He made me eat paper

[Cantspellbutimmagic]

I’m stuck in my situation
I know I can’t get out but it helps to write

Tonight after 3 days non stop verbal abuse or complete silence towards me
My husband found some pictures I drew of how I felt ( sad faces ect )

That day - he called his parents to our table
He said I had to explain myself and the images

I said it’s just how I feel , I draw sad things when I’m sad

He called the kids to watch and He said You have two options

Eat your drawings now or I will devorse you and take it all

I said no I won’t ?!? Why would you even suggest such things

After arguing about this for a while and refusing , his mum started pleading with me to eat the paper

After sometime he held me against the wall and shoved it all in my mouth then pushed me in the floor in front of our family

I can’t belive I was made to eat paper I’m so upset this has happened to me . And they saw

Has anyone ever heard of this before ?

Please don't stop posting, whatever you do.

I think when you're being this abused it takes away your strength, your strength to see a way out and the fear of being alone becomes all consuming,

Just call women's aid and talk to them. Find some private time where no one can hear you and just call and explain what's happening to you. As a first step. No one will act without your permission and it will be confidential. Don't worry,

Also, like Diddl said - the children may tell someone at school and you’ll be forced to act then.
Do you think this latest incident has given you more incentive to leave?

You do have options. Do talk to Women's Aid.

www.womensaid.org.uk/
0808 2000 247

What you were subjected to falls under Domestic Violence and you should be able to access some form of legal help.
You could also get help with court orders to protect you.
www.ncdv.org.uk/
0207 186 8270 or 0800 970 2070

You can't live like this.

Please get out

Been in this situation

Humiliated for months

Tried to kill me in March

Keep posting on here

Ladies on here were amazing
Ring refuge
Please get out now
I waited probably 10 months thinking it would get better
He then proceeded to hit me in my sleep and on Mother's Day attempted to kill me

and keep posting please

0808 2000 247

They can refer you to emergency shelter. Phone today.

Hi OP, you are not weak, you are being abused. You deserve better than this. Can you visit your GP and show them this post on your phone? You won't have to say much more than that, they will be able to help and get you some counselling at the very least. Keep talking on here, loads of women have on here have been where you are. Good luck.

Please do not stop posting. You can see here how much support you have. We need to know you and your children are safe.

Op has this recent incident made you feel more angry? It should do.. can you harness that anger to act? You have a right to be angry. Think how dare he do that to you and your kids. Harness it. Feel it. Tell someone in RL. Please

By the sounds of it. Everyone seems scared of him. The MIL pleading with you to eat the paper (instead of standing up and giving him a solid mouthful of obscenities for behaving so disgracefully and being ashamed of ever bringing him into to this world!!) Is a statement of how she is so desperate to pacify him.
This man thrives from control and will never stop. Only you can take that power away from him by leaving him.

OP please don't go away. Keep posting. You are not weak and you are not being silly and you are not wasting anybody's time.

You and your children have a right to be safe and to be free of your abusive husband.

looondonn I'm glad you're safe now.
OP there must be someone you can talk to in RL: GP; work colleague; health visitor. Do keep posting here because it gives you a record with dates. But in RL, you need to leave and telling someone is the first step in that process.

If you are in the UK still, you CAN leave. There is nothing forcing you to stay within the confines of an abusive relationship.

Your OP is one of the most distressing things I have read on here. And to bring up children in this environment.

I would be on the phone to the police. They can have him removed. You have witnesses to his abuse. The police can find translators who can get to the bottom of what he has told his parents. They can interview the children in an age appropriate manner etc.

You have to get out or he WILL end up killing you.

You need to leave sweetie. You really do. You don't deserve to be treated like this. He will kill you one day. He will. What can we do to help you?

Every single poster here is on your side OP. You are NOT WEAK. However hard it is going to be you need to get some outside help. Ring one of the numbers offered up by other pps. Speak privately to someone at school, or with the police. There are things that can be done.

He is NOT a loving husband. You are far far far better than he ever will be and you need to get some support. Please seek some help for the sake of yourself and your children. And don't stop posting. Everyone is on your side.

Your not weak. You've reached out here for help. Now you need to listen and act on the advice given, you can do it

You must leave.
We will advise and support you through this, you are no longer alone.
If you choose to stay, as you have a choice, he will break you, and ultimately destroy the lives of your children.
Your situation will only get worse.
WAKE UP, ACT NOW, PLEASE OP, stop saying 'can't'.
My heart goes out to you.💐

Wait what?
He genuinely did that to you?
I can't even get my head around the humiliation of forcing you to do that in front of family. He sounds absolutely dreadful I'm so sorry for you.
I think you need a plan in place to leave.
He's an abuser, easier said than done I know but if he's gone this far then he's more than likely only going to escalate his behaviour.

Why do you feel you are stuck and can't get out of this situation? As everyone has already said, there is help out there and if you identify what is stopping you, you may be able to overcome it, with help xxx

Wtf! Is this real?

How can you think his behaviour is tolerable? What is this teaching your children? How would you feel if your children grow up and do this to someone else because you didn't stand up to your piece of shit husband?

WHY can't you leave?
What are the reasons?

Women's Shelters are exactly for people like you, get out and take the children!!!!

This is heartbreaking to read.

Cantspellbutimmagic

You CAN leave. You absolutely can. They have just broken you to the point where you can't see it.

Whatever country you are in, please reach out to the organisations posted on here. They can and will help you. You've reached out to us already. Please keep posting.

How can we help you? Where are you?

I mean what do you need us to do - we will do anything we can

Please let us help you OP.

Please keep posting.
I've read your updates, you have people to talk to, we are all here writing back to you.
I don't like the thought that you could be my next door neighbour and I wouldn't have a clue.
Please tell someone.
Women's Aid are so so helpful, you can change your life you don't have to stay married or in a relationship that doesn't make you happy.