Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Well done tomhardy - you did the right thing and you're right, taking solace in real life is the best thing to do.

val I prefer Rosé. Does that make me bivinial?

tomhardy is it possible he just thought it was funny?

Absolutely Bendy - open mind

Tom he might just have found it funny, as you know I had similar with Mr Camper (who found my house), I let him off, he joked about it a few times and said ‘I hope you don’t think I’m a stalker?’, there’s been no more stalking since and no more amber/red flags so all is forgotten.

Personally I think if someone that early on seeks out your workplace deliberately, takes a photo and sends it to you, then that is bloody odd. I'm all for larking around but crikey, I would find that v stalkerish.

Sounds like you did the right thing @TomHardysBitontheside.

I walked past MSG’s workplace today, and told him about it. I don’t think it came across as creepy because: 1. It’s a big workplace, and a bit of a landmark in the local area (so I didn’t need to seek it out, as I knew where it was and what it looked like anyway); 2. He knows I live near it; and 3. It genuinely was just on my way where I was going.

Oh. And I didn’t take a photo of me outside it. That would be super weird.

I hope it didn’t come across as creepy. I didn’t say ‘I walked by your work’. I told him that I went for a walk to X, and he didn’t know where that was. So I said it was behind where he works.

I should stop overthinking!

I did feel it was odd as we've only been chatting for a week. My work is a small company and sits behind a locked gate, where it's not that easy to see which companies are in that complex.

I'm generally quite relaxed about stuff, but finding me on social media, viewing my LinkedIn and then doing that all in the space of a week, without even discussing meeting for a date, just didn't sit well with me.

Fair enough. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then he’s not going to be right for you even if he’s not actually a creepy stalker.

what unimaginative said ^^

Tom that would have freaked me out a bit too, ditto what Unimaginative and Bendy said.

Well, fellow SUCers. I have my glass here, watching Antiques Roadshow, chatting online with a cute young man, and have you lot to keep me company on my larry too...what could be better? a real date

Cheers!

Swing both ways Val? What are you trying to imply?

Cheers Bendy.

On my tod too, I shall be going to bed soon. Feeling fed up as ex is not being helpfull about helping out during school holidays with the kids, not sure how I am meant to get time to date when I have no child care and have to try and work too. I don’t think Mr Campervan will stick around if I can’t make time to see him . I hate summer holidays.

cheers lovemusic

It's the 24hr of child without respite that is most stressful! Luckily mine is in childcare as usual so I can work skive off for dates

Nice to have a king size bed to myself tonight - it is so hot - last night was sweaty 😋😋 I love having a part-time friend !

Kin I'm back on a rather nice red tonight from M and S

val you fox, you!

I love having a part-time friend !

Does it take AA or AAA batteries.

Hello all...I’m new on here! This is my bed friend tonight....better conversation with him than those that view me on line and then don’t bother to even say HI! I must be vile ! Cheek of it...l

Lois

kin

That feeling when you have so many WA conversations going that you tell the wrong person you're feeling dirty and suggest to your boss that you may be feeling a tad horny right now

@Kinunir
Did your boss respond? 😂

I had a similar heart in mouth moment earlier when I messaged my sister joking about how I'm an easy shag then panicked thinking I'd sent it to Mr Nextdoor whom I have a first date with on Wednesday
Luckily it was in fact my sister but I have so many WA convos on the go it's so hard to keep track! I keep having to scroll back to remember what I've said to who otherwise I end up repeating myself 🤦🏼‍♀️

Ha, he did washy - sounds like he's only on Tinder and having a hard time of it so he suggested a drink. I suspect he meant in the bar near work. Fortunately, he has a good sense of humour!

Mr Nextdoor is a lucky man

PS what is a shag?