Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

[CoverMeLads]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Thanks for the input. I was afraid that might be the response. It’s just horrible to like someone and have to think about ending it. I can’t help having a tiny shred of optimism that the fact he’s still around, still taking me out for meals etc that he hasn’t completely ruled the idea out. Argh I don’t know.

How do you all find enough decent people to date?! I hardly ever find anyone I like even remotely enough to bother talking to 🙈

lile i work in a male dominated industry, workout in a crossfit gym which is highly sociable and occasionally indulge in bumble

Ok hit me with some dating apps that you’d recommend?

My one date on sat night I thought went well, I’ve barejy heard from since so need to move on!!

I’m on POF and Bumble. And I wouldn’t pay for either.

Same here - POF and Bumble.

No joy on my date this evening either. Did not fancy him one tiny iota. I don't fancy anyone!! Going to hide my profile for a few days while I'm away and then maybe try to put something a bit more 'sexy' on. >sigh

Ha ha maggiemuggins ive just done the same on tinder!

So a guy I was briefly seeing 2 years ago has been in contact and would like to have some ‘fun’!

I have no idea how I feel on this one!

I’m worried I’ll want more than just fun and he clearly doesn’t!

Aww sorry to hear that Maggie Just keep on keeping on. It does take time/it’s a numbers game cliché though that is.

I had a look on Bumble at 38-44 year olds, just for shits and giggles. It’s like a different world! If only I could lie about my age sigh

Who:

OKC
Badoo
Tinder
Bumble
POF

Pretty well in that order.

I know 60 year old women who date 30 year old men Cover - go for it!!!!

Who if you think you will (which means yeah, you probably will ) then just don’t reply. Not worth it. Not even for the attention.
I sometimes regret letting it go tits up with Mr Yowzer, generally after a few light ales and when in “high hormones” (ie gagging) but it wasn’t what I really want. It’d be great during goes into a slight reverie but I’d feel like fucking shite the next day. A bit like having a 2am kebab.
Hang in there for the filet mignon, if you can?

Kin I’m after a LTR. I can’t have that with a man who isn’t familiar with The Clangers and the finer points of Mr Benn.....

But surely a relationship with someone who is familiar with The Teletubbies is preferable to one with someone who has fond memories of Bill and Ben and The Woodentops?

Well now you put it like that. I did like Pogles Wood. And Button Moon.

@covermelads ha that’s funny referring to it as having a 2am kebab!!!

But yes I get you, I’ll prob feel used the next day!

Have you learned nothing Grasshopper?grin (That reference will be lost on anyone under 50, sorry)

Ha, I'm 37 and I got it... not sure what that says about me

So, because there's always something and when it seems too good to be true it usually is, it turns out that Mr Canada isn't 40 as per his Tinder profile, he's 46. He just dropped it into the conversation today. I hate it when people lie about their age on OLD, and I hate being misled. He's very apologetic now but he still should have been upfront about it when we started talking. I'm pissed off but I do like him, don't really know what to do.

if someone lies about their ages i assume it to get a younger woman which puts me off immediately

Yep exactly. He says it was to stop identity theft but who knows, and 46 to 40 is a pretty big jump. Ugh, fucking men*!

*sorry, men of the thread.

Identity theft my arse.

How would stating his real age make him vulnerable to identity theft?

He's trying to appear younger to attract the younger ladies. No doubt about it.

Im bored of all my Irons... just cast the net out to find a few new ones. My attention span on POF is about 2 days of talking before I lose interest. And the only two nice ones who progressed to Whatsapp have ghosted me. Sigh....

Whoknows Remember why you're not still with him and decide if it's important or not, that will guide you. I'm currently doing that rather than letting my vagina decide.

Cover you shouldn't rule out men in that bracket! Even though you are competing with my age range . Having a similar frame of reference is nice though.

Vet Identity theft!! What a load of guff, I would HAVE to call him out on that...even if you decide to keep in touch he needs to know you're not fucking stupid! Does he have his date of birth, address and bank account number on his profile too?

Ha ha Cold I also have the attention span of a goldfish when it comes to OLD, after a few days of texting I am losing interest, they are either too keen, not keen enough or I decide I don't fancy them after all and may have been very bored when we started chatting.
I need to stop logging on when I am bored, but I would really like a relationship so its a necessary evil I guess?
Cover good luck with Mr Thaw, hope it goes great :)

I'm running out of people to message now. God, this is depressing...

I’ve had a hilarious encounter with an acTOR (darling) on Bumble. I can’t (or rather won’t) share his slightly bonkers messages but I managed 3 replies before I had to make my excuses and unmatch.
Mate, if you really are in the public eye (never heard of him, but appears to be a real person) you might want to appear a bit less.......coked up?

Maggie I reset my filters to 40-50 and BAM! they’re coming out of the woodwork!
I still can’t date a 40 year old though. There’s all links to “Insta” etc. and I’m nice and comfy in my lovely PRIVATE Facebook.....