Catlady and Mini: Our new beginning (Support Thread)

[CatLadyToddlerMother]

Previous thread here from AIBU

Told to start new thread over here for support. TL:DR as previous thread is almost full: On 4th March this year my husband attacked me and threatened to kill me in front of our then 2 year old. I spent 10 days living on my mums sofa. Am now back in the flat we shared but planning to move soon on the request of my lovely over involved Social Worker. DD is now 3 and despite a few developmental issues is coming on in leaps and bounds. We also have a cat who is fussy, selfish and snobby lovely.

Mini and the cat have been the only things keeping me going sometimes, I've been so down even though everyone thinks I'm doing ok, sometimes I wonder if I'm too good at hiding it and I actually am loosing my mind.

Will post all updates here from now on.

Mini told Nursery staff she hadn't decorated a biscuit, she had she just wanted a second

Not sure whether to be impressed at her abilities to negotiate and get what she wants clearly inherited her brains from me or to be shocked at the cheekiness of it.

She did decorate a second biscuit btw

cheeky minx!

Regards to potty training please remind her that children with GDD typically dont potty train until 4, it all depends on the estimated age/how big the delay

As every bugger and their mother on here knows DS turned 5 in oct with a 2/3 year delay, he has literally only just potty trained completely 3 weeks ago, and he still isnt night time potty trained. Hell he's still in a pull up right now at this second. GDD usually goes hand in hand with sensory issues, autistic traits and ADHD traits, all three of which my DS has so he's took longer. It took 6 weeks to even get him to entertain staying on a toilet long enough to even wee. Never mind actually going. All in all its took a year to potty train from start to finish.

Queenofthestress Her delay isn't severe, it's classed as Mild to Moderate but it's still there. She's mostly dry in the day but does struggle sometimes, particularly when she's done something like a group or swimming in the morning, by 3pm she's having accidents.

And she has more accidents at home I think because she relaxes and forgets to say she needs to go.

From reading on here I've learnt that schools doing residential often have to deal with bed wetting. Sometimes into secondary school too but definatly at primary. All hormone related. It seems to me that woman needs a bit of training!

My daughter (now in her twenties) was still in nappies at night until she was eight. She wasn't dry during the day until she was four and then she had quite a few accidents. We had a continence nurse and she said it was ok to just go with DD and take her lead. That we should accept it might be later than others but that was part of her global delay. Delay being the word.. she would get there but in her own time.

I wasn't dry in the day until 7 and at night until I started secondary at age 13 (3 tier system where I am) so I'm not overly worried about Mini, in fact I'm very proud of her.

I bet you are... and quite rightly too!

You are a fabulous little team ❤️

Don’t feel a team todya, she’s really testing my patience. She’s thrown a football at my granddad, deliberately wet herself when I put her in timeout, then kicked me in the face afterwards because I asked her to not kick me.

is it bedtime yet?

Good to see her threeanger attitude isn't delayed! Little minx.

Deep breaths, deep breaths and an early night?

Kids can certainly be trying at times!

It apparently is bedtime! Flat out asleep on the sofa

She tries your patience because she feels safe with you. But you know that already.

she feels safe with you

She definitely does and I do think SW knows that, as she commented on how well behaved Mini was at the first supervised contact.

I'm Queen Mummy and she's Princess Mini

My DD was diagnosed with GDD she is nearly 6, she's lovely just had parents evening and she's above average.

Not bragging 2 year ago she was a frigging nightmare, out of control tantrums, kicking holes in the wall, kicking me. Lots of ADHD and ASD traits multiple CAHMS appointments both of us in tears every day. We didn't have her dry through the night till four and a half.

If someone had told me then how much she would improve I would have laughed but she has.

I'm actually on a course now I requested to go on two years ago it's at the local surestart centre and called Webster Stratton. I'm finding it helpful but it would of been a god send when her behaviour was at it worst. If you can get on one I would really recommend it.

Mini is absolutely insisting she's a snowman rather than a snowflake for her play, it's on Thursday, she already has a snowman dress from last Christmas, do you think it'll matter if she wears it? My mum made her a Tshirt with snowflakes on but she says she doesn't like it.

It's a white dress with black eyes, a carrot "nose" and a mouth, then a white tutu for the skirt bits.

Seriously panicking about it.

I'd let her wear it to the nursery and let them sort it out. A snowman is made up out of snowflakes after all... I'm sure they're used to this kind of thing, don't panic!

Oh don't panic, I'm sure the dress will be fine. Check with nursery, and if they want a snowflake very badly then they'll talk to her.

I'll email the General Manager when I get a chance.

Bloody cat has just pulled the Christmas Tree over again in an attempt to climb it... I now remember why we put the tree up on 18th Dec and took it down on 27th Dec last year...

@Pandamodium I also did the Webster Stratton programme about 6 years ago and was surprised how much I learnt from it.
@CatLadyToddlerMother, if you get the chance to do this course, please attend as it is so insightful and very interesting xx

Sure my neighbours are going to think I'm performing some sort of exocism on Mini.

She's currently stood in her bedroom completely naked screaming her head off but won't let me near her to dress her or comfort her...all because I got her out of the bath she'd been sat in for 45 minutes...she loves water so would have happily sat there for longer...

I remember that stage. My dd didn’t want to get in, and then she didn’t want to get out! Cue screaming at start and end of the bath

Zofloramummy I don't get a choice of when she gets a bath anymore, she takes my hand and says "Bath time now"

My youngest hated getting out of the bath, even when his teeth were chattering! In the end, I invented the Plug Monster! Our bath made that sucking, gurgly sound when the water was draining, so I said that was the Plug Monster, and if he stayed in the bath, it would suck him up with the water. It worked, and he didn't find it traumatic, it became a game to get out of the bath before he could hear the Plug Monster!

Motoko I might try that, if she's scared I can always change it to something else.