Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Update:

Walter White is keen, but there’s not much of a mental connection and I’m quite “meh” about it. Trying to get a convenient date, but I’ve just told him my dress size, partly cos I think it might put him off. Not that it has anyone yet, but there’s always a first time.

Samuel Pepys’ one and only book, from the synopsis, tells me he’s definitely not my type. I’ve also found his Twitter feed and that’s just put the final nail in the coffin, so I think I’ll unmatch.

Just matched with someone else but am not really feeling it and POF at the moment is currently just messages from rude mechanicals.

I know things go in (quite extreme) troughs and peaks with OLD, so it’s just a predictable trough. And I’ve not even searched and initiated yet, so I’ll do that when the mojo returns.

Shit, there’s tautology in that message. Things must be dire.

OMG, these threads go so fast!!!!! Just popping in to say hi to you all really, as I haven't got anything much to add. 2nd date with Mr TV lined up for Wednesday, but not sure I feel enough chemistry with him.

V stressed about DS and the whole clearing / uni thing and DDs forthcoming GCSEs, so finding it hard to find headspace for dating. Still have my POF profile hidden, may whisk the curtain back again next weekend after all the exam / uni stress is receding a bit.

Feeling a bit meh about dating but can't really put my finger on why!

Yes me too Margo. I am worried about GCSE results. The a level child was my worker, the GCSE child is my play games, stare out the window child! Argh. And we have the double whammy of sorting out a school place as in our borough, it's all done on the same day.

I have a 2nd date with Mr Northern on Weds. This week is a nightmare because my work were meant to arrange a few quite critical meetings and are being hugely annoying about the timing so I have no idea when I am needed and where fgs. Also have other meetings with people that need to be set up but waiting to set them up around these critical ones which aren't set up! Arghhhhh!

LOL Daffo, it is bonkers really what we try to hold together! Fingers crossed for your DC this week.

Hey all can I join in?

I'm currently on happen and POF and not having any luck. I've had a quick look on this thread and can see a few of you like bumble so I might give that a try!

I just find I can't be bothered to meet them as I don't really think i will be that interested

Well she didn't respond to my message on Saturday at all. We did arrange on the date to go out for dinner tomorrow night, should I still send her a casual message at some point today asking if she still wants to?

Yes Rich, certainty is better than being left hanging.
I always confirm ahead to double check, usually the same day though. Try not to sound desperate, accusatory or too needy though.

Something casual, like 'Hi, just checking we are still on for dinner tomorrow. Shall we meet at XX at 7pm?'

Or something of that gist. Don't mention no reply to your previous message. Or anything about thinking she has lost interest. It's really off putting.

newfunahead dating is about meeting people!! If you prejudge everyone negatively then you aren't going to be successful in finding what you want. Luck has nothing to do with it. You can control the outcome to a certain extent, and that includes sabotaging yourself before you've even begun.

Good luck to you and your dc too Margo. We will both deserve a stiff drink on Thursday night!

Thanks BLB, will message this evening :)

Bendy - your right that did sound quite negative of me I just think it's difficult to find time to fit in dating but I guess it's the only way to meet someone!

So I've just signed up to bumble and I'm starting with a clean slate so let's see how it goes :)

Rich if you get no response, just think she has missed out in a great guy and get back in the game. Keep on keeping on.

so the gym guy texted this morning saying he had a migraine last night but i have had 24 matches on bumble and i'm currently trying to juggle 10 conversations

one date lined up with a professional boxer from the states but he doesn't drive so let's see what he plans

there's mr jujitsu who seems nice and chatty

mr leather who seems sexy i just hope he's tall

mr cheeky who is actually a lot more genuine

New this may sound a bit harsh but if you think it will be difficult to find time for dating, should you even be dating at all?

Rich good luck and maybe message early tomorrow instead of today, seeing as the ball is still in her court, given you messaged on Saturday. And if it doesn't work out, remember she is only one woman - it won't take long to find another on OLD.

newfunahead I think the key really is a positive attitude. Both to dating/finding what you are looking for and to ride out the rejections, if this thread is anything to go by.

Are you looking for a LTR or just some casual fun? Your approach and expectations might be different depending on your objective.

Hello all ! Been missing in action on holiday and had no dates for a month, the break has been really good.

Totally agree on the chemistry thing you have been discussing, its never grown for me, its either there or its not and I know within about 3 seconds.

I had a coffee date yesterday - lovely guy and a nice chat - he did ask me out at the time but I let him down gently today and he was lovely about it. So trying to treat people how I would like to be treated and be kind.

Still seeing FWB about once a fortnight to keep things ticking over for me! He's actually an ex - we were never on the same page lifestyle wise but the sex is incredible. Just need to not get too attached - so far, managing it ok

So I had a lovely date/casual hook-up with a fellow last night .... total gentleman, really lovely, great to talk to, fun sex. Let's call him Mr Manager. He'd be a perfect FWB except he lives a long long way away and was only travelling here for a conference (which I knew prior to meeting him). Shame. And the body confidence thing was so not an issue! I felt completely comfortable. I even asked him why he swiped right on me, and his answer surprised me ... my glasses! So there you go. Boys DO make passes at girls wearing glasses :D

I'd had 2 really awful ONS prior to this, so it was nice to have my faith restored a little. And surprisingly, it has made me more likely to swipe right on older men ... Mr Manager was 4 years older than me, whereas my previous 2 were younger. Mr Curly (amazing person, terrible sex) was 13 years younger and Mr Organic (boring person, dreadful sex) was 5 years younger. I'd really not been looking for anyone older, probably just force of habit ... my STBXH is younger by several years, so that's what has felt natural.

I've joined up to OKC just to see ... I like the extended profiles compared with Tinder, but I'm confused about the likes and messages. People have messaged me, but I can't see the messages in my inbox. Where have they gone?

Cool I sort of wish I had a FWB (I did have I n the dim and distant past of my 30s/40s) but I can’t bring myself to any more. Which is a shame as I think my HRT has finally stabilised and I am..... well..... “renewed’ for want of a better word.

Date with Walter White arranged for Friday (doesn’t give a toss about weight/size, go him) a few more Bumble irons in the background, Owen Glendowr has popped back up again on POF with random non sequitur messages at odd times (def married, should probably block rather than ignore) and Mr Thaw and I are being companionably artsy through messenger, which is nice.

Vet got myself a “naughty” Bumble match ce soir. If I could send you a screenshot on PM if I could, but I cant see how to attach photos via that medium....

Glad last night went well for you April and that it assuaged some of your earlier concerns. Enjoy OKC - I much prefer the extended profiles myself.

Is anyone paying for Bumble? I’m just not really getting anywhere and it’s saying 65 people have swiped me already (but who?)

Cover ooh la la, je suis intrigued. Je vais t'envoyer un pm!

Warning for those using Bumble. A friend says she keeps seeing profiles that say "only here for the dirty sex" and give the Kik name tombola1000.
They look like genuine photos. Usual sort of badly taken photos you see. So it's possible the accounts have been hacked.
She's seeing one or two a day like this and reporting them all.

Public service announcement over. I'm still not dating. My last attempt was so laughably bad!

AprilFool18 I am on okcupid for hook ups only.

You can only see the messages if you swipe right or like them, go to Double Take and the men who have messaged should be some of the first photos, it will tell you if they have sent a message which you can read before you swipe right or like.

I only joined okcupid on Thursday night and if I had time I could have met someone by Friday but alas I didn't have time, I met someone Sunday night and also seeing someone tomorrow night.

I've made it quite clear what I'm looking for although some guys actually want relationships on there.

Good luck AprilFool

some guys actually want relationships on there.

Strange fellows