My husband cheated my with an escort

[Desp1980]

I’m married with my DH for 10 years and we have 2 beautiful children. Two days ago I found a message in his phone with a woman’s name, address and web page. It seemed he visited an escort and when I questioned him regarding this message he denied everything saying that it never happened. I visited the webpage mentioned in the message and I discovered a review which it seemed to be written by him. In this review he wrote that he doesn’t find me attractive anymore because I have put weight but at least he wrote that he loves me. What should I do? Should I forgive or divorce him?

Compostcorner you are trying desperately to justify your actions....other people get violent?! Well jolly gosh isn't your wife lucky she picked you.

The reality is unless you tell her and justify your choices to her, no one else opinions should matter. I suspect she wouldn't be quite as thankful as you make out she should be.

Go tell her this and come back to us 🙄

It's not unusual for women to lose interest in sex after menopause. Has she talked to her GP/is she open to seeking medical assistance?

If not, I'm not sure how one visit to a prostitute is a solution long term. Repeating it is something that risks your marriage and is unethical - (and also, I don't understand how you can want to have sex with someone you have to pay, who doesn't want you - how can that be good for your own self-image?)

Surely there are better alternatives. Like agreeing an open relationship, or splitting up amicably.

other people might seek solace in drink and get blind drunk, other people might get violent if they dont get what they want, at the end of the day i want my wife to get better, and to get back to having a normal relationship, i dont want to take the easy option and leave her

You really are a hero, you know that?

You don't beat her because she doesn't want sex.
You don't get drunk.
You haven't left her.

You really are a living saint.

All you've done is treated another woman as a commodity and not a human being. Someone whose body is on offer for the right price and available to you out of desperation.

Congratulations.

So sorry you are going through this! Whatever you decide to do going forward, you need to throw him out for a bit/forever now. He needs a clear message and you need time to think.

This post breaks my heart! I was sat here considering writing a post about how my husband left his phone screen on in the bathroom and when I was in there I saw it was on porn and then I thought let me have a little look at history and he was looking for local hookups with older women.

Make sure he was looking/googling for the hookups. He might have got pop ups for that when looking on porn sites anyway.

Hope you're OK. You are right, I always think how different it would be if men actually carried and gave birth to children.

You should:

1. Divorce him
2. Take all his money
3. Lose some weight
4. Find a young handsome boyfriend
5. Drive together with your boyfriend everyday outside your ex’s house