Catlady and Mini: Our new beginning (Support Thread)

[CatLadyToddlerMother]

Previous thread here from AIBU

Told to start new thread over here for support. TL:DR as previous thread is almost full: On 4th March this year my husband attacked me and threatened to kill me in front of our then 2 year old. I spent 10 days living on my mums sofa. Am now back in the flat we shared but planning to move soon on the request of my lovely over involved Social Worker. DD is now 3 and despite a few developmental issues is coming on in leaps and bounds. We also have a cat who is fussy, selfish and snobby lovely.

Mini and the cat have been the only things keeping me going sometimes, I've been so down even though everyone thinks I'm doing ok, sometimes I wonder if I'm too good at hiding it and I actually am loosing my mind.

Will post all updates here from now on.

She says usually ok but today’s just been hard.

The is going down a treat I must say. I don’t drink often but days like today I need a glass or two.

Catlady xx I love reading your update about you and your lovely daughter, I read your updates all the time and you are a really good caring mam xxxxxx

Today’s outfit would really annoy Ex-MIL:

Bright yellow tshirt
Light grey leggings with rainbows on
Dark green socks with pink cats on
And wellies...

I give up trying to get her to wear “normal” clothes

Sounds NFT to me - Normal For Toddler.

your little lady has style :)

Poor Mini not having much luck with illness; tonsillitis, a slight chest infection and a bit of an ear infection. No wonder she's been so unsettled at night...

Antibiotics for 10 days, hopefully I get some sleep between now and next Thursday...

Oh babe(s). It's about that time of year again isn't it? Her immune system is going to be imoregnable when she's older. Meanwhile .... I used to make the sofa into a bed for dd at that age, so we could both lie on it, warm and cosy, sleep, have pyjama days, little treats, silly films.

My sofa isn't big enough, but I will be sleeping on her bedroom floor for the next few nights.

We had a winter a few years ago that started similar, so hoping that we don't have a repeat as she ended up in hospital for a week and we were back and forth to A+E on no less than 16 occasions.

Daim icecream just what I needed

Mini's bed is coming today, I've got an overexcited toddler who keeps coughing when she gets excited, today's going to be a long day...

[overexcited too]!

I did it! Bed built, and made. Even managed to move the wardrobe!

Mini still isn't well though, she loves her new bed. I took her out to a little cafe for food afterwards and she didn't eat or drink a thing .

She is happily drinking orange squash now but I had hoped she'd at least try some of her chocolate milkshake with extra cream and a flake she did eat the flake though the cheeky monkey

She's full of slime, she won't want food. My DDs had a cold (a bad one but just a cold) last week and that was very snotty too - they hardly ate a thing the first two days. And these are cupboard emptiers normally. Mini will start eating again when she's on the mend.

And well done, oh queen of flatpacks!

Mini was so excited for her new bed she's gone to bed an hour early!

She looks so tiny in her big bed. But she's happy which is all that matters.

Is it big enough for both of you? go on, I know you want to...!

I couldn't get in with her if I wanted. She's fast asleep in the middle of the bed, duvet wrapped round her looking so happy. In her little toddler bed the duvet fell off so much so maybe she did need the extra space afterall.

My aunts fixed elephant! His trunk was a bit battered, so my aunts sewn it back on and you can’t even tell.

Even Mini thinks it’s amazing keeps saying “My elephant all better” then hugging him

Oh that's just lovely to hear. You are such a close little two-person family!

Where have I left a tiny grey school skirt? It’s size 18-24m so I know it’s small but surely not small enough to have lost it in a week since she last wore it?

It'll be down the back of something OP. I lost my new underskirt (bought to wear at a wedding) for a year. I found it down the back of the china cabinet (shows how often I clean behind it) - and it was certainly anything but tiny!

She has another if I can't find it and a pair of trousers but she loves skirts and won't wear trousers if she can help it to Nursery...

It'll be folded into something else. Our duvet covers are notorious for eating socks and pants.

Just had the cafcass report for Thursday.

They are not on my side. They are in agreement with SW that ExH is no risk to DD - they state that I use DD as an emotional weapon against ExH as a way to punish him.

I told you, I'm going to lose her. And never see her again because he won't let me

I have never wanted to do anything but keep her safe. The bloody report says he doesn't agree with her diagnoses and the SW backs it up by saying I'm overanxious about her.

Maybe I should just accept I am not the right parent for her.

He's lied to Cafcass as well.

He's said that I followed him into the room where he attacked me and I hadn't spoken to him for 3 weeks.

That is not what happened. I am crying here that this man will get his hand on my child

How long do you think I have with her? Do you think they'll take her Thursday? Or will I get a couple of days to pack up her stuff and say goodbye?