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Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

999 replies

ValMc1 · 06/07/2018 12:58

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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DaffoDeffo · 14/07/2018 20:45

Omg I thought I posted.

It was too long - short version was lots of dates being arranged. Women of thread, if I have a waxing on Thursday- not whole way but neat triangle (think wild man of Borneo pre waxing), will I be in the state to DTD Thursday or should I wait till Friday?

Think not having had sex since the dark ages when bushy triangles were in

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 20:50

If one more person tries to sext me this week with boring one-liners I am going to have to have a massive WA purge!!

BendyLikeBeckham · 14/07/2018 20:53

daffo having seen what waxing does to my skin, I am a neat all over trimmer now. How did your skin react when you did it before in the dark ages ?

BendyLikeBeckham · 14/07/2018 20:54

kin no stealth boast there!

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 20:57

I wish Bendy! Only have two active conversations now - all the other chats I was having have dried up :(

esk1mo · 14/07/2018 20:58

wishy how old are you? 24 is fine, he’s a grown man Wink

daffo i’ve never waxed but i’d give it around 24 hours to calm down? im sure the skin will be irritated a little bit (hopefully not red raw )

BendyLikeBeckham · 14/07/2018 21:02

Dried up because they were boring? Or just fizzled out? Sometimes that's the same I guess.

wishywashy6 · 14/07/2018 21:05

@esk1mo

I'm 36 so it's only 12 years....I've done younger! 😂

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 21:06

Fizzled out which, as you say, is typically the same thing.

Dan89 · 14/07/2018 21:18

I've just downloaded Badoo. Bugger me, that was a waste of time

Lovemusic33 · 14/07/2018 21:18

Bendy welcome to the bench. I think the thing I’m must frustrated with is the fact I won’t be getting MB this weekend. I think this is the reason I want to see Mr Campervan more, although I’m not just after sex, it’s just I want it more often Grin Anyway, he’s spending the evening at home, probably with his mum, the way he was talking the other night it sounds like he plans on living with his mum forever Hmm, this maybe a slight amber flag?

Anyway, feeling a bit fed up, there’s a big even just up the road from me, I can hear the music and people enjoying themselves whilst I’m sat in my garden on my own. I wish I was there but I don’t really mix with the people that are going (the villagers) and I was hoping Mr Campervan was coming over so didn’t arrange to go with anyone.

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 21:20

Have you tried OKC yet Dan? That's the best one for me bar none lately.

Dan89 · 14/07/2018 21:24

I've signed up to OKC, but there don't appear to be too many active users round me.

Has anyone deleted and re-set up their accounts to reset the people you've already swiped on?

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 21:26

OKC is great as people tend to write much richer profiles - makes opening messages a lot easier.

You can delete Tinder and Bumble to start again for sure.

HalfDutchGirl · 14/07/2018 21:35

Bendy thanks for letting me join Sluts United, loving our new group, you me and Love and washy what a team!

Washy Have fun with Mr Horizontal. I’ve decided to up my age limit to 40, realised talking to a 34 year old was very lovely and his body was very hot, but some kind of sense had to prevail (plus he stopped messaging me but don’t tell anyone else that!).

Kin of course - it’s all down to you and your fabulous critique of my profile!

I’m still hoping Mr Hat will reappear. Being stood up today knocked me a bit even though Mr Perv was a Perv and I didn’t really like him!!

Spoke to Mr T earlier, he seems nice and easy to chat to but I want some fun and some bantz, he may be a bit straight for me. Seeing Mr PP Tuesday, know very little about him but here’s hoping!

Haven’t read the last page yet, will comment on that in a mo ...

RunsforCake14 · 14/07/2018 21:51

My date tonight was zzzzzzzzzzz. So boring.
I'm a busy person. Some would say too busy. But I don't get why men in their late forties, early fifties just do nothing other than work, sleep, eat. They don't have kids at home.
My date tonight had no hobbies etc. Just watched TV, swiped on Tinder or had the occasional drink with mates

HalfDutchGirl · 14/07/2018 21:52

Wishy I’m like Bendy I’m a neat all over trimmer person though I do go for a bit of a waxing on special occasions, I’d leave it 24 hours but I haven’t had any adverse reaction and don’t go too bald!! A while back I was chatting to someone and he wanted to check I didn’t have ‘a bare mimsy’ Hahaha!! That was a new one on me!

Oh kin my love have you been deserted by them all, do you want to change your mind on the divorce?

Lovemusic33 · 14/07/2018 21:54

Runs I have had a few dates like that, felt really boring as there was nothing to talk about other than to ask what their favourite tv show is. I hardly watch any tv and I like to keep busy (more so in the summer). I couldn't imagine having no hobbies.

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 21:55

I'll take you back only if you keep the bare mimsy and give me the goddamn tv back half!

BendyLikeBeckham · 14/07/2018 21:55

runs it's a real turn off isn't it! I had a date like that last week. Very hot sexy guy to look at. No ambition. No good chat. Happy to stay in the same job for 19 years and live in a flatshare in his 40s. Dull and uninspiring. I need a man who sparks.

RunsforCake14 · 14/07/2018 22:00

Love Bendy most of my dates are like this.
I make it clear on my profile that I'm an active person with a busy life. Then they act surprised when I tell them that I don't think we have much in common.

HalfDutchGirl · 14/07/2018 22:01

Oh no Runs how disappointing, no hobbies at all? What is wrong with these men. Onwards and upwards!

Question for anyone who can help...

Ok, so you get chatting to someone, it turns quite flirty and a lot of innuendos and sexty, how easy is it then to move on to meeting with them in RL? I’ve had a number of those chats but not met any of them (yet!) and wondered if it was weird to then have a drink with someone who you’ve sex chatted to? Any answers and/or tips on how to move from sexting to meeting. Can you tell how desperate I am for a bit more MB (come on Mr Local, pull your flipping finger out!).

BendyLikeBeckham · 14/07/2018 22:05

Surely you want it in, not out. Or both halfdutch ?

just thought I'd preempt kin on the filth tonight

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 22:07

Ok, so you get chatting to someone, it turns quite flirty and a lot of innuendos and sexty, how easy is it then to move on to meeting with them in RL?

Very! Ask him when he's free next!

Kinunir · 14/07/2018 22:08

flipping finger out

Wouldn't you prefer it in half? Wink

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