My boyfriend has blocked my number...

[gaynor83]

We’ve been together since Christmas. Had a lot of ups and downs since then, mainly because he has some issues, mentally and with drugs. Every time he takes drugs he becomes really paranoid and accuses me of cheating.
Yet he is the one who stays out all night sometimes and he’s “waved” at his ex on Facebook, as well as deleting messages from her and another girl on there. He says he does these things to get my attention..hmm.
He’s blocked my number before and he knows it really upsets and it makes me run after him.
He lost his driving licence recently and I know it’s depressed him. I’ve been trying to cheer him up and was going to drive us on a day out yesterday. He wouldn’t get out of bed and said he couldn’t be bothered. So I left him there and went out by myself. Whilst I was out he rang and I was eating so didn’t answer. When I rang him back he had blocked me.
So I drove to his house to see him and he didn’t say sorry or anything, so I left. He says he loves me but why would he behave like this?
I had a big thing happening today too and he didn’t even text to wish me luck. Feel miserable about it all.

Get rid of him now, and for Gods sake please make sure you don't end up pregnant or you'll be tied to him for life.

I can see what he gains from your relationship but am not sure how it adds anything good to your life.

Your supportive kindness is being poured into an abyss.
You will always be second to him while he takes drugs. He will always require your support and kindness but they will do no good..

You do deserve better.
Get a great poster and enjoy looking at that.
Block him in return, leave and don't look back.
Be free to go out and get on with your life and loves.

Why would you want to be with someone who
- does drugs
- treats you like shit
- blocks you randomly

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The first point alone should have you running for the hills. His a druggie that treats you like shit. Get rid. He won’t change.

Dump him ASAP and free yourself up to find someone who will treat you better.

I suppose it’s cos he is loving when things are going well.

Ffs, everybody is nice when things go well. It's when they don't that matters.

You're 35?!!!! I thought you were teens or early 20s.

Seriously, this shouldn't be hard to work out. The guy's a twat.

Being good-looking is not a redeeming quality. He will not change. And it isn't your job to help him or to try to change him. Just because he says he loves you, don't expect him to change his behaviour to 'prove' his love to you.

And whatever you do, don't spend any of your time believing that if you could only make him love you more then everything would be rosy. It ain't going to happen.

Please don't waste any more of your time on him - it isn't worth it.

Dump, block and move on. He's an arsehole.

Wow why do you want to be with this person? You've only been with him since December and all these issues already. Run for the hills!

You know you can't actually have a relationship with some who abuses drugs ? Until he's clean you would be enabling him and it would not work out well
As for the mental health issues they are not reasons to act like a dick, I know loads of people, some with serious mental health problem who are kind, concerned for others, and would hate to hurt anyone.
Dump! And DONT go back

Oh and he's a cheat... that's why he's do obsessed with you cheating

OP, I’m reading this and wondering what’s happened in your life that you think that this man is an acceptable partner.

How did he lose his licence? Down the back of the sofa?

Also, he is defo shagging someone else.

Distrust the man who tells you to distrust.

He stays out all night.
He is a drug user.
He treats you like utter shit.
He's talking to other women.
He doesn't love you.
He doesn't respect you.
I assume he also likely has no respect for others as he's done something serious enough to get banned from driving(I know it could be a medical reason but I very much doubt it)

This guy has literally zero redeeming features I can see. Get rid of him. You will never be happy. He's already playing games, blocking you, flirting with others and showing no regard for you. That's in the first 6 months when new partners are usually trying to impress.

Get out now. You would also likely benefit from trying to figure out why you think his behaviour is any acceptable way to treat you.

Bin. It will never get better.

35 jeez I thought he was about 20 the way you described him. He's a little boy not a man

@twilight. Me too! I was fully expecting him to be about 18 from the OP. He sounds pathetic

I guess I just want to see some good in the situation and him. He’s always telling me how much he loves me I just want to believe it

In the nicest possible way OP, talk's cheap, it's his actions that count and he's making his feelings very clear.

Anyone can be marvellous when everything's going well. The measure of someone is how they treat you when the chips are down, unavoidable MH issues excepted.

I thought you was a teenager too. You're both immature and you need to leave him as it's only going to get worse. God forbid you put a baby in the mix !

Sounds like you're well rid.

Ugh. Break up with this one; you will feel like a weight has lifted. Trust the other women who have been there!

I wasted 8 months with a very miserable Italian who was nice when things went well (they rarely did); Christ I was glad when I dumped him.....

Block him right back. No need to second guess this one.
Get a dog-that love is sincere.

I think his actions are controlling , like blocking me when he doesn’t get his way is emotionally abusive.
Do you think he is being unfaithful too?ive thought that before too cos of how he goes on.
Thanks for all your good advice, I know everyone is right.

He sounds emotionally immature unfortunately

A loyal man dies not "wave" at other women especially just to rile you up