Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

It's slim pickings for me on OLD. Mixture of one line chats that go nowhere and Hey Babe wanna get to know u type stuff. Met first iron last night and tbh I was bored!! Ex wife's name appeared in the conversation a million times. He was the only local guy, the rest are miles away...disappointing ( and I'd invested in a new top and recoloured my hair!!) He turned up in shorts and sandals!!

On the flip side I write polite introductory messages 1-2 per day and get zero replies.
The funny part is that I've been on POF on and off for 3 years now and the same old faces are still there today.
Bumble is amusing as well I get a few more matches there. However never has a woman messaged me. I also see a large number of women complaining that no man messages them. The fact that if you used bumble the woman takes the lead has escaped them!
I asked a lady friend why so many women post pictures using their phones filters - dog and rabbit ears and noses. She told me that these soften the wrinkles as well

Lovemusic... "singles vw group".... Can you tell me more, I do vw shows (love the scene) and would love folk to hook up with at shows with my kids.

I'm just gettinf started with old and reading this thread with interest.

Cave recolouring the hair is the worst bit by far, Every time I go on a date I'm in the bathroom for a couple of hours, carefully placing grey highlights in strategic places.

cold it’s a Facebook group called ‘vw singles uk’ it’s a lovely group, very friendly, people met. Up at different VW events, camp together and enjoy each other’s company, some have children who come along. I met up with one of the admins last weekend and he made me feel very welcome.

minnie I think you need to take a step back from him. He's getting all the benefits of a relationship without actually putting a name on it. I think if I were you I'd be issuing a sort of ultimatum, either we become official or I'm out of here sort of thing. He's getting it all without having to commit to monogamy.
Hope you get it sorted, it's not great if it's starting to affect your mental health.

Vet you're not the exception. I'm looking to have a relationship that would lead to living together and / or getting married. I wouldn't want any more kids, as mine are grown up & I'm late 40s. I'm not in any rush to get there, but that is my goal.

Minnie you have to have that conversation with your guy. If you're not sure where you stand, then just ask. There is no point trying to read the runes or guess and have it drive you nuts - life is too short. If he's not looking for what you are looking for, then you should move on. Sounds harsh, but otherwise you're potentially wasting time with someone who is just looking for FWB.

restingface I mention my DC. The older I get the more I value knowing everything up front, so I do the same with my profile too. If you say it how it is, then there is less room for confusion / disappointment or misunderstandings further down the line. I'm clear about my relationship intentions too for exactly the same reasons.

Kin they're not grey but natural highlights in my opinion. How did your coffee date go?

Seriously Val I have a full head of luscious hear but no-one believes I'm a day over 21 so I need to make myself look more mature.

Not so good - she had a massive ego and an immoral outlook in terms of her professional activities.

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Kin great news about the luscious head of hair! Sorry your coffee date didn't go so well. I'm dying to know what a professionally immoral outlook could be - can you say any more?

She was a hooker

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!! Really?

Kin just trying to guess what profession she's in - journalism, banker, traffic warden, politician.

Did she mention her hourly rate kin??

lol

She said £200, more if I wanted her to take her clothes off Bendy

Lawyer Val

I was nearly gullible there for a minute!!!!

Nearly Margo? I think I done you good and proper!

Kin Ah yes, forget about them - and Estate Agents!

Kin Hang on, you named her Miss Joker didn't you - was that because of the fees she charges?

Lol, yep.

She was cool and a great conversationalist, very funny but not a great human being in the eyes of this beholder.

Even though I have hidden my profile on Bumble and Tinder, I had a really nice message from someone on Tinder and we are chatting away - not sure how that happened. After Match being very quiet, and only a few days to go before my subscription runs out, I am now having 3 very conversations on there with one moving to the phone tonight. There must be something in their algorithm!

Ive got a date on Thursday next week. Looking forward to it. You guys have chatted lots, think Ive caught up.

Ive not been on pof for a few days, I just cannot be bothered with it at the moment. Ive hid my profile too.

Great news Val and you too Jax.

I have a very dull question. I subscribed to Match for one month via the App on my phone. How do I unsubscribe, so I don't get the auto-subscription taking another month? I've looked at the instructions but I still can't work out how to do it via my phone - any help would be really appreciated?