Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

If they've seen your arse being hauled into a boat, it sounds like a good start!

Well, they’d certainly be under no illusions whatsoever about what they were getting. For a start it involves wearing a wetsuit, so there’s no pretending my bum is smaller than it is.

halfdutch I know, it wasn't a real dilemma! I swipe right on everyone who doesn't make me physically sick. Then let them weed me out!

I'll send you a "You go girl" back though. You've got to take the initiative sometimes. And it's only a bit of flirting.

When you’re at a gig with an older woman and the second song is Tie Your Mother Down

Ok, these are things annoying me this week with OLD:

• Conversations that just fizzle out
• Sending messages and getting virtually no replies
• Starting a conversation with someone who seems promising but is actually dull and asks zero questions!

Hello again - popped on the old thread as was thinking of dipping a toe in the OLD waters but lurked off as not ready. However, I got some lovely helpful answers and have been lurking and silently cheering you all on from the sidelines.

A couple of friends are badgering me to give it a go despite my advanced age (they both met someone while late 40's/over 50 - one is just having loads of no-strings fun and the other is marrying her bloke). I have got as far as registering for Guardian Soulmates. Is this a rather wimpy choice? I have heard all the blokes are madly right-on and some of the profiles are a tad hipsterish, but I can pronounce quinoa correctly, so might be in with a shout? Feel too ancient for Tinder and the like. I live in a big city so not a bad choice, and also I think it is probably the one OLD site my vile ex SIL is not on...

I still haven't created a profile. Going on holiday in 2 weeks and hoping to get some decent photos there where I have a tan and look acceptable, then I might have more time for this when I get back. Not expecting much, and at the rate I am moving won't get anywhere until 2020. I must be the slowest OLD initiate ever... (just as well I am not trying speed dating ) Any tips on creating a profile gratefully recieved. I have not even dated for decades (and barely spoke to my husband in the last couple of years of our marriage!) so am very out of practice...

Bendy - I swipe right on everyone that doesn't make me physically sick and then let them weed me out had me howling with laughter just now. Is it really such slim pickings out there? (am worried now the Guardian is posting fake profiles to lure me in!)

TomHardy You’re being annoyed by that just this week!!! I thought that was par for the course each week!!

Bendy Loving your swipe right actions - maybe I should try the same. Thanks for the ‘you go girl’ felt really stupid once I’d sent the message, luckily he’s replied and didn’t see to mind!! Like you say, it is only flirting!

Kin LOL! My best friend was at that gig too!

Harryscode I’m on Tinder and I’m mid 50s (with the heart of a teenager at the moment!), it’s not too bad to be fair and I’m chatting to a few guys from there. Nothing wrong with going slow! I’m also on Bumble and from what I’ve seen so far the men are a bit older, but I have only had one match so far and he has yet to respond to my message!! Good luck!

I know half, I matched with her on Badoo, then they played Another One Bites The Dust. Bugger.

harryscode just dive in. No point doing anything by halves. I was you just a month ago. Now I'm on 3 sites with a couple of thousand 'likes' of my profile between them (some will be duplicates). I'm mid forties, average looking, short and overweight. I've had a lot of fun and interesting conversations, met some lovely people, had some 'very good times' and am thoroughly enjoying myself. Honestly, if I can do it, anyone can! And so can you!
I would suggest you get a basic profile up now on a free site to start, keep an open mind, don't expect anything and it will come and just post some quick selfies for now. You can always update the photos any time. Don't wait for the perfect photo or you won't do it. For perspective, I think mine are awful, but others don't seem to agree. Then you can spend time on holiday swiping and chatting, getting to know people and having a ball.
Your life starts today, not tomorrow!

Let us know how you get on. Loads of advice and support on this thread. I've learned a lot. Not least to follow the thread rules (apart from the ones I've broken of course!)

kin was your older companion looking for somebody to love, or even the love of her life, whereas you just wanted to break free? Or were you under pressure to make her your best friend? And will you end up being a good old fashioned lover boy?

My profuse apologies. I'm going slightly mad...

My profuse apologies. I'm going slightly mad...

The show must go on though, keep going... :)

Another great night out seeing Queen with a good old fashioned lover boy - and some neat dad dancing moves.

And a red thong?

Was not a thong it was a mankini

It's a crazy little thing called love, especially when you want it all.

Bendy lol

Only at the beginning of the night Val, don't forget I cut the top half off when I got hot.

you've got to play the game or too much love will kill you.

Don't stop me now.

Yes, please stop me now.

kin and val, if you are going to break rule#10 then I think it should be mandatory that suitable photos are shared on the thread of said mankini.

Kin Too much love will kill you but you have to play the game 😃

I was a cool cat until you trod on my foot but, hey, pain is so close to pleasure right?

Bendy he had it on the wrong way round ....

val

Wasn't me - must have been the mother you tied down

Rule 10 bendy? I thought it was more a guideline