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He made me eat paper

509 replies

Cantspellbutimmagic · 28/06/2018 03:02

I’m stuck in my situation
I know I can’t get out but it helps to write

Tonight after 3 days non stop verbal abuse or complete silence towards me
My husband found some pictures I drew of how I felt ( sad faces ect )

That day - he called his parents to our table
He said I had to explain myself and the images

I said it’s just how I feel , I draw sad things when I’m sad

He called the kids to watch and He said You have two options

Eat your drawings now or I will devorse you and take it all

I said no I won’t ?!? Why would you even suggest such things

After arguing about this for a while and refusing , his mum started pleading with me to eat the paper

After sometime he held me against the wall and shoved it all in my mouth then pushed me in the floor in front of our family

I can’t belive I was made to eat paper I’m so upset this has happened to me . And they saw

Has anyone ever heard of this before ?

OP posts:
bewaretheidesofmarch · 09/05/2019 22:53

We're all here willing you on OP. It must be the most frightening, terrorised way to live when you've been petrified into inactivity but you're still here. We see you. We know your paralysing fear. Some of us have lived it. When you're home alone with your child just go outside, keep walking and don't look back. You have a wonderful life to live, close your eyes and go for it xx

Dirtybadger · 09/05/2019 23:00

When you are ready, you can do it OP. Ive never met a woman too weak. Some women have the chance taken away from them, but they were never too weak. Their DPs were just bigger, more dangerous cunts than they realised or expected.

KitchenDancefloor · 09/05/2019 23:02

Hey 👋

We're still here. We're still listening.
We believe you. We believe in you.

drunkenflamingo2 · 09/05/2019 23:19

Please, please find peace when you can. You're brave, you can do this.
Much love Flowers

Mrsmummy90 · 09/05/2019 23:29

You are strong.
You are beautiful.
You are worthy of love.

You can and you will have an amazing life. One step at a time op!

Please get any support you can x

Treesthemovie · 09/05/2019 23:59

OP, you are not in this situation because of anything you've done. It's all on him and his disgusting actions, its him harming the kids. Don't let anyone tell you that you are broken or weak for not leaving him. Hope you are doing ok

ArchieTheRegalDog · 10/05/2019 00:11

Please get out! My ex tried to kill me. I'm left with a brain injury, please don't let that be your story Sad

BringmeGin · 10/05/2019 00:14

It's nice to hear from you OP, I like many others have thought of you often x I'm sorry you are still feeling so trapped, I hope somehow one day you can find a way out but for now, just love and 💐💐💐 for you xxx

MrsMoastyToasty · 10/05/2019 00:21

Imagine that a friend or daughter is telling you exactly what you're telling us. What would be your advice? It would be to get out of the situation and get as far away as possible, wouldn't it?
You wouldn't let a stranger treat you in such a despicable manner. You'd have them arrested for assault. Don't let the fact that he's your partner cloud your judgement. Tough if he's considered a pillar of the society. Society doesn't live with him, you do.
Concentrate on what you CAN do and that's making your escape plans. It might be difficult initially, but you'll be glad you got out before he killed you

Mintandthyme · 10/05/2019 00:23

Please know there are many people thinking of you ❤️

Coldandfrosty · 10/05/2019 00:26

Tell your gp xx

ShinyShoe · 10/05/2019 04:53

We are all here for you op

beanaseireann · 10/05/2019 16:50

OP
As ColdandFrosty says , do tell your doctor or someone who can help.
You have one life to be lived. Yours can change for the better. There are people and organisations out there that can and will help you.
Thanks

Ogham · 10/05/2019 17:19

Please muster up all your strength and leave with your children. You will be starting from scratch but you will have all the help you need in finding your feet again. Imagen, you will be free and not have your every move monitored- I can’t even imagen a life like that, I really feel for you. There is help out there and you will feel at peace, priceless!!

Oldbutstillgotit · 10/05/2019 17:39

I really hoped this update would say that you had left your h . Please look after yourself and know that we are all here for you . My DD was in an abusive relationship and Women’s Aid were absolutely wonderful ; supportive , kind and non- judgemental 💐

looondonn · 10/05/2019 21:41

We are here for you
Keep posting
Lots of great people on here helped me break free

Please believe you deserve better
He is a bully

So sorry you been through this

Weenurse · 11/05/2019 05:37

Tell the school or your GP

pineapplepatty · 11/05/2019 06:08

Just put one foot in front of the other and walk to your Doctors. Tell them you need help.

Do it for your DCs, if you can't do it for you Thanks

DotCottan · 11/05/2019 07:58

@Cantspellbutimmagic You deserve better than this. Your kids deserve better than this. Is this the life that you want them to live? It’s seems as though you’ve resigned to life like this but you can leave and you should leave. Not just for your sake but also for the sake of your kids.

looondonn · 11/05/2019 14:32

Yes to school and GP

Start a trail

What are you thinking of doing op?
Anyone in your area to help you?

Whathappendtomonday · 16/05/2019 20:42

Just wanted to check if your ok OP?

Kittykat93 · 17/05/2019 13:57

I totally agree with going to the gp and asking for help. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for your children. This man is extremely dangerous, and I am scared it will only end one way if you continue to stay.

beanaseireann · 28/07/2019 11:00

Cantspellbutimmagic
How are things now ?

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna · 11/01/2020 15:41

Op how are you?

mamato3lads · 11/01/2020 16:40

Was thinking the same.....OP let us know how you are when you get a chance.... Flowers