Catlady and Mini: Our new beginning (Support Thread)

[CatLadyToddlerMother]

Previous thread here from AIBU

Told to start new thread over here for support. TL:DR as previous thread is almost full: On 4th March this year my husband attacked me and threatened to kill me in front of our then 2 year old. I spent 10 days living on my mums sofa. Am now back in the flat we shared but planning to move soon on the request of my lovely over involved Social Worker. DD is now 3 and despite a few developmental issues is coming on in leaps and bounds. We also have a cat who is fussy, selfish and snobby lovely.

Mini and the cat have been the only things keeping me going sometimes, I've been so down even though everyone thinks I'm doing ok, sometimes I wonder if I'm too good at hiding it and I actually am loosing my mind.

Will post all updates here from now on.

Yeah I’ve got a saltdough recipe going to do it on Monday, Mini will love it could paint if afterwards too! Might do a snowflake this year as that’s her part in the Christmas Play.

I suck at making saltdough so you're doing better than me on that front but I can make some great playdough

Decorating the tree and Mini’s eaten most of the chocolates to go on it

They always appeared overnight for us - Father Christmas put them on when he brought our stockings. Only way they had a chance!

I honestly don’t mind, seeing her happy chocolate covered face reminded me it’s all worth it

Good luck with your daily refills!

Won’t be refilling them although my mum or granddad might

My sinus infection is getting better but I’m so exhausted

Glad you're feeling a bit better. Would your mum be able to take Mini for a few hours so you can get some sleep?

Headache got so bad last night I’ve come to a+e just to make sure I’m ok. They don’t seem overly worried so feel a bit of a fraud but it was so bad I vomited so wasn’t going to take a chance.

Minis at Nursery as normal though, mum dropped her on the way to hospital with me.

Ok they are worried, had a blood test and been sent for an X-ray and mri also been given Morphine.

Mums treated me to breakfast to make me feel less worried...it hasn’t helped but I appreciate the thought. Doctors and Nurses are being lovely and have said I can use the nurses station phone to call Nursery when I’ve been for my mri

Good luck, CatLady. Fingers crossed. I'll be thinking of you.

I’m absolutely fine. X-ray and mri showed swelling my face but nothing serious. They’re not sure what’s caused this headache though so got to keep an eye and make sure it doesn’t come back.

Fell asleep as soon as I got back. First proper sleep in weeks must have been the Morphine.

So exhausted still. But hoping the headache doesn’t come back so I can be in bed at the same time as Mini tonight.

And my tooth just broke...

Good job I have a dentist appointment on Thursday...

Oh dear! You are having a run of bad luck! Keep you fluids up and sleep lots

The A+E doctor complimented how hydrated I was as they took a urine sample, so I’ll just keep doing what I’ve been doing

My urologist said wee should look like a nice chardonnay!

Mine was clear with a slight tinge of yellow, there were white bits in it but the Dr said it was the antibiotics coming out of my system

Email from the Nursery yes I know it's late the General Manager never bloody sleeps inviting me to a meeting with GM of Nursery, HT and Senco of the school I met a few weeks ago (the one I said ExH doesn't want her to go to but I think is perfect for her), the specialist HV and both SWs.

If they were going to take her off me they wouldn't be doing these meetings would they? They'd be having them with him? This is positive and indicative isn't it?

7 weeks yesterday to the final hearing.

Yes yes yes! They would be having meetings that affect her long term future with whoever is going to be the primary carer at that point!

Looking good, Catlady! I do hope you're feeling better, ASAP! Maybe you've had some kind of dental infection causing all this pain. Perhaps it will go away now! (Hopefully ex will get bored and go away too!)

Great! Believe in yourself, my lovely! You are awesome!!'

Mini back from final "supervised" contact.

Feel a bit anxious about it going to just his mum supervising. And the SW singing his praises really didn't help - apparently he was so good with her, I know he's trying to prove I'm wrong.

I've offered every Thursday and every other Sunday, but they're still saying it can't be organised via solicitor. SW is saying we won't have solicitors for ever so can't use them - I know that but it's until it's an established pattern of contact, why is the sodding SW not understanding that it's to protect my own MH?

Finding this whole thing frustrating, particularly with being ill as well.

Bangs head against wall

Also being criticized for Mini still being in nappies at night, apparently that's not helping her daytime training at all, this is according to the specialist HV. I am already doing two loads of washing a day with all her wet clothes from accident, I really don't need to be doing her bedding every day as well, she has two sets but as I have no dryer and only a small washer (it's big enough to get her uniform/clothes/my stuff done but not big enough for a full single bed set - my mum washes my own bedding as her washer is big enough for a full double/king size set) it'll take ages.

However did get complimented on her manners...

I can't work this woman out

My daughter was dry at 2 during the day very reliably, but soaking wet at night until she was five.
Trust your instincts. YOU are her parent.
The best parenting advice I ever heard was ‘it’s only a problem if it’s a problem for you.’

I’m still using a pack of nappies a week so she’s not ready for night time potty training.