Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Does anyone know what these mean: ISTP, ISFJ, FL??

Keep seeing stuff like this.

Thanks lovemusic33 I have hope!

Bendy Google Briggs-Meyer personality test

Yes. Myers-brigg. It’s mostly nonsense.

There are loads of free online tests: www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

ahhh ok. thanks. It's all bollocks that isn't it?

Yeah, as an INTJ I’m meant to be bad and finding someone I’d want a relationship with. Oh, hang on...

unimaginative i dont think its nonsense! im INFJ and it describes me so well, both my dad and exDP are INFP and they’re so similar its crazy!

i wouldnt put it on a dating profile though, not sure what they hope to achieve with that. maybe they expect people to google it and have them all “worked out”

I'm an INTJ too, which is the rarest female personality type. The traits if describes are pretty much exactly me and it probably explains why I'm single It obviously has flaws as a model but it's interesting, and personally I've taken lots of different varieties of the test out of interest and had the same result every single time.

Well that was interesting! Havent looked at the myers briggs thing before and came out as a 'consul' type (forgotten letters already) and from friendships to work to parenting it was a pretty good description of me to be honest :)
Can you tell I'm bored?

It describes me very well too. Take the “j,” combine with Libran and I’m pretty well screwed on the relationship front!

I've just done it and discovered my truthful answers to the questions are the opposite of how I actually view myself. I've got a hard and strong exterior but inside I'm soft and a bit delicate. Faking it til I'm making it!

So glad I found this thread. I am very new to OLD (although it is now 5 and a half yrs since ex left me and kids).
I have paid 1 month subscription to Match, and uploaded requisite pics and profile. I was sent a wink and have had lots of views, but not sure what I do now. It all feels very artificial (sorry if I sound like a Luddite).

thats interesting vet. INFJ is the rarest personality type overall, which must mean the majority are men, if INTJ is the rarest female! maybe thats why most of my friends are male. hmm.

it is interesting though, you can go quite deep into it. eg how you cope when under stress, how you act when functioning healthy and well. also, you can read how you are in relationships which might be helpful in terms of dating

Esk (apparently) there are more INTJs than INFJs overall, but hardly any of them are women.

Romance tends to be difficult because these private, formidable women are not comfortable with flirting.

I'm doomed! Dooooooomed!

That said, Michelle Obama is an INTJ and she's done alright in the husband stakes; I just need to find another Barack!

Dusty I don't actively use Match but it's similar to POF. If you like the look of any of the people who have viewed/winked at you you can wink back or message them first. Or you could do a search of your own. OLD is a bit artificial, at least the 'selection' part of it, but that's the nature of the beast really.

Hello dusty11 I'm new too! I didn't bother with Match because you get nothing free and signed up to POF and OKCupid. The latter is better imo. Haven't tried Tinder, Bumble or Zoosk yet. Too many to deal with!

My best advice so far would be that it will take up far more of your time than you expect!! I have got very little work done since I've been spending my time on the sites chatting to blokes! I'm learning to weed out the no hopers now too. It's almost formulaic. Be prepared to be brutal with your choices. You don't owe anyone anything.

I'm sure you will be inundated with contacts soon. More so if you spread yourself across other platforms too and don't put all your hopes on Match. Think of it like networking for your job/business and also like interviewing candidates for the job of sharing your time. You are partly selling yourself but mostly assessing THEIR suitability to be with you.
And read the profiles, because sometimes that really appeals more than just the photo. Good luck!!

I think the most appealing male INTJ is Jim "I'm gonna burn the heart out of you" Moriaty.

I'm doomed! Dooooooomed!

kin Jim Moriarty will do nicely, which site is he on

Apparently I'm a commander ENTJ an insensitive, bossy type like Gordon Ramsey.... I'm definitely doomed then

ENFP here.....

I've done this a few times now and always come out as the same.... 🤣😂

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Another INFJ here aswell.
It suits me so well between that and the astrology birth chart meanings reckon dating life has been flawed from the start 😂

Apparently INTP here, and apparently too practical for love 🙄 Great.

Although, I did have a great first date yesterday - started off meeting for coffee, and morphed into wine and food 😁 I shall call him Mr Windy as he works somewhere very windy 😂 Very pleasant, open and no games so far. Only slight weirdness is that I still don't know his surname and we still communicate via the dating site, I think he's just wary though.

Given how everyone I've ever dated online has, at some point, told me how thoroughly they checked me out online, there is no way I'd be giving my surname out after one date Sky.

Just logged into POF to find 17 messages received overnight but... they all say "Hey there :-)"... some silly spammer must be really, really bored!!!

ENFP here too. Had a quick read and seems to ring true.

Eharmony is still active so not sure now when it expires. Load of crap anyway.

that sounds like a good date skyrabbit. Yes, weird not to have his name and number though.

I've got a date this afternoon! pub with #shortguy I'm hoping I fancy him. His photos are a bit Neil Kinnocky but he seemed really nice on the phone (2 hour convo, really easy to talk to, shared values).

It's not going well with #hotafricanguy via text. We just keep miscommunicating and offending each other. It's supposed to be fun and I'm not feeling it now. Worry he may be controlling and that's my biggest red flag. Anyway, I need to decide whether I'm still going to meet him this week as planned as it's a long trek. Might give him the benefit of the doubt, not sure yet.