Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

dogz Perhaps the transient nature of the population generally in London keeps people more on their toes?

Here in the home counties, there is also a lot of primping and preening by both sexes. Think orange people, weaves, and teeth that could blind you in a dark room. My town has more hairdressers than residents.

I've definitely got fancy fatigue! I hardly fancy anyone and I'm also a no to the big belly. Literally don't enjoy sex unless there is a really good connection.
Sigh.

carouselfish why don't you just follow your instincts and do it when it feels right? Nobody else can tell you when that is.

Bendy - orange people

Thanks @kin - got you loud and clear!

Know what you mean about the older men letting themselves go somewhat. Though I’m a runner and tend to be attracted to runners too - who are usually still in quite good physical shape. It’s just finding them.....

Home counties, pah! Everyone knows the orange people live down my street in Essex.

I think we are lucky in London, I'd say I fancy about 10-15 percent of photos I see online. But their profile has to be a good one or its a no from me. I do find that fancying someone comes with time too. There is an initial attraction, obviously, but that grows the more you see someone. Conversely, I dated someone last year who I thought was gorgeous and way out of my league. As I got to know him, I realise he was quite narcissistic and he actually became an ugly person to me.

As for Bumble, I'm finding more and more that people on there just want sex. I'll persevere with it, but it's putting me off.
I was chatting to someone over the weekend who wanted to go to WA, clearly for sexting. I said no. He got a bit rude, calling me middle aged and boring. He said it was a joke. I unmatched him then he managed to find me and swipe me right again. I swiped left. I don't mind a joke, but sometimes it's a bit near the knuckle if you don't actually know the person. I was surprised he found me though. I didn't think that happened if you unmatched.

lol @kin

This is the Grand Salon Owner with his team of waxers, fouffers, primpers and preeners. Ready to implement the personal grooming torture of your choice.

tomhardy, I would agree with that re bumble. I had 2 matches today looking for sex - first one said he was looking for a submissive in bed, second one wanted a woman who was bisexual to have a relationship with him and his wife and go on holiday with them etc. Fair play to them for being honest but fgs no thanks.

I agree deffo if they're honest it's fine. I'm meeting someone soon who is in a polyamorous relationship. It's not my thing, but he's really nice so I agreed to meet. It's the ones who say they're looking for a relationship/dating in their profile but once you chat it's clear it's just about sex.

So glad someone asked what MB was - I was going through every imaginable two word scenario!!!

I installed Bumble at the weekend and am yet to get a match, the demographic I find is a lot older than Tinder (I’m in my 50s) but have to say there are hardly any that I swipe right to, there really are some God awful men out there who certainly do not know how to take a decent photo of themselves!

To the person who asked earlier, sorry I can’t remember who, I paid for Tinder Gold and I actually quite like it even though it takes away the fun of seeing ‘It’s a Match’ pop up on your screen!!

Two questions, is it just me but are men really slow on asking you out on an actual date?? There’s a few I’ve been talking to for what seems like ages and I don’t want a flipping pen pal and I’m sick of asking them out!!

Any what about moving from the dating site to talking on WhatsApp or something, how long to you wait to move from one to the other?

Thirdly why the heck doesn’t Mr Local ask me out on a second date when he’s clearly interested?!!!! Argh!!

I always move it forward to meeting now. I think sod it if they think I'm being forward. I cannot do with messaging for days and days.

someone had on their profile on bumble - I want Meeters not Messers lol which made me chuckle

there are 2 pictures which appear all the time on bumble

men with a fish they have caught
men in bed

neither of those are remotely attractive to women fgs

I also move to whatsapp fairly quickly because these apps messaging systems are generally awful

if it goes wrong, you can always block them but I know some people don't like giving out their number so quickly

I have to agree with you there Daffo, I do not understand the posing with a fish thing that a lot of guys have on their profiles. it immediately turns me off. I have nothing against being interested in fishing but posing with a fish is a no for me.
I will always remember an ex work colleague said they once got a message from a man on POF and his photo was of him with a cornish pasty on his head. Not sure if it was a joke!

I have no irons right now. Not talking to anyone really either. I've had a few messages but all from people with one line in their profile and it gives me nothing to work with so I have deleted them. It's dire at the moment.

love glad that you enjoyed your date with Mr Campervan. Hope it continues to go well!

It's so disappointing when you're scrolling through photos of someone who looks nice and you get a fish one pop up.

Lol, at the fish photos- that’s so true! It’s definitely off-putting.

The headless torso ones, or obscure side shots, or silhouettes are just married players mostly. And those into kinky shit who don't want to be outed. I've had a few proposals involving dom/submission, feet worship and FLR. I had to ask what that was!

It's a sad place sometimes!

There also seems to be a posing with a drugged tiger thing.

Well the football appears to have killed conversations on OLD, or maybe I'm just not as engaging as I thought I was
Tumbleweed round here.
Glad Love and Val are having a good time! Well done on gigging alone Val.

I seem to attract gangster types and a lot of Asian men, and Polish men. Often with moustaches.

never had a tiger photo

Anyone else suffering old fatigue? I'm getting really fed up I think I need a break for my own sanity !!

I think the fish photos are a hunter gatherer throwback; may explain why my tadpole pics are not working for me?

lol

Kin hahaha!

Enough of the fish pics, enough of the torsos, enough of the pics that show them so far away you can’t make them out and enough of the pics when you don’t actually know who they are as they’re in a group of people!! Oh, yes I’ve had a couple of the tiger pics crop up too!

Sure the World Cup has a lot to do with the tumbleweed, plus the hot weather.

Right, I’m just moving the couple on Tinder onto WhatsApp if I can and I’m just going to ask them all out - sod it!! I’ll be back to zero again by tomorrow no doubt!!

Glad some of us on here are having some success though!