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Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

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Kinunir · 21/06/2018 10:16

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 00:17

Bendy I know - shocking !

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 00:19

Hey, there's nothing wrong with MY dress sense!

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 00:21

Lol you wish !

BendyLikeBeckham · 05/07/2018 00:21

haha, if that's your profile pic kin you will be inundated with offers from gay men

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 00:22

But in all seriousness, it was great to see you tonight Val

I never thought I would have the courage to actually leave the house on my own and meet a real woman - it's all thanks to MN that I was able to do that, so thanks to you all Smile

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 00:23

haha, if that's your profile pic kin you will be inundated with offers from gay men

As I read on here yesterday - any holes a goal Smile

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 00:23

It was the blue shoes that ruined it - you need to co-ordinate better - someone has just got stuck in loo and pressed the emergency button - sigh what an eventful night

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 00:25

I match my shoes to my eyes and I'm still wrong! Sometime you just can't win...

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 00:28

Kin it was great to see you too - I had a really good night - and no we didn't break rule 10 - but I would have had to have been very young when I had him - tie your mother down - cheeky sod!

BendyLikeBeckham · 05/07/2018 00:30

Sounds like a fab evening, you two!

Maybe we should organise a thread meet up for us all to meet each other!

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 00:32

Quick bit of advice required: how long is too long to leave it before messaging a Tinder match? I have several I've ignored for more than 4 weeks - go for it or delete?

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 00:32

Maybe we should organise a thread meet up for us all to meet each other!

I'm up for that, would be interesting to meet some of you lot on this thread.

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 00:49

I'm not even home yet and you're on Tinder 😢

BendyLikeBeckham · 05/07/2018 00:49

Go for it kin with the tinder matches, you've nothing to lose.

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 00:51

I'm not even home yet and you're on Tinder 😢

You had your chance Val and I don't have time to hang around for someone who doesn't grab theirs with both hands Grin

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 01:05

I didn't even get my bowl of chips you scoundrel !

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 01:07

I spent my pocket money on the wine, trying to get you pissed. You wanted more? Shock

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 01:10

You promised me wine AND a bowl of chips - re our conversation earlier - I've just had this brilliant opener

Hello. 😎

I like a man who grabs me with their use of words!

ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 01:12

And this - it's busy tonight

Morning

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 01:16

And I've just had another woman open with hey there :) ffs

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ValMc1 · 05/07/2018 01:23

Lol sorry

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 01:26

It's me whose supposed to be getting into boxes Val, not you!

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ItsASign · 05/07/2018 01:30

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DaffoDeffo

Thanks for replying!

Well, we chatted on the phone tonight. It's all going smoothly and naturally. I think we have a similar chatty nature and probably similar attachment style. We've planned to get together in the middle of next week but my date was trying to see if she can make time this weekend and so was I but we've concluded that it's not possible. It's the thought that counts and the open conversation about wanting to be together that seemed easy and mutual. I guess I've been in this situation before and been ghosted so I'm a bit wary... Although we've spent a couple of nights together now and it was pretty amazing...

Anyway, running helps in lots of ways DaffoDeffo. I run about 50km a week and it keeps my head clear and my heart open. Keep at it!

So, when do you have that 'exclusive' conversation??? Surely the longer things progress it gets more and more awkward? How can you raise the subject without hurting the other person, for example, if they've already made the assumption that you're already exclusive?? I really don't want to mess this up...

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Kinunir · 05/07/2018 02:50

Catching up on these Tinder matches is going to be hard work but worth it, even if it just helps me improve my messaging skills.

13 down, 39 to go. Gulp.

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RunsforCake14 · 05/07/2018 06:48

Just what you don't need to see when you're eating your breakfast and catching up on this thread - a mankini!

Anyone having any issues with Tinder? I had 4 match notifications last night but when I clicked on them they vanished in front of my eyes. They were there, then they weren't.
Also I had chats going with 3 matches and then nothing. None of them replied to my last message.
Could just be a coincidence and they've all gone off me at the same time. But just seemed odd.

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