Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I've just said the same thing 4 times. Brevity is not always my forte.

Don't laugh but I can't work out how OKC works!!
There's a few guys I've just messaged but how do know if I have a message back? I'm mega confused by this site

conversations at the bottom of the screen

Can't see anything... I'm on my mobile. This is obviously not going to work for me, although I got an email saying I had a message.

have you downloaded the app? it's better to do so

YABU I couldn’t work OKC either! I had the APP but it was all so jumbled I just couldn’t get my head around it.

Does anyone experience when they've been chatting to somone on WA, there has been a lull of a couple of days, and then they can't remember anything about that person when the chat resumes?

I'm going to get myself in trouble.

it looks like this on my phone

Yes Bendy I get that! Have to keep scrolling back to remind myself who I’m talking too!

Mind you, the guys obviously have the problem too - I got called the wrong name by someone yesterday!

You guys have it so easy - I got divorced and lost my house online tonight. Moody moo wouldn't even let me walk away with the tv

Dutch, don't worry, I sent what I thought was a hysterical message (ranking crisps, don't ask lol) only to be met with a stony silence. At least I can laugh at my own jokes...;)

daffo sometimes we are the only ones who appreciate them!

Just back from my date with Mr Insecure. And I actually like him. Conversation flowed easily. A couple of hours disappeared quickly.
But he's been hurt badly in the past so isn't really sure if he wants a relationship or just Fwb.
I'll just wait and see if he wants to see me again or if he'll just run away scared.

Oh Kin you poor love who could possibly be so mean to you!!

Daffo Glad it’s not just me!

Runs Great the date went well, at least he was honest with you about what he wants/doesn’t want I suppose.

I was a bit confused about her name half but she had proper nice boobs I tell ya!

Late to the thread. I'm mid 40s, joined match had one fun fling with a long distance lover. Trouble is we got a bit keen on each other but both have young kids , commitments so neither in a position to move .
I Decided the only way to stop the intensity of this sitch is to open up to more local opportunities.
Match in my opinion is shite. A real dearth of decent guys my age and a bloody waste of money and time and effort in creating a decent profile.
So...
I signed up to several free sites to try and get a wider dating pool.
My goodness. There's some interesting fellas out there.
Today a pic of someone sobbing or apperently sobbing. He looks broken. Not sexy.
A high number of guys in hi-viz vests at work, is this across the board or just my age group and location
And I can't believe the amount of partnered up men and the ones who have their ex or current gf in their profile pics!
Still, getting more hits in the free site but not nearly as much as the last time I did OLD in the early 00s!

pudding yay for new job! also, do you mean someone on mumsnet sent you a dick pick?! WHOM?!

until someone has a picture of themselves crying on a dating site? what the heck.

my dating situation is currently: get bored, download dating app, browse, see no one i like, delete app.

i cant tell you how much i want to connect with someone in real life i want to have fun and flirt. the personal trainers from my gym are all having a night out tomorrow (mix of men and women) and one of them has invited me along, so i may go to that as one of them is quite cute.

Hey guys, another newbie to this thread!

Been chatting to a guy on whatsapp for the past week or so (matched on Tinder) and he's absolutely my type, I find it so hard to be physically attracted to guys (I know, I know) BUT... he keeps cutting the conversation short, leaving me on read - we can be in the middle of talking about something, I might've even asked him a question, and... no reply.

Then he'll come back a few hours or half a day later as if nothing's happened with a completely new topic or a "hey, how're you doing?". I'm getting a bit sick of it really. I understand not wanting to talk just for talking's sake, but I'm someone who wants to get to know as much about the other person as possible, so I'd try and come up with a follow up comment or Q to whatever the topic may be, not just ignore and then reply with whatever I want to talk about (which is usually something about HIM)!

Goes without saying really but bin??? He'll only be someone who talks about himself in person won't he?

Katie he is playing you. Either accept that while it fulfils your aims or bin.

esk1mo on here? I missed that bit. Oh dear, kin have you been naughty again?

welcome to newbies.

What am i supposed to do with this?

I have had 2 newish people chatting tonight both of whom are on gardening leave (when I asked why they were up so late I.e don't you have a job to go to!). Either there are a lot of people on gardening leave atm or I attract a shitload of hairy handed truckers. I know what my money would be on lol

Lol Bendy. Then again given my crisp joke fell flat, it may be someone who thinks they are hysterical but err aren't

Manky dick picture? Yuk

So, had my 5th date with Mr Campervan last night, all went well but I think I have messed it up, I was extra nervous last night and I think I came across as being a bit grumpy and quiet. I’m really confused as to what he wants and I’m probably giving off the wrong signals whilst trying to play it cool. He has asked to see me again Tuesday and mentioned maybe seeing me Saturday for a bit. I think I will message him today to find out where it’s going (if it’s going anywhere or if we are just FWB). I really like him but he reminds my of one of my closest friends who is a right male tart (sleeps around, cheats) so a part of me is worried that he is like this too, silly of me I know.

Whilst we were out he had a phone call from his mum, it all reminded me a little of Howard from ‘Big bang theory’ (his mum shouting down the phone).

We DTD again last night but I just wasn’t feeling it as my mind was all over the place. I need to chill out and relax a bit more and maybe talk to him.

do you mean someone on mumsnet sent you a dick pick?!

Oh dear, kin have you been naughty again?

Trouble often walks with me like a looming shadow in a dimly lit street but in this case I feel compelled to confirm that the offending member was neither me nor mine.