Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

re dating from work there are thousands of ppl who work for us and our paths do not cross. At all, so this wouldn't be an issue

Oh dating oracles..... I need some advice.

Date 2 last night went so well - we have really hit it off.

I have a bit of a dilemma in that I've dated a string of emotionally unavailable men and been love bombed once before...... So believe me when I say i am so much more guarded this time round.

Things are progressing well and he wants to see me again on Saturday for Brunch.

My issue is I am taken aback as he has said he really likes me...... this is such a strange dynamic for me. I dont want to rush this either and though I feel the same as in i cannot believe how well we have hit it off I don't want to screw it up by being too distant either.

The shoe is on the other foot this time as in I am not the one head over heels and it feels strange 😂🤣

Us women are never happy are we.

Embrace it? Or stay cautiously optimistic?

Vixen cautiously optimistic! It's still very very early days. Sounds good so far though!

My date with Mr Posh last night was hilarious.... sadly for all the wrong reasons. I knew within approximately 0.367 seconds of meeting him that it was a hell no but I ended up having to make conversation for 2 hours before I could escape. He wasn't awful but he had a really REALLY bizarre way of speaking, it's hard to describe but everything was really quick, short sentences. He never expanded on anything and kind of just spoke in rushed statements. His voice was a bit strange too. It was hard work as I was making most of the effort to keep the conversation going and just really odd. I made my excuses as soon as I could and managed to make it back to my car at the end before I burst out laughing Shame though as he sent great WhatsApp messages and seemed cool - just goes to show!

I'm still talking to Mr Canada a lot on WhatsApp and phone, and we've video called as well. We have tons in common, he looks and sounds totally normal and I like him - of course, because he's in fecking Canada!

Cover when is the date with Mr Thaw who breaks all the height and driving rules?? Hoping it's a cause for champagne

No dates lined up. Last guy spent most of the date talking about his sexual conquests and asked me if I’d slept with anyone since divorce. He was just awful. Previous to him, guy didn’t know there was a war in Syria. I was gobsmacked.

Could any guy here kindly given me feedback on my GSM profile? I seem to be attracting guys in their 60s (I’m 41).

Vixen it is very early days. Just take time really getting to know each other. But so far it sounds good!

Vet don't you just hate that? They're great at messaging but real life is so different. I've had a few like that. I can't decide if it's better to meet up sooner rather than later. I like the messaging to get a feel for them, but too much of a good thing and you can be disappointed.

I've gone back to OKC. I have a handful of chats going on, one has already asked to meet me after two days of talking. I'm going to decline at the moment and chat for a bit longer. Physically he's not my type but he does seem lovely. I'm trying really hard to be broad minded as I know how important a great personality is. That makes someone very attractive to me. For me, I also want someone who can really make me laugh, and that is sadly lacking at the moment. Everyone seems so serious!

Vet - definitely meet up sooner. I spent 5 weeks messaging a guy. It was very underwhelming when we met in person. On the flip side, he made me laugh so much on messages and I learned a lot about him. I don’t message for long any longer.

That profile! My God what a bore he would be. If I saw that, I'd be tempted to message."Sorry mate, some of us appreciate paragraphs!"

Afternoon coffee break fly by:

Told Another Non Driver it wouldn’t work. He took it on the chin and said I was sexy. So that ended well 👍🏻

Vet it’s tomorrow for Mr Thaw.
God your date! Poor you! Always have “another appointment” to get to max 90 minutes after meeting them. Have you learned nothing Grasshopper? (That reference will be lost on anyone under 50, sorry)
I genuinely do have to leave after an hour and a half max tomorrow as I have got to be elsewhere. But had I not I’d have still said I had.

New iron: Walter White. Many musical similarities, but he’s already ending every message with a x. No man gets an x from me until bodily fluids have been exchanged, but I’m managing not to type STOP BEING OVERFAMILIAR.
Oh and he’s already mentioned he’s sorting out his living arrangements because he was living with his ex after they broke up. I didn’t ask. This is less than ten messages in. OVERFAMILIAR.

It’s no wonder I’m single, really.....

cover I'm with you on the kisses. I can't stand it and refuse to do it until we've met and at least snogged.

I'm also with you on the kisses.
I met the perfect man on holiday but he's over 5500 miles away he just did everything.. right.

My OLD before I went away will not get the message I'm not interested. I'm not replying to his messages and he keeps messaging and calling. I don't want to be cruel but it's getting very annoying. I've sent a message to him saying I've been dating and even that hasn't put him off!! He is questioning. Do I just block?

just be harsh and say i'm sorry i'm not interested, i wish you well

my date for tomorrow is constantly texting etc and i'm very close to calling it off but we have lots in common and he is tall

Tictac I would message, yes, to say you don’t want to pursue things any further, been nice talking etc. I’m all for sow as ye wish to reap. Or whateverthehell the saying is. It’s good dating karma, basically

Hey Tom 👋🏻

The odd one, fine (maybe) but not most messages. It’s meaningless. I know I like to soften things with emojis 🙄🤔🧐 but an x just seems.....lazy. Lazy and disingenuous.

So I’ve got a fortnight free trial now with Bumble so I can unlock the magical power of Seeing Who’s Swiped. In other words wading through photos going “no, no, ming, no”, saving toilet selfies to send my poor long suffering best friend and generally acknowledging that paying would be pointless.
I have matched with one guy though. His photos are like a catalogue; all very professionally done. I’m going to ask him if he’s a modELL and where’s the one pointing into the distance with one leg resting on a chair whilst wearing thermals.....

Hiya. New here! Ive just posted a dating related thread and now I’ve seen this one and I’m thinking I maybe should have posted it here instead... although it’s a long one 🙈 Have any of you ever experienced dating someone who isn’t sure about whether they want to get more serious with you because of your kid(s)? That’s basically the gist of my long message. Not sure how to play it as still seeing him but feels like he holds all the cards as to what happens next!

I have messaged and already tried to let him down gently weeks ago. But he doesn't seem to be taking the hint! My problem I think is, that I'm too nice. I almost feel he is taking advantage of that. Wouldn't you think he'd just give up? It's getting a bit worrying and I don't like the way he makes me feel. Also, nothing at all has happened between us but it is as if he feels he's in a relationship with me?

Ha, spoke too soon: fucker’s unmatched me. Maybe he’s a thread lurker 😳

Oh well in that case just block/delete. Simple.

Soz that last was to Tictac

@cover. I've already deleted his number now but if he sends another message I'll block. I blocked on my phone but it didn't work on WhatsApp. Thanks!

likelio never had the but i just would see it as a red flag- could be using it as a excuse to fuck about or could be genuine and have severe reservations about kids- either way "NEXT!"

let me know how the trial goes- i bet that's really interesting cover

RAF guy is texting constantly and it's putting me off big time- ive heard nothing further from fireman.

so i went to see gym guy last night and it was lovely, he is so tactile it was like old times- had arranged him to come for tea at mine tonight but he has had to cancel (genuine reason) but he has been texting me all day

There’s definitely a way on WhatsApp as I had to block MrMr. You know how to do it, yeah? Just do it now: you owe the guy nothing and best you don’t get unwanted messages further down the line as I did....

Rep it’s just the “boost” free for 2 weeks, so I need to set a reminder to cancel the automatic subscription that they set up in 13 days
If you have a good old swipe maybe it’ll pop up for you too.

Tom, totally agree. Oh how I want to be laughed into bed!

Tictac I would block!

Vixen Sounds exciting! Agree with cautious optimism but try to enjoy the feeling if it has eluded you before

My lunch date was ok, he was really nice and much handsomer than in his photos but zero flirting, and seemed like a grownup (whereas in my head I am still in my 20s).

isn't it crazy how humor is far more attractive than looks!! gym guy is way off my usual type as he's a bit heavier etc but he makes me laugh so much my face hurts

@cover and @Maggie. I thought I'd had blocked. Yes I know how to problem is I now have no number to block as I deleted the messages. If he sends another then I will. It's annoying and overstepping my boundaries.. urghhh.