Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I'm pretty sure they can see the profile, but maybe they are just swiping based on the profile pic and don't look at the details until you match.

I've noticed that the layout has changed and the location is now on the last page. I'd rather you could just type in your location rather than it tracking where you are

Daffo I reckon the men swipe on the pics and only check profiles as and when they get a match

yes that is bloody annoying

does it mean when i travel or go away, it's going to match with people near where I am at the time rather than where I live?

lots of people I match with unmatch too lol almost straight away. Lots of odd disappearing.

ah ok that makes sense Kin and that's fine if that's what people are doing :)

lazy men ;)

efficient men ;)

that made me laugh :)

I gritted my teeth and paid for Tinder plus just so I could hide my age. And in less than 24hours I've had 20 matches, which is loads more than I've ever had before.

Some are no go. They live too far away but had just come here for the weekend. One messaged to say he didn't think I was right for him and I should read his profile more carefully. He's in an open relationship. So I said he should've read my more profile more carefully. We exchanged a few funny messages about swiping on looks & not bothering to open the profile before unmatching.

I'm actively messaging 6. Never had so many on the go at once before. I suspect that most won't get as far as a date. No one has asked my age, so far.

Is there such a thing as an efficient man - please point him out to me!

How old are you runs? I seem to remember from an earlier thread that we are a similar age

Now I know people aren't looking at my profile, it all makes more sense lol

I have been lurking on here for a while. Started on Bumble and matched immediately with a man I saw for a few months before he got back together with his ex-wife...!

Anyway, I am back on there. Messaging a very nice-seeming guy - we have swapped numbers and moved to WA. It's got to the point where the next step would be to arrange to meet, which we've discussed but not planned. This is the most annoying bit, I think!

Daffo I'm 50. I've tried Tinder and Bumble a good few times this year and each time I'd get one or two matches but they never replied to messages. To get 20+ in a day is unbelievable. My age range is 40+ and quite a few matches are early forties.
I'm not getting too excited yet as they may all disappear but I paid for a month so I'm going to make the most it. Even if it's just to practice my messaging skills

Sorry, I don't post much but lurk all the time. I stupidly have totally fallen for someone who made it clear he only has the headspace for friends with benefits.
I'm now back trying to distract myself on Tinder with chatting to other people
If anyone, especially anyone male, would-be willing to look at my profile I'd be really grateful for some feedback.

I’m happy to take a look insert

Thanks, I've pm'd you.

that's a good idea Runs

I like to do it intensely for a short time then I give up

Stupidly arranged to see sex toy guy but now I'm really nervous about it. He's been wanting to text all day, asked if he could kiss me if he liked me tonight. It's all a bit much for me but I want to go out!

crikey pink that would have me running for the hills!

make sure you have a get out clause if it gets too much!

pink I wouldn't like that. I had a date with someone similar a while ago. I made sure I got a phone call after about an hour so I had an escape. And I needed it! But only because he was very boring and short.

Daffo the longest I've been on Tinder is a week. I always get fed up of swiping and getting nothing in return. Kills your confidence to think they are all swiping left.
But my matches are still coming in this time.

pink you dont need to lower yourself to this guys level, just because you want to go out

he sounds like an absolute creep. in the nicest way possible, if you are willing to overlook his red flags for the sake of company then maybe you need to work on things a bit? we’ve all been there, it really is better to be on your own.

why not head to a bar or beer garden and you might get chatting to someone nice?

@esk1mo I think in my heart I know you're right.

There won't be anyone out and about near me on a Sunday evening unless they are sad old men watching the football. I'm not really up for my own company out the house when I can stay in with it.

Not posted here for years and it was under a different user name but just thought I'd add to Kin's experience. Someone matched with me overnight on tinder so next morning sent a quick message. The reply was "p*ss off it was an obvious mistake swipe" and then gave an insult about my teeth (There's nothing wrong with my teeth btw). After about 8 years (!) online dating on and off I've never had anything like it! Pretty shocked actually

how horrible hmmm

I am always polite, I think it's so important. I actually think it's the only thing that gets me through online dating as I feel I'm always leaving with my dignity intact if that makes sense when I inevitably give up on it again .

Yes I'm the same daffo, there's just no need for rudeness but I suppose we're not all the same

I agree and in a way, at least you knew he was a shit and didn't have to go through the pain of a date if he'd stayed matched and not shown his true colours!

my opening message has been adjusted now to say let me know if you're still interested given no nitwit has bothered to read my profile first at least it gives them a quick get out clause without the need for a stupid message lol