Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

dingdang If I were looking for a LTR I would still keep on chatting and dating until I had had the exclusivity talk with the one I liked best/saw a future with. That way I wouldn't be putting all my eggs in one basket and getting too emotionally invested in the progress and outcome of just one starter relationship.

My photos of matches are all blurry now so my subscription has expired. Not sure if I still get sent matches but just can't see their pictures? Will have to see but I've given up anyway.

I have to report back on my date today! #shortguy aka #kinnockalike aka #slightlyrobertenglund was lovely. We talked for hours and it wasn't strained. We then went for a walk back to my car and had a bit of a snog which was very nice. Initiated by me, because I think he is shy or awkward (more than I am). I kept thinking he isn't really my usual type at all. Definitely friend material at a minimum, but I did find him oddly attractive, just not rip his clothes off now sort of fancying (but aren't those guys always the bad ones?). He was a good kisser and I'll definitely see him again and do more.

Well That was a surprise- just got back from my date with Mr Music - wasn't really feeling it beforehand and started off badly as he was late - only 6 minutes but hey I'm the prize. I always pay my way but I do assume the man will buy the first drink (wrong I know) but I got it so thought this would be my normal 2 drinks and run in under 2 hours - over 4 hours later I'm home - the time flew and he's asked me out again and I said yes - the first time I've wanted to see someone for a second date this time round on OLD. He was not instantly wow but the attraction grew as the date went on - who knows?

naynayba 3 years is nothing! I'm chatting to someone 13 years younger than me atm. In fact, I don't even fancy most guys my own age (mid 40s). Any guy over 50 to me feels like my dad!!

Do women go for older when when they are younger, and for younger when they are older?

OK, another newbie question (I've just signed up to Match).

So, I've looked at at lots of profiles and winked at a few I liked (couldn't be arsed to go incognito). Couldn't get my head around the ones who feel the need to list their income on their profiles - I'm looking for a date not a sugar daddy.

So what next? Do I message someone? And what do I say? I have a huge fear of sounding desperate or needy.

How to use OLD to feel bad about yourself:

1. Finally summon up the courage to create and OLD profile
2. Come up with a (hopefully) funny and witty bio, using the self-deprecation technique previously referred to on here
3. Find a number of pictures of yourself where you think "hey, I don't look half bad in these". Put the picture of you looking the least half-bad as your main profile pic.
4. Get two whole views in 24 hours

Val sounds like we had similar dates today!

dusty when I've messaged men, I just say something like I liked their profile and if they like mine then message me back. If they have something witty or quirky on their profile then I may comment on that specifically.

I just had a rejection text from a man I had iniatated contact with and we had chatted via text for a few days. Had so much in common politically, interests and values, then he said he was taking a step back from the dating scene. He is online now on OKC . I wouldn't mind but he was punching above his weight with me! lol .

Dan I'm sure it will pick up - give it time

Awesome stuff Val :) Not really relevant but are you dating younger these days or did you decide against that?

Bendy I'm a similar age and I cannot contact the majority of women in that age range on POF because they will only accept messages from younger guys. Ironically, I have to go older or MUCH younger.

Dan if that's POF, it sounds about right. Such a dreary dead site. Makes me laugh when they send those RUSH HOUR notifications. 😏😏😏

Dan be aware that the vast majority of people on POF, especially women, operate in stealth mode and do not show up as viewers of your profile.

Bendy come on - you need to elaborate!

I was passed on by a mid fifties guy with snap chat filtered rabbit ears and teeth. Why would you have that as your profile picture? So childish and passe surely though someone may find it sexy (!) or attractive. not envy.

Kin Mr Music is younger - not by much - I have had a couple of dates with much younger - all nice but no spark - ah that elusive spark! I chatted to my kids about it a while back and even let them choose some for me - they went for younger so who was I to argue! They did draw the line though at a couple in their 20s who 'wanted experience', especially the 26 year old last week who wanted to wine and dine me - they said that was just yuk lol

Oh god the 46 year old smelly feet man is back under a different name !

Honestly Val, I washed them last week - why won't you replyyyyyyy?

Kin it's not his feet he likes smelling it's ladies feet - if anyone comes within a mile of mine I'd kick them in the face as I hate having them touched so a man with a foot fetish is going to end up with a very bloody nose and probably a broken one! Mind you my feet are a bit smelly today. Time for a shower I think.

Ewwww, that's rank (his fetish, not your lack of shower).

Just trying to catch up on the thread, it moves so fast, I go out for the day and I then need to catch up.

I have a date with Mr Campervan on Tuesday, I’m a little bit nervous as he is quite fit (not overly good looking but he’s in good shape), we are meeting for a coffee, I’m not sure why I always agree to ‘go for a coffee’ as I don’t drink coffee. It sounds as though he hasn’t been single very long so I’m worried about being a rebound.

2 different FWB want to meet me this week, i will probably meet up with one of them but can’t decide which one.

Also have one other iron asking to meet me this week. Looks like a busy week.

No one has mentioned Badoo. It's been good for me, it's free to message.
I usually find it takes me an hour or so to weigh up if I fancy someone. Am dating a guy 5 yrs younger than me and I personally find it so refreshing but maybe because my STBXH is 5 years older than me. That's a 10 yr difference if you know what I mean. I only met up with him because I worked with him 30 yrs ago and thought at least we could talk about that. I didn't even read his profile, lol. Turns out we get on great and it's been 4 mths now!

Advice needed please

Had been chatting to a MrChatty for a couple weeks. No date arranged and he suddenly disappeared so deleted his number and got on with life.
8 days after his last text he's just messaged me as if there's not been a silence at all. Very odd.

I enjoyed his conversation and would have liked to meet him but I'm worried I was placed on the back burner.

Do I reply? Half of me says yes, the other no. He claims he's been busy hence his quiet sounds like BS

200 Be careful - being the cynical old man I am I'd guess he went on a weeks holiday with his wife.

Third I have Badoo but still trying to get used to it, I can’t keep up with it, I get loads of messages but a lot are from people who live too far away or people that are twenty years younger or older than me.

So I have 3 very similar irons which includes mr campervan, all 3 like the same things, same hobbies and they all live very close to each other, I’m now worried that I might bump into one when I’m dating another, wouldn’t that be awkward? At the moment I have to write down notes so I don’t get them muddled up,

I'm not sure I've got the time, patience and money for dating. Or maybe I just can't be arsed. I feel tired reading about all these dates! But then I'm a single mum of 3 and my youngest has no contact with his dad at all so very difficult to have time to myself beyond a few hours in an evening. I don't drive so that limits me as to time and distance and place and I live in a semi-rural town that's not particularly close to anyone I ever get chatting to. They all seem to be in Yorkshire so too far away. I did think about joining POF as never been on there but then figured the above and it just seems like too much hard work.