Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Dan And put your profession back on your profile, if you haven't already. It was gone the last time I looked.

Women like a man in stable employment, and who has a passion for his career. Your particular profession is a definite draw. Far far more than the music. Don't waste it.

And post some photos in your work uniform. Seriously. Blot out anything identifying your actual employer/place of work.

I've put this on the thread instead of PM, because it might be useful for others.

I am in a tent in a field and I have to say my bumble matches look a lot better down here than they do in the big smoke ;)

But I'm not here for that so will resist.

I am still terrible at multi man messaging. Have the fat bloke (sorry can't think of better description given he was fatter than pictures), music man and Mr Sex reappearing.

Just one question for you lot. Mr Fat has declared he only gets involved/talks to/with one person at a time. That's fine but I don't. I did mention it before but I'm sort of feeling I need to say it again. We had one date. Haven't arranged the second. Shall I make a statement now or just let it lie. I am not initiating contact while I'm away. I am undecided about him so it's not a no but it's also not a yes (I did also tell him how long it takes me when we met). I am leaning towards a no but will give him one more date I think once I'm back.

daffo I wouldn't make a thing of it. Chatting to and dating several until you decide (eventually, lol) is not exactly prolific polygamy. It's far to early to limit yourself, or even make chatting exclusive. what he does is up to him.

Daff to misquote Vic and Bob: you should let it lie
He has his way of doing things, you have yours. If he doesn’t like it, well......tough, frankly. But at this stage I don’t think you need to mention it again. And I’d lay money you’ll tend to a “no” (but only cos my experience of “undecided” tends to go that way )

I’m pausing for breath from messages with Mr Thaw (date arranged) and Another Non Driver (who I have to shut it down with, as he lives 60 miles away 🙄).
Owen Glendowr has disappeared, probably vanquishing his foes, though my gut says “married” based on the timings of his messages.
And them’s me irons so far.

Rep re The Affair: I KNOW!!!! How bloody DARE they! There’s a 5th and final season been commissioned so I’m going out on a limb to say Noah was lying to Cole and it’s not really her.....

I can guarantee based on that profile that we would share zero chemistry. I feel like sending back the screenshot captioned “well that’s me told”. I am a great kisser, though 🤔

cover "someone special like myself..."

lol

For someone with “edgy” and “silly” humour, the profile is remarkably lacking in it....

Hello - gosh you've all been busy.

I've had what feels like a gruelling week of OLD with no actual dating happening.

I found Mr Lifecoach to be dull to chat to online and really self absorbed & serious, no further plan was made for date Fri and I realised he was too short too and was composing a polite 'don't want to meet on Fri' when he sent a message to say he'd been on a first date and so didn't want to meet me.

The seemingly lovely Mr Squirrel has remained silent and appears not to have been online since messaging me to say he was going to have to see his mum miles away (OKC message unread, not online on pof - he messaged me initally on POF but I was only there to hide my profile so asked him to move to OKC) as she'd had a stroke on Sun (which I guess might just have been an excuse anyways). We're past 72 hours though now so I assume he's just ghosted me . Shame he was my fave ever iron - nearby and all....sigh.

Mr Intermittent asked to move to whatsapp but I can't see it going anywhere we've been messaging once or so a week for about 6 weeks, he wants to meet sometime though. Don't know if I can be arsed.

POF just full of dismal potato heads and Bumble I can't get my head around.

Resiging self to life as a single mad cat lady forever again. Gah.

cold I wouldn't assume ghosting after just 72 hours of no messaging.

...Bendy don't get my hopes up! I keep leaving my phone and smart watch in another room to stop me checking it!

cold checking whether someone is online, message read, replied, how long, etc....well that way madness lies. Use your time to message some new people instead. The others will not matter so much then, whether they work out or not.

You could always try and train your cats to sit on command. That should keep you busy for a long while!

Bendy I know...hence banishment of phone so I don't check it! Have been on POF and siwped on a few people but they are ALL potato heads today, or short. Even found a nice looking one on Bumble but he's only 5ft 9....I'm just under 6ft so want someone taller than me ideally .

Well I’ve had no reply to my texting asking for a 2nd date and now feel completely deflated 😢

whoknows Just chill. Not everyone replies to messages immediately. Whether it's a no, or a no reply after a longer while than just a day, at least you grasped the opportunity. And it might yet be a yes.

cold I get you on height. Taller the better for me. And I'm a short arse. Sorry, my lot (the gnomes) must be taking all the tall ones from you!

Sorry to hear that Who

Would anyone like to take over my account and prove it's not just me?

I have zero free time until Monday Dan but I'd do it, I'd send messages and I'd get you dates - to prove to you how easily it can be done - but what good would it do?

It would be my personality behind those messages and you'd be completely different in person.

Who yeah I’m sorry too. Onward for now: he may message, he may not; so get to the ironmonger and replenish your stock

I realise I owe the thread Aldi Organic Prosecco, as the date has been confirmed within 24hrs. But can I double or quits? Mr T, gorgeous as he is, is also......not tall. This is (was?? I’m so confused! Boundaries are being tested! I don’t know my own mind!) a big deal for me, as for you Cold and Bendy. Every significant ex (and decent shag) over the last 32 years has been over 5’10” But now I’m just thinking about Prince and how I would have gladly gone the distance with his 5ft2 inch ass. Repeatedly.

So can I now say I’ll buy the thread a round of proper fizz (I’ll go as far as Lanson Black Label; I’m not made of money) if we actually fancy each other in the flesh? This would be unheard of for me so far with OLD......

I'll check out now with the Aldi Prosecco - not because I believe you will not have success with Mr T (you have to love his gold chains) - but because I'm dry.

Usual PO Box address will be fine .

Argh, no, sorry Kin, he has to be Mr Thaw, not Mr T. My (lazy) bad. Because he looks a bit like a young Gary Oldman. And if you can make that connection there’s a bonus bag of Planter’s Dry Roasted in it for you....

Hmmm... he's not appeared in Morse or Endeavour... your peanuts are safe!

Cover

Still laughing at that profile. If you don't have money, don't bother. Seems like a catch.

Bwahahahaha

cover I reckon your profile guy works in HR or recruitment. Reads like a bloody job ad. Essential criteria..own car and house, desirable... retired with your own money and ability to laugh at my edgy humour!

Well I do have an ability to laugh at his total lack of understanding when it comes to creating a dating profile:

My interests : me, me, myself and me.
Your interests : irrelevant, unless they involve pleasing me with what I consider “great kissing”.
Oh, and don’t have a job that will take up time you could be spending on me. Plus, bring cash.

hi all

well i deleted bumble as i literally couldn't be bothered with the texting and my heart wasn't in it.

Mr RAF has gone to what's so with me and i'm supposed to be meeting him for a drink friday, but i'm unsure. He lives a 40 mins drive away but is just starting the same job i do but for a different force so we have a lot in common. however with the shifts etc i just think it will be too hard.

Fireman paid my money back but i texted him calling it off told him we're in different stages of our lives etc etc There wa no going back for me after the money thing, plus he lives 24 miles away which i've decided is too far

A new guy from work has started texting me and if he's now single i would definitely consider if things don work out with gym guy

however- when is the exclusive thing? i don't want to mess it up with gym guy but we're not at that conversation point yet. i'm trying to play it cool so should i date others? is that fair on the pthers?

is everyone finding that they learn about them selves with every fling? i am viewing it all very positively- like i have realised i don't want to date someone with kids as i have 2 and prefer the non complication but i would make exceptions. i also know i don't want to have to travel far to see someone.

I really like gym guy who i saw last nights and is coming for tea today, we've been texting non stop but as he called it off last time i don't want to over invest. however going on other dates feels really wrong

A new guy from work has started texting me and if he's now single i would definitely consider if things don work out with gym guy

I've dated people I've worked with in the past and very much 'got away with it'. Think about the consequences if you go down that road...

however- when is the exclusive thing?

If/when you think it is.

i'm trying to play it cool so should i date others?

I'd say yes - it's still very early days.

is that fair on the pthers?

They're probably dating others themselves. Either way, it's how you feel about doing it that counts.

is everyone finding that they learn about them selves with every fling?

Hell yeah! And I love it! Not so much about likes and dislikes but really learning about myself and who I am at my core. It is an invaluable experience.