My boyfriend has blocked my number...

[gaynor83]

We’ve been together since Christmas. Had a lot of ups and downs since then, mainly because he has some issues, mentally and with drugs. Every time he takes drugs he becomes really paranoid and accuses me of cheating.
Yet he is the one who stays out all night sometimes and he’s “waved” at his ex on Facebook, as well as deleting messages from her and another girl on there. He says he does these things to get my attention..hmm.
He’s blocked my number before and he knows it really upsets and it makes me run after him.
He lost his driving licence recently and I know it’s depressed him. I’ve been trying to cheer him up and was going to drive us on a day out yesterday. He wouldn’t get out of bed and said he couldn’t be bothered. So I left him there and went out by myself. Whilst I was out he rang and I was eating so didn’t answer. When I rang him back he had blocked me.
So I drove to his house to see him and he didn’t say sorry or anything, so I left. He says he loves me but why would he behave like this?
I had a big thing happening today too and he didn’t even text to wish me luck. Feel miserable about it all.

Yup - I spent far too many years in my late teens trying to fix someone and making myself very unhappy in the process! Life gets better when you have freedom to do what you want (and when other people treat you with respect).

Your BF may be intelligent and good looking but he is also, quick obviously, am immature, drug taking dickhead. Move on and don't look back. You cannot save him.

*Quite not quick.

The drugs may eventually uglify him if he becomes a heavy user. And he is clearly not intelligent.

I am assuming he is also hung like a horse and will happily spend hours going down on you.

No? My advice: get rid.

Block his number. Delete him and move on.

Ditch him. He sounds pathetic. Oh and it's supposed to be lovely and enjoyable at the beginning - not like walking through treacle.

He sounds pathetic, you're better off without him

You will always be a poor second to the drugs.

Move on.

A Tesco bag full of dried leaves with sticky bobble eyes would and a sharpie mouth would be a bit of an improvement on the current situation.
Op just dump him and block. You need to value yourself more, you really deserve better than this idiot.

When you say he 'lost' his driving licence, presumably you mean he committed a series of driving offences, rather than having misplaced it down the back of the sofa?

It's pretty unanimous - you can do so much better than this.

His redeeming features don't cancel out the negative traits he has. When he takes drugs, flirts with other girls, blocks you etc he is telling you who he really is.

Dump him and move on.

There are good looking, intelligent men out there that won't take drugs and play silly mind games with you.

I suppose it’s cos he is loving when things are going well. He’s good looking, intelligent and usually fun to be around.

Imagine being with someone who is all of those things, all of the time. And is he really loving, or just a slightly better version of his shit self, but you're just too desperate to see some good in him?

Oh I'm so naive I genuinely thought he's misplaced his drivers license and thought it was a bit silly he was so upset about it 🙄😂

Good looking? Wtf does that have to do with it.

Do you think this is going to end in a loving marriage with a white picket fence?

A Tesco bag full of dried leaves with sticky bobble eyes would and a sharpie mouth would be a bit of an improvement on the current situation.

Brilliant.

OP I'm assuming you're quite young? Honestly this guy is not worth your time it sounds quite exhausting.

And you are still with this loser why? Time for you to delete his number and move on, he really isn't worth the trouble.

Trust me OP I had a bf like this when I was younger, didn't take me long to realise that he was a twat, years later he still is. They usually don't get any better I'm affraid.

He's lost his license and is a drug user - op most people manage to obey basic laws and not do these things. I don't think you have to have particularly high standards to find these things unacceptable in a relationship - who wants someone who can't even hang on to his license fgs! Trouble is going to follow that man around, get rid

Excellent! Save you the bother of blocking him! Seriously OP, run for the hills from this manipulative big manbaby.

I understand how hard it is to move on sometimes, no matter how badly you are treated. My ex was hideous and it took me 2 years to be free of him.

But! The relief and how unstressed you become is so so worth it. You deserve so much better than this immature thing.

Leave him, you can do better

A Tesco bag full of dried leaves with sticky bobble eyes would and a sharpie mouth would be a bit of an improvement on the current situation

Couldn't have said it better myself!

You have to look at people as potential long term partners and parents if that ultimately is what you want to have in your life. He sounds as if he’d fail at both so why waste your best years with this idiot?

Listen to yourself! For goodness sake! You've been together seven months and you've had ups and downs already? He takes drugs, he throws his toys out of the pram and blocks you, He stays out all night. And his redeeming features are? Show a bit of backbone and get rid of this absolute loser.

Until he addresses and sorts out his drug addiction, he will be incapable of being a grown up proper boyfriend. Only he can do this. Every time you let him get away with anything you are enabling him to continue to abuse drugs and still enjoy the benefits of having a relationship.

Block his number. Dump. Get rid.

I hope for his own sake he realises he cannot continue like this and seeks professional help, but it is a journey he has to choose to take of his own free will, you cannot force him on it and you cannot accompany him.

He is vanishingly unlikely to make the commitment to sorting himself out so long as you (and any family he may have) continue to make excuses for his behaviour.