He made me eat paper

[Cantspellbutimmagic]

I’m stuck in my situation
I know I can’t get out but it helps to write

Tonight after 3 days non stop verbal abuse or complete silence towards me
My husband found some pictures I drew of how I felt ( sad faces ect )

That day - he called his parents to our table
He said I had to explain myself and the images

I said it’s just how I feel , I draw sad things when I’m sad

He called the kids to watch and He said You have two options

Eat your drawings now or I will devorse you and take it all

I said no I won’t ?!? Why would you even suggest such things

After arguing about this for a while and refusing , his mum started pleading with me to eat the paper

After sometime he held me against the wall and shoved it all in my mouth then pushed me in the floor in front of our family

I can’t belive I was made to eat paper I’m so upset this has happened to me . And they saw

Has anyone ever heard of this before ?

Op well done for wanting to ring women's aid. You say you are lonely and have no family or friends but that's because he's isolated you. You will be less lonely alone.

He has brainwashed you to remain in a prison that is your house and has taken away your freedom to think that you can go anywhere you want. You really can with help.

Please keep posting and let us know what women's aid say.

I don’t want SS any where near my family - I’ve seen the mess they can cause to others

Please don't take this attitude. Just, please don't. From what you've said, they're not going to cause a mess for you. But they will help you get out and keep you and the children safe. This is the most important thing right now.

If your DC let on at school about the abuse they're being forced to watch then SS may well become involved, Cantspellbutimmagic? And it's surely just a matter of time until one of them says something? Because your DH's behaviour is really extreme and it must have frightened your DC horribly.

If SS know you're in an abusive relationship and want to escape they can support you. They want the DC kept safe with a parent who loves and puts them first.

Try us, OP.

Tell us the reasons you can’t leave.
Maybe you’ll turn out to be right.
Maybe people here will be able to open doors and solve problems you couldn’t on your own.

Your child is being harmed here.
You are being harmed here.
It’s time to properly engage with the issues. Your child deserves that.

Please leave this abusive man

This man will kill you.

Do call Women's Aid as soon as you have a chance. They can get busy so keep trying.

www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk

www.womensaid.org.uk

I hope these help

My worry is is that when the parents leave he will ramp up the abuse. Please listen to everyone, your child must be terrified.

I really hope you take the advice of all the posters. It's good advice. No time to get organised. Your husband is a dangerous man.

How are things this morning, cantspell? Are you OK?

OP, can you explain a bit more about why you can't leave? It may be that posters can help you find a solution you haven't thought of yet. You are in a very stressful situation, and stress can stop us from thinking straight. Getting outside perspectives could be the key to solving this. But we have to know what it is you specifically you are worried about with regard to leaving.

This is really one of the worst things I've read and it just shows how domestic abuse creeps in to a point where you are willing to eat paper that you drew on as he's demanding it. It actually reminds me of when Eastenders covered domestic abuse with Little Mo.

I really hope you take the advice given on here and contact women's aid right away. Hopefully you will see that everyone is outraged here, but also, even the translator on the phone wanted to help, so it's not you, it's him. Also, the fact his parents didn't step in to help you and get him off of you when he was doing this speaks volumes that this kind of behaviour was tolerated in their home.

I know you don't believe yourself in any imminent danger, that's not true of someone like him. He's escalating, if he discovers your calls or postings he may escalate even further towards you or the children. You need to get out ASAP. Please, protect yourself and get somewhere safe. You're worth it, you really are, see that you deserve somewhere safe and help getting that. The people at Women's Aid will have lots of experience with similar situations, they'll know what to do.

All the best to you, you don't deserve his treatment of you, remember that and push forwards.

You can leave and you must leave.

How will he react when he finds out you have phoned his mum with a translator?

Just leave and go to the other end of the country if you have to to get away from him. He is disgusting and dangerous. Tell the police what he did too. See a solicitor and women's aid.

WHY can't you leave?

Cantspellbutimmagic
You poor darling.
Get help now.
Your mil will tell your husband.
Contact Womens Aid now. They will take it from there with regards police etc.

Cantspellbutimmagic, I'm concerned. You know you will suffer for getting a translator and calling his DM. As others have said, when you're seriously considering leaving is the most dangerous time, because if he senses that he's losing control he'll ramp up the abuse.

You want to minimise things but re-read your original post. We're talking serious domestic abuse: abuse that must have frightened and harmed your DC.

Your DH will tell you that this is all your fault, because if you were the good wife he deserves none of this would have happened. But I've had a good marriage and a decent man would rather fly in the air than bully and torture any woman, let alone a woman he's supposed to love.

None of this is your fault. But if you fail to protect your DC going forward, that you have to take ownership of.

You haven't posted yet today, cantspell.

Can you let us know if you are OK?

can'tspell i hope you're ok and just to reiterate what everyone else is saying, you do not deserve this treatment, it is not your fault and you need to get away from him. Listen to pp who have experience in these things and leave safely, even if you think he wouldn't hurt you (physically), these pp have experience in how things escalate, better to be over cautious and use womens aid/the police/your bil, than risk doing it alone.

I don’t want SS any where near my family - I’ve seen the mess they can cause to others

Social services saved me; it sounds melodramatic, but that’s how I feel. What your husband is doing is not your fault, but you have a responsibility to your children.

Gosh this really is one of the most horrifying things I’ve read.

Please OP for the sake of your children please leave. I’m scared he will react really badly when he finds out about your call with his mother.

Things will get better if you leave.

I hope you're okay OP.

If you are on a spouse visa and concerned about your right to remain / no recourse to public funds then please speak to Southall Black Sisters I know you said you're not from Asia but they help women from around the world.

We're all thinking of you and we are out here to support you and be behind you. Please get some help. You can do it. Imagine what you'd tell your friend or your daughter if this happened to them.

It’s gone. It not forgotten.

What can we do to help?

Do you need any of us to do something for you?

Get out as soon as you can

Please do
This is very concerning