Catlady and Mini: Our new beginning (Support Thread)

[CatLadyToddlerMother]

Previous thread here from AIBU

Told to start new thread over here for support. TL:DR as previous thread is almost full: On 4th March this year my husband attacked me and threatened to kill me in front of our then 2 year old. I spent 10 days living on my mums sofa. Am now back in the flat we shared but planning to move soon on the request of my lovely over involved Social Worker. DD is now 3 and despite a few developmental issues is coming on in leaps and bounds. We also have a cat who is fussy, selfish and snobby lovely.

Mini and the cat have been the only things keeping me going sometimes, I've been so down even though everyone thinks I'm doing ok, sometimes I wonder if I'm too good at hiding it and I actually am loosing my mind.

Will post all updates here from now on.

Thankfully not. I've had a word with my downstairs neighbour and she's put her heating on so although not our usual temp my house is 18 degrees so with a duvet we should be ok.

Mini is fast asleep anyway so can't be that cold.

Oh CatLady, you're truly formidable!

The forecast for next week is pretty hot - up to 23 degrees.

I love the way you just roll with the punches.

18 degree’s and your worrying if you’ll be ok?!

If my house was heated to 18 degree’s in the winter for free I’d be laughing!

You guys told me to get a SHL so I did

Found a lovely woman whose willing to accept legal aid, again comes highly recommended and thinks that ExH doesn’t stand a chance of custody. She reckons he’ll get supervised contact but that due to his parents behaviour since the split it’ll likely be in a contact centre for awhile!

Knew it! Hes a stupid man for even thinking he'd get anything else
Had a great parents evening and great news on your front, my day just got better haha

You'll know straight up who I am off the GDD group now

I think i know who you are yes!

Mum did end up ripping the teacher a new one about his homework! She was like 'if I cant understand it how is a 5 year old with a cognitive delay that puts him at the same age as his sister going to bloody understand it?!'

My housing association are stupid!

Solicitor put a rocket up them to come fix the boiler yesterday. Came out last night and they said it was my fault because there was no money on the meter (their was when it went off Sunday night) so they couldn’t fix it until I topped it up.

So emailed solicitor last night to say I was unimpressed and she apparently rang them and told them that if they were going to blame me she’d personally employ a gas fitter to get it looked at...so she did.

A parts broken in the boiler and needs replacing. Not my fault at all!

One more day without heating while we wait for the part. Gas guy said he’ll charge the Housimg Association so I don’t need to worry and I’ve been told by solicitors colleague who specialises in problems with social housing not to let the charge be put onto me as it’s not my fault the boiler broke - I didn’t damage it or anything to make it break.

They need shooting, you'd think with being on a disability register you'd get a decent service atleast, I'm with eon and they've always been brilliant about this kind of stuff

I've just noticed that ex-dp's mum is sat outside mine in the car. I cut off contact with her yesterday after she made a blatantly obvious call to social services. If she wants to play that game that's cool, I can play too

CatLady, fan-bloody-tastic news on all fronts! Those HA's can be truly awful. Do any others operate in your area?

There are other HAs in the area but the one I'm with is the largest and is on an apparent mission to take over all the smaller ones, it's taken over 2 in the last 3 years.

Went pumpkin picking with my munchkin today. She loved it! Chose a huge white one, and 3 smaller orange ones. Thankfully we know the owners of the field where they grow so they let me have all the ones we picked for £4. The white one was as big as my 4.7l slow cooker and the same width as well!

Making soup was fun though.

Queenofthestress Going to be posting on the GDD group with a picture of Mini if you want to look out for it

Ooh, fun! And so nice to eat something you've picked yourself. We used to go blackberrying when I was a kid (and I took my own children too when they were young) and it was great fun, a real family day out, with my parents, nan, aunty and cousin. Nan would make pies and jam, and my parents filled old ice cream containers with blackberries to freeze. Lovely memories, and that's what you're making with Mini.

I am too tired to life, orthotics appointment at 8am this morning, took 30 mins just to strip DS nevermind dress him and DD

I loveee blackberry picking! My auntie has an allotment full of them

Queenofthestress I get tired of appointments too, and I only have me and DD to worry about although I do have to check the cat doesn't destroy letters/the post before I leave!

Walking in the wind and rain was horrible. I'm cold and wet .

Worth it though to be told Mini is doing well .

Its just windy here, DS is not so keen on it! I'm glad she's doing well x

So want to put something about ExH being an asshole and I can't wait to see him court, but as my emails might be read out I can't

Including your posts on social media & here?

No only my emails could be read out. Social Media can be bought into it but I've never posted anything slagging him off on there (although did but a meme on about people accepting their own bullshit, but that was aimed at my dad - but hey if the shoe fits) so I don't think they will.

Not sure he knows my username on here, and even if he does. I've never slagged him off as far as I know. That's the first time I've name called.

I'd have used the term psychopath not asshole

Pumpkin picking! Oh what fun. I hope the Judge is shown a schedule of all the fun things you do with Mini like this, as well as a typical week. You are making lovely memories for you both, as well as giving her a general feeling of loveliness re her childhood.

My solicitor said that I've done nothing wrong, and as long as I admit I have problems and show ways it a) doesn't affect Mini and b) I've helped myself then it's fine. She says the photos from Soft Plays, Pumpkin Picking etc will all show that I don't let my MH hold DD back.