tried telling OH that every so often, I'd like a quick 'Hey, how you doing? Are the kids behaving?' type message, nothing over the top or lengthy, just a little hello would do! After we've had these chats about me liking a little more communication throughout the week, he'll make an effort for a few days, then it's right back to not hearing from him again.

I understand his main focus and priority when he's at work, is and should be, his work, so I'm under no illusion that he should be constantly tied to his phone, chatting away to me. But, we could easily go Mon-Fri and I wouldn't hear a peep out of him.
It's particularly frustrating as I know there are several times throughout the day when he's using Instagram, meaning he's not completely run ragged and physically doesn't have the time to stop and check his phone, as he has time to browse social media.

I don't want or expect constant phone calls or long running texts, but I would appreciate him seeing how I'm doing once in a while, particularly as our 2DC's are very young so my days at home with them are often pretty hard going, so a little message from him asking if I'm alright would mean a lot.

When he gets home from work, he's loving and chatty, so I can't complain there, it just literally feels like the moment he leaves the house in the morning, I'm forgotten about and that it doesn't matter if I'm having a good or a bad day.

I've spoken with a few friends about it and they've said their husbands usually tend to phone them on their lunch break, or will message them back in the afternoons when they catch five minutes.

I just wondered if anyone else out there has partners/husbands who literally never contact them and how common it is to not hear from your OH all day/all week? While it does bother me, I've now learned to live with it, but still intrigued to see how many others go through this.

I work away in the week and to be truth I feel hounded by constant Whats App messages. Morning when I am at the hotel, thought it would drop off after a few months. I try not to answer but it has become the norm.

Me and my DH both work FT but we speak to eachother in general 2 or 3 times most days, sometimes more than that and the odd time not at all if one or both of us are really busy. Sometimes we've got an email conversation going too. I wouldn't say either of us are the needy type, we just like talking to eachother, usually it about what time we'll be back that day (it varies) what the kids have on and who can drop them/collect them do dinner etc

weeeell...try to ask him again if wont text you and wont answer. Something like "I know that you are doing very important stuff and very busy at work, but I will be very pleased if you will be answering my messages and just writing something during the day. It makes me happy to talk with you"...

And I hope you know that he is not writing because he doesnt want to. Not because he is busy or forgot or phone died. If man wants to write, he will write you from the moon. Just dont make drama out of it, dont attack him and dont look needy. Kindly ask him and thats it, if he cares, he will do.

Me and my OH don't live together but we speak about 4/5 times during the day, texts and speak before going to sleep. I know some people who talk every other day but we check in regularly to see how the other one is doing.

We both work and text 3 times usually. Once to see how nursery drop off went / thank the other for doing it. Second on lunch break to see how morning has been. Last to see how afternoon is, confirm who is doing afternoon nursery run, check times we’ll be home and decide on dinner.

On my non-working day it usually stays at 3 texts but more for him to see how dc is etc.

Neither gets funny if the other doesn’t text as it’s assumed they’re having a really busy day. But if we can we like to check in with each other.