He made me eat paper

[Cantspellbutimmagic]

I’m stuck in my situation
I know I can’t get out but it helps to write

Tonight after 3 days non stop verbal abuse or complete silence towards me
My husband found some pictures I drew of how I felt ( sad faces ect )

That day - he called his parents to our table
He said I had to explain myself and the images

I said it’s just how I feel , I draw sad things when I’m sad

He called the kids to watch and He said You have two options

Eat your drawings now or I will devorse you and take it all

I said no I won’t ?!? Why would you even suggest such things

After arguing about this for a while and refusing , his mum started pleading with me to eat the paper

After sometime he held me against the wall and shoved it all in my mouth then pushed me in the floor in front of our family

I can’t belive I was made to eat paper I’m so upset this has happened to me . And they saw

Has anyone ever heard of this before ?

OP
I hope you are ok.
I hope your abuser does not know of your Mumsnet account.

He doesn’t know my account or that I have one

And his family backed him up?

You say you can’t get out of the situation but you have to. You might feel you are okay (hard to believe though) but the harsh reality is that your child/children is not.

What they are witnessing is abuse. For you to stay and let them continue to witness this is also a form of abuse. Apart from this, the secondary concern is that it’s this environment that will make a boy grow up to think this is normal and it will be the way he treats his future partners and will make a girl grow up to believe that it’s how she should accept being treated by her partners. Don’t do this to your kids. Please leave.

Can'tspell
Keep posting.
Try and get help from Women's Aid.
The first step is the hardest.
I was worried when you hadn't posted for a while. I was afraid the violence had escalated.
Have you any family or friends nearby ?

There is NO good reason not to protect your children from this violence.
Get yourself to a women's shelter before it is too late.

Not protecting your children from his is truly awful. I witnessed abuse not nearly on this scale and 20+ years on I have had to have counseling as it affects my relationships and I'm medicated for anxiety.

Do the right thing by your children and get them out of this!

OP his behaviour is horrific. I can't believe his parents just stood by and let that happen to you! He and they are truly despicable. Please find a way to leave.

I really can’t leave
Best option is that he leaves
When I find a way to do it with as little damage to my family as possible
I will

This is going to escalate. He wont leave. Please listen to those who have experience. I know someone who was almost murdered by her husband because she couldn't/refused to leave. Please please please leave. Your children are watching your husband abuse you - they will normalise this, do you want that? If you cannot think of yourself, please think of your poor children.

OP - if you report this abuse to police and social services - I think he may be forced to leave.
You can’t have your children witness this.

OP why can’t you leave ? If you explain , maybe we can support you better. I hope you are not being locked in your home .

Cantspellbutimmagic
We are all rooting for you and hoping you and dc get out safely soon.

Thinking of you x

Can you elaborate a bit about why you can't leave?

Someone like him will never leave voluntarily unless it's in handcuffs.

Please, make sure you and your children are safe, because if you are living with him, you really are not safe at all.

The most dangerous time for victims of domestic abuse is when they are leaving OR if the perpetrator suspects you are leaving.
Please take extreme care. And flee to a refuge ASAP if you have to. You will get excellent support if you do, I promise.

Hello, my husband is a lawyer who deals with victims of domestic abuse. He says he will help you free of charge if you get in touch x

@changedmyname12345 can you PM the OP to make sure she gets your message (in case she doesn't return to the thread and see it)?

I think that the OP is in a country where providing help for women in bad marriages is, shall we say, not a priority. That's why she feels she can't leave.

OP you are strong. Could you tell us why you can’t leave? What is your fear if you do. Because you can leave, and it would be for the best for you and your children but if you are afraid of something maybe we can help. Does it have to do with custody? Your immigration status? Does he have any power in the community? He sounds scary and dangerous. But you are stronger than you think. I send you a big hug.

I believe OP is in / from the U.K. but her husband is not

I have PM her. I hope she replies.

you guys on here are true angels by the way *

Oh God this is horrific abuse and I’m fromt of your children and other family members. I’d strongly, STRONGLY advise you to ring the police from a safe place or visit the local station and report. If you don’t the abuse will get worse and there will be no note of the incident. Be brave and for yours and the kids sake report him. Police will be around and he won’t be allowed back in the house. Don’t worry about the financial side too much at this stage. Your safety and that of the kids is paramount. As another poster said, abuse increases -always- it never stops at one incident.

Also please contact changedmyname12345 as her husband is a divorce attorney. You need to get out.

We all feel for you and I hope you find the strength to put and end to this. X