Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

kinunir i think women check out men on social media/online generally as a safety measure. I certainly have. Isn't that just sensible?

Yeah, that's a fair point I guess Bendy. Working in data privacy and being subject to some pretty stringent security checks I forget how such info could be important in that context.

Does anyone else here reject outright a person who
a) has the same name as their ex, even if otherwise suitable?
b) looks like their ex, even if actually attractive to you?
Or is it just me? lol

I am finding that I only pick guys who are so totally different from my ex/what I would usually fancy that I'm probably ruling out perfectly nice men! Oh well, I guess it's broadening my horizons in other ways...

kinunir didn't someone on here mention they'd seen the FB profile of one guy and he turned out to be still married with kids and had lied about his situation? I'm sure it avoids a lot of heartache to find this out sooner rather than later.

Yeah - you do make a good and obvious point. I forget that I'm a bit different to the masses in that I guard my online privacy fiercely and even have mechanisms in place to know if someone is prying into certain areas... tis the job I have plus a healthy amount of paranoia.

Bendy i do that too. It seems ive dated multiples of 3 different names so now refuse to date anyone else with those three names.

I'm off on a date this afternoon - not really feeling it but it is a lovely day so a drink in a pub garden should be pleasant. He is the only date I've had from Bumble - generally it is very quiet for me. We will see. I've not spoken to him on the phone - something I normally do - but we only matched 2 days ago so thought I'd give it a go.

Hope you have a pleasant afternoon Val, think it's me and the dog as per usual enjoying a lovely walk! :)
Bendy are you honestly contemplating a short, Neil Kinnock look alike?? That just doesn't seem like a great idea! (feel a bit mean on the poor bloke now, but I hope for your sake he has a fantastic personality!)

Sometimes the ones where you’re not thinking you will feel it are surprising soho and enjoy yourself Val
I’m impressed that you found someone on Bumble - it’s the one OLD site from which I’ve never received a single message.

Kin I've had quite a few matches but this is the only one that has resulted in a date - mind you I've not heard from him this morning so who knows if it is going ahead - I know he was out this morning but I'll give him another hour or so and will then message him.

ignoringthechoc I know but he was full of flattery and we had a lovely chat on the phone. He is actually more like Stephen Kinnock! Neil is too old. He runs his own business and we have lots in common. I'm quite often attracted to their brains rather than features. But we will see when I meet him. If there's no spark, there's no point.

Is there something about to start? OLD is very quiet.

The England match. OLD will be dead for the next 2 hours then wham! Beer fuelled flirting...!!

England are playing the next WC game at 1 apparently.

Just had a second woman on POF tell me I’m ugly... guess I’ll be spending the rest of my gardening leave in the gym instead of on OLD

oh that's just cruel and unnecessary kinunir. why would anyone be that nasty. block and delete and don't take it to heart.

With regards to the phone chats I've seen lots of you describe, how do these come about? I suggested one after he asked to meet up and I got a bit of an odd response as I think he thought I meant phoning instead of meeting I could copy and paste the text but I think it's quite outing as he has a very particular way of wording things.

I'm still struggling a bit to decipher emails and texts, I have Asperger's so feel I'm clutching at straws a lot. Out of interest, I note that lots of you have DC with ASD, at what point would you mention this to potential dates? I don't want to use it as an excuse but not sure if it would help them to know?

kin urgh. Some women are both insecure and horrible, who does that?

Kin I saw your profile a while ago - you are so not ugly - what is it with some people - tell her where to go and block - as my mum used to say to me - if you can't say something good about someone, say nothing.

Really uneccessary to call ppl ugly!

I like myers briggs - im a classic ENTP and find INTJs the best match for me, second box ticked with you kin! Lol

No need for that Kin she sounds awful. I get that we all have personal preferences and you may not be to her taste, same as I wouldn't do it for someone who liked buxom blondes :) but don't read anything more into it other than she has quite an ugly personality and it's good that you will have no more to do with her.
Bendy is after a midget Neil Kinnock...there is hope for us all!

Behave yourself nay!

I’m not crushed by the comments they made, just think it’s unnecessary - I just ignore messages if I don’t like the look of someone.

I only behave myself on special occasions.

Hi can I join in? I've been separated for a year from my ex. I set up a profile on match a few weeks ago, lots of messages, met one guy already, and going for our third date next week.. I do like him but he is the first older guy I've dated (ex was 10 years younger) so hoping there's less emotional f*uckwittery going on. Nice and easy conversation and he's funny which is great. I'm not looking for anything serious I don't think but haven't dated anyone in so long (together with ex for just over nine years) I think I'm just a bit nervous. Got the butterflies feeling... or is that just lust after so many months of being celibate!!!

Still get lots of messages but not really responding to anyone at the moment. What's the form? Should I disable this site or keep chatting to guys? Would appreciate your thoughts!

oo! my subscription's about to run out but there's been a flurry of suitables show up. I've bombed straight in and messaged two, one of em is too good to be true so I've literally flattered him and asked what the catch is (nothing to lose at this point so I'm feeling brazen )

Decided not to message the younger guy i got matched with. It's a bit ridiculous coz he's 28 and I'm only 31 nearly 32 but I just feel sooo awkward about going younger!? Can't get it out of my mind. Anyone younger than me I just think of as a child lol