I got a creepy message from an acquaintances husband last night

[Cockapoomummy]

I’ve another thread about how he did it (Facebook messenger). I’ve blocked him.

Should I tell her though?

I’m divorced, early days dating someone if that’s relevant.

How did he manage to contact you if you changed your phone three years ago and haven't had contact with his wife for more than 10 years?

Maybugger it was via ducking Facebook messenger. I’ve had the same Facebook for fucking years.

He and his wife both used to be on my Facebook because we were acquaintances and our kids went to the same fucking brownies. I had them on my Facebook as we used to bloody lift share.

Ffs.

Through FB, Maybugger

The OP can't have had her messages set to friends only.

And the kids are still vaguely friendly and i think I would have heard if they were divorced. But they might have I suppose.

I am second guessing if I shouldn’t have replied at all and feeling incredibly guilty that I did. Is that encouraging him?

Yes it's totally encouraging him and if something happens to you then it will be all your fault!

Jesus Christ people! Can we stop with the victim-blaming and the dissection of the OPs actions?

Who cares whether she should have or should have not replied? He's the one who shouldn't have messaged her like that!

As for there being nothing creepy about noting the make of her car? How many of you here have mentioned the make of someone's car to someone you haven't seen for years? Hands up! Now keep your hand up if you accompanied it with a comment on their cute ass!

No one ? Didn't think so.

OP, you're understandably rattled, but the chances are he's just trying it on. You've done fine. Replied tersely, blocked him, and you're moving away. Keep the screenshot but I'm pretty sure you'll be fine and will feel better when you've moved.

And no. I didn’t have my fucking Facebook messenger set to fucking friends only.

poor you OP, what a creep. i usually avoid drama so i probably wouldn’t send a screenshot to his wife. you have blocked him and hopefully thats the end of it. he will more than likely do it to someone else and maybe they can inform the wife, but it sounds like you could do without the drama and involvement.

@mum11970

Are you kidding? You actually would not be bothered by this creepy, stalking behaviour?

Every woman I know would be freaked out by it. (And many women have had similar things happen!) You have obviously never had it happen. Lucky you!

OP, tell this creep's wife, and if he doesn't back off, tell the police.

Ewwww, what a horrid creep! Imagine being married to THAT?

How did he manage to contact you if you changed your phone three years ago and haven't had contact with his wife for more than 10 years?

Really Maybugger? That's the bit you're focusing on here? You sound like you don't believe the OP. Why the automatic disbelief?

OP there are always people on here trying to 'out-cool' everyone.

Really, pay them no mind.

You don't even know them any more.

She needs to know her husband is looking at other women's asses and messaging them.

Why did you reply to his text ? if you were so creeped out ? I don't understand

Oh ffs. I was rattled and thought I should reply because on the face of it it was a message that could be nnocentoy explained and then I to the yapping comment back and thought get him away nice oh I’m going out I need to go and then block him.

Innocently.

that's weird in itself

Why do you keep swearing OP ?

Just send it or don't send it.

Tighten your security settings or don't bother.

But whatever your decide to do, it's really not worth brooding about for too long.

back at you.

I answered because that’s what the socially acceptable thing is to do. I wish I hadn’t. I feel complicit in his disrespect and his perving over me. I feel dirty and ashamed now.

I guess, Gemini, that the op was being polite

Ashamed for answering. Ashamed that I might have somehow encouraged him and my stalker without realising by being nice and being myself. Wondering if how I dressed was wrong. I was in joggers and long top I had a sleep bra on and no make up. Maybe I should have had a proper bra on? Maybe my joggers were too tight.

You can swear as much as you like OP.

Fuck him and the horse he rode in on. He is not your responsibility. Neither is the marriage.

Wondering if somehow I’m sending out come creep on me signals and what I need to do to change. My Facebook is closed down tight but I hadn’t realised about messenger - it’s changed now.

Don't feel ashamed for answering, it's a natural response - to reply to a message.

Wondering how many other times he’s seen me and leached over me. Wondering if he’s followed me places. Wondering if he’s noticed my car other places.

I hardly slept.

STOP being polite to Creeps then... just block the Dicks in future.. and smile and ignore at gatherings

I have Ickes.

Is this beinade out to be my fault?