I got a creepy message from an acquaintances husband last night

[Cockapoomummy]

I’ve another thread about how he did it (Facebook messenger). I’ve blocked him.

Should I tell her though?

I’m divorced, early days dating someone if that’s relevant.

Screen shot it and send it directly to her. Then he can't worm his way out of it

I don’t want to fling shit for no reason but if I was her I’d want to know, I think.

It was an inappropriate comment (I think)

What was the comment? Is there any ambiguity, or just straight an off comment?

I'd probably screenshot and send her it, I definitely would if there was no room for confusion about it being dodgy.

Along the lines of

Do you not speak to me anymore? Saw you at the dump you drive a red Peugeot I recognised your cute ass.

I replied with sorry didn’t see you how are x and the kids

He replied with x yapping as usual no change there

I said must go I’m heading out here.

And blocked him.

Forward it to his wife and say “ I think this was meant for you.”

Oh and I’ve changed my car at least twice since I would have seen him other than him stalker watching me.

What a creep. Yes, send the screenshot to his wife.

We used to share lifts to brownies. The girls in question are 20/21now so it’s a long long time since I had anything to do with him or his wife.

I’m really rattled tbh.

I wouldn’t tell her. It’s pathetic & maybe he is testing the waters but you have shut him down & that should be the end of it.

He saw you in passing at the tip, messaged you and made a stupid comment about your ass. He’s a creep but nothing to be rattled about. Why would you be really rattled?

You shouldn't have replied - being polite (which I know os hard not to do), makes him think it is okay to speak to you like that.
If I was his wife I'd want to know my h was trawling and sniffing around women I know.

I have had a stalker. The police had to be involved.

Why am I nit allowed to be rattled when someone I hardly know is noting my car make and messaging me with creepy comments?

mum - you wouldn't be rattled by that?

I would be rattled by that.

I’m a single parent. I live alone, with two teenaged girls. Well one is 20.

I have a random man I haven’t heard from on over 10 years who is Previn over me, watching what Car I drive and making sexualised comments.

I had a stalker who tormented me for months. I’m scared.

He obviously saw you get in a red Peugeot, it’s hardly noting the make in some way. I can recognise most car makes at a glance, certainly wouldn’t have to look closely at a car to know what it was. If he’d noted the registration I would think it damn strange but saying you got in a red Peugeot is like saying you got on a blue bus; there are hundreds of them all over the place.

You have every right to be rattled.
I would wait and see whether he tries to contact you again, before I informed his wife.
However, I don't think you should keep this to yourself, confide in someone you trust.

The "cute ass" comment is well out of order.

The mentioning he saw you & your type of car less so.

Some men think divorced women are fair game. Yuck!

*perving

I am scared. I don’t know why he had to take note of my bum at the dump - I had joggers and an old top on. No make up. Hair scraped back. I’m nervous that he knows what Car I drive. Why? Why does he need to make notice of that?

I was at the dump because I’m moving house next week so he won’t know where I live after Wednesday.

No I wouldn’t be rattled by that. A know what car half the members in my local gym drive because I’ve seen them park up, not because I’m perving at them.

I have a guy who sends me similar messages via messenger. He’s not married but is in a relationship and has a newborn child. I just ignore his messages, I feel sorry for his girlfriend, he’s always posting on Facebook about how in love they are 😐

Why are you scared? Agree with Mum11970, he sent a pervy message and you blocked him, likely to be the end of it do you think? Are you likely to seen him/the family again.

I would want to know. At the very least, I would feel like it was an indicator that I need to keep a closer eye on my husband and perhaps get my ducks in order for a 'just in case' scenario.

Try not to over think it. I agree with the comments about men thinking divorced women are fair game. You've blocked him and he shouldn't have any other way of getting in touch now.
I don't know what i would do re the wife. It's really embarrassing for her that he's being so pathetic. She might want to know cos he sounds like a disrespectful pig.

I’m scared. I had a stalker. For over 2 years he tormented me. Following me. Messages from Facebook account after Facebook account. Phone calls from with held numbers. Cards through my door. Flowers to work. Vile posting on fb. Messages to my hr dwp in work. Emails to my work email.

I’m scared. It’s 3 years since he stopped and I’m always scared he will start up again.

So yes, I’m scared when some random starts noting my car and my movements.

*dept