The Claw....a thread about loneliness

[HopelessWithNumbers]

Combating Loneliness At Weekends

I don’t know if this is 100% appropriate for ‘Relationships’ but a few of us on another thread have been discussing the horrible loneliness that can invade (not exclusively at weekends of course) when you are single or not single but feeling that the rest of the world is enjoying themselves with families, friends or partners.

Of course some people love their own company, but others struggle. My child is an adult so my time is pretty much my own (apart from work), but I have just come out of a relationship and am finding it difficult to keep the sadness and anxiety at bay.

Other people are in relationships but not getting what they need in some way, and so feeling sad and / or lonely.

Could we use this thread for supporting people in that position? Virtually and perhaps meeting in ‘real life’?

hopeless, I’ve never been to Hamble, and I don’t know anything about the doll. I’ll take a photo of it and show you 😊

FolkGirl thank you 😊
And that's beautiful. I needed that reminder. I do believe that's a very powerful thing to do and if we can change the way we see things then that's a positive change surely?

8fencing Yes I have! Again, thank you for the reminder! Maybe it's time to re read that one 😊

I thought it was great Emma My comment certainly wasn’t a criticism!

I think you and FolkGirl are right; starting small and maybe trying not to expect immediate and enormous changes in our lives.

I think I’m going to try to be a bit more open at work , starting gently of course. Don’t want to expose myself too much to begin with!

8Fencing
Hamble the doll www.bbc.co.uk/cult/classic/playschool/trivia.shtml

I agree with the PP who mentioned the dog show; I took my two to a show at the weekend, they disappeared together and I was left sitting in the tent (too hot!) watching all the happy couples together and doing the death stare at the couples who were obviously objecting to me sitting alone at a table for four.

Hopeless thank you, no, that was just me having a vulnerable moment!

I think that's a great idea as a first challenge. Gently sounds perfect. Sending you some of the courage 8fencing shared with me 😊

Hamble the doll

Stone the crows, it's a infant Kim Jong Un.

I am sorry that you are all feeling this way... I have a loving partner and we are trying for a baby (just had a miscarriage) but I do sometime still feel lonely! strange isn't it!
I have 2 dogs and I also work full time 10hours a day..
If I was in similar situation of not having a pet due to work I would look to adopt an older dog who just wants a slower life and love!
I found online dating great for meeting all sorts of people and then I meet my now partner! don't give up

Moved by how many of us there are on this thread, and all the different stories. I've also realised I've been doing a version of 'I'd be happy if only...' but with loneliness. For example, I think to myself 'I'd stop being lonely if only I had a few more friends/my DC with me at weekends instead of with their dad/I had a warm and supportive family/a partner I was in love with' etc etc. Then I read posts on here from people who have at least one of those things, but are still sad because of the areas where they are lacking. I also think that stopping or cutting down usage of facebook would really help me, because it seems as though everyone on there has a perfect life, perfect family and are basically deliriously happy.

I think I've realised that the loneliness is something I somehow carry with me, and need to shake off. Rather than being because I don't have x, y or z. I work from home so don't have workmates, no family to speak of and my DC is often away as we 50/50. But I bet some people would be rejoicing at my life and would make something amazing out of it. I just have to somehow get out there and find meaningful connections. Because actually that is all that matters, not money or fame or stuff, but just loving and being loved back.
Wow I'm going deep tonight

hopeless, I am howling with laughter! What in the god’s name is THAT?😂😂🤣🤣

Stone the crows, it's a infant Kim Jong Un. Pahahahahaha

Bloody bell that doll 😳 I’d rather be alone than have that sit next to me on the sofa 😁

Or bloody hell even takescoat

Infant Kim Jong Un 🤣🤣🤣 I can’t breathe!!!
emma, have you read the sequel too? I love Rachel Joyce!

folk, bloody bell is even funnier than bloody hell 😂

That doll was the stuff of nightmares. No wonder I’ve got problems

Excellent observation about the North Korean leader!

How will I sleep NOW?

An infant Kim Jong Un! 😂🤣😂🤣
Brilliant!

I think I've realised that the loneliness is something I somehow carry with me, and need to shake off. Wow. Yes. Beautifully put. Also hopeful as we have the power to change it

8fencing I haven't read to sequel but I have it on my bookshelf, great idea 👍

Glad to have made you all laugh - you're replies have made me laugh too.

I feel a meme coming on. If only I knew how to make them.

Hopeless sorry for late reply, only just finished work. It'll be all talk, but then nothing will change.

I think this might work

Brilliant brizzle!
I think you should put it out there or whatever you do with a meme I'm too out of touch to understand what a meme really is

anyone feeling better now it's Monday! Routine back in place and have a purpose again, which for me is work. Can't believe how days of the week can feel so different. Sunday is the worst. Monday is a different game.

Yes tartan the fog starts to lift a bit for me on Monday- I find it hard to get going but by Tuesday I tend to feel a bit more human again. Agree it's about purpose.