Just closed the case with Mr Motorbike, but seeing Mr Theroux tomorrow and then Mr Mafia on Saturday. Texting with Mr Mafia every day. Really excited about seeing him and just keep thinking what could be wrong with him? Nothing yet. Terrible way to think! And then the self-deprecating, wow, he likes me! And I made zero effort going out on the date because I only had ten minutes to get ready after a late babysitter panic! So he saw me with unplucked brows, chewed nails, flat shoes and a vest! Hahaha!
Was reading all the posts about profiles on OLD and wanted to share what I do:
I put natural photos up and date them, 3 years ago, last year etc etc. One or two glam ones at a wedding, the rest just hanging out with the dog or a laptop camera job. No pouty, no filters.
I write barely anything on the profile, just a couple of basics like I'm have a young child, dogs, I like books, motorbikes. I'll come back and fill this out properly later.
I have put 'wants to get married' on PoF, because, well, I do. I don't want to pretend I don't!
I'll only talk to them online a few times before swapping numbers and arranging to meet, because, for me, it can be really misleading about what they're like and if there's no chemistry, it's all wasted time. I avoid anyone who sounds bitter, lengthy, unrealistic, sex-focused or who hasn't had a relationship longer than a year when they're in their 30s/40s.
I open conversations with 'Hi, I like XYZ on your profile. I like X too but have never done Z'. Really straight-forward and brief.
I haven't had any rude pics or comments and only one weird persistent old guy! I've been on three dates from PoF, one okay, one clearly not what was seen in the pics, one brilliant so I don't think it's all bad! I've also had two really good dates from Tastebuds.fm