Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Tigger and Dutch Very interesting - I think I have two choices for this Friday - one who is 10 years younger, and another whose age I don't know but is probably late 30s (met in RL at concert - I chatted to him as seat neighbours with no interest from me other than chit chat as too young) - he messaged me last night and suggested a drink - I have never dated anyone younger than me but 60 year old men are so old!!! I suppose my moral limited would be 21 years as that would make them the same age as my son and that just seems icky.

21 years younger I meant, not 21 years old - that would be very icky!

@halfdutchgirl - he’s 18 years younger! He’s just called and I’m meeting him on Friday afternoon to ‘see if there’s a spark’ ;)

Tiger do let us know how you get on.

that would be icky Hahaha!! Yes, it would!

Val 10 years younger is not a problem as far as I'm concerned.

Tigger & Val I watched Matthew Hussey (or whatever his name is!) talk about age differences on YouTube a week or so back and I thought he talked bollocks to be honest! If you like someone and you're happy and there's a connection then go with it. I was with my ex for 13 years and the age difference was never an issue.

Tigger - go for it, meet up with him and let us know how it goes!!

@valmc1 - lucky you being spoilt for choice on Friday! Do tell us who you decide on and I promise to update on Friday afternoon

Very grateful for all the support! I promise to update this thread with how it goes

Whooo, Tigger - sounds fun! I hope that you have a great date on Friday.

Val glad you have some options coming up.

I get younger men message me, one was 26 (ten years younger), I chatted to him for a while but couldn’t bring myself to meet him. I think a lot of younger men want a older woman because of there expereance in the bedroom. I have slept with a much older man and it was probably the best sex I have had . Maybe I should try younger? Mr Campervan is only a year older than me which seems odd for me as most people I date are 8+ years older. Tiger, go for it and let us know how you get on.

just catching up - good luck later love

MeTigger - hope you have a great date.

The age discussion comes up on here regularly. If you met someone in RL then age probably wouldn't come into it initially. My one RL date was 11 yrs younger & he guessed my age to be 45 (I'm 50).

I'm still using Tinder plus to hide my age and I've had well over 30 matches since the weekend. Considering I've never had more than about 3 or 4 in the past, and I've tried it quite a few times, I would say knowing someone's age (old or young) can be off-putting.

We shouldn't be judging on a number but it happens. I've got chats going with a 38yr old and a 65yr old. Neither seem bothered that they don't know my age.

MeTigger go for it happy to help

Have had several dates with Mr Geek but feel I’m overinvesting as he has such a busy life and messages so sporadically I need to look for other irons I think. I’m sick of Bumble Tinder and POF. Same old faces go round and round....
Think I will look into Guardian Soulmates. If I do I want to start with a clean slate so am hoping the lovely folk on here will help me write a new profile..

Awesome tigger. I'd go for it too!

Does anyone else like Tastebuds.fm? I liked quite a few on there, if you're bored with PoF.

Never heard of that one...

Update - During more messaging, Mr-very-lovely-but-young asked what my intentions for him were!

@tigger -
And what did you reply??

How do set distance on badoo?

I said I’m looking to find someone wonderful to have a serious relationship with, until you popped up wanting to meet me, I’d never considered that someone of your age would be interested in that. So, no, I’m not looking for a casual relationship because casual dating with anyone is not something that sits well with me

Tigger Good reply... has he responded yet?

He said he agreed, he said he asked because women in the past have told him they could only ever see it being casual, so he had to ask.

To be honest, it surprised me because I was intending to ask him when we met as I suppose I couldn’t really imagine a 27 year old wanting a serious relationship with a 45 year old

Well that’s a good start Tigger enjoy your meet up!

I got a message from a 21 year old. It said something along the lines of, ‘there is no way you are 37’.

I was a bit horrified tbh, and pointed out that I have an 18 year old son (who would, quite rightly, disown me if I even considered dating a 21 year old). He just replied that we could date in secret.

I just couldn’t though. 16 years younger than me is just too young.

On the age question, I know men in their fifties and sixties who are as emotionally immature as a teenager, and I know people in their twenties who are very mature in outlook.

Age is only relevant in terms of cultural references, and even then only to a limited extent.

To those considering dating younger, I say judge it on the actual person, not on their number. And you only live once so make the most of all the opportunities life has to offer/you create for yourself.

Actually, generally age is also relevant depending on whether you are male/female and want kids or not. Biologically speaking. But that's not in my thinking really.