Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

[Kinunir]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

mwah @ Bendy

(She knows I can't resist a woman with footballers' legs and good ball control)

Well after moaning about Mr Campervan being too busy he turns up at my house (I didn’t tell him where I lived but I’m probably easy to find), not sure if it’s romantic or creepy? My hair is a mess, I’m in messy clothes and I look awful. Anyway he was really sweet, didn’t stay too long, apparently he wanted to see how far away I lived (how long it takes to get here), he helped me fix a few things on my van and then went. No kiss

This thread is illuminating, thank you to you all for sharing... I was going on a date tonight but he cancelled due to illness. He suggested Friday instead ( that's a bump up from a Wednesday date I think) and offered to pay for my babysitter. Is that nice or weird im not sure...

Ding, that’s a good sign that he arranged another date, proves that he probably is ill and feels guilty for having to cancel. I wouldn’t except the kind gesture of paying for the baby sitter, I would say “thank you for the offer but you don’t need to”.

Yeah I refused it, we were planning to watch that terrifying film with Toni Colette - heridatory? I don't remember the name. I said that he could buy the popcorn! It's a kind gesture though I think... he bought me dinner last week so this Cinema date was on me ( in my mind anyway) .. all good signs though I think

Can anyone beat this for someone trying to get attention and a message back?

A guy messaged me about 9 days ago on POF. I sent a sorry but good luck reply as I just didn't see any potential connection between us. He's since been messaging me every day (up to 2 or 3 messages a day!) trying to get me to change my mind. His messages are slightly angrier each time and his last one, which was sent around an hour ago, demanded a reasonable reason as to why I can't see any potential and how would I know if we've never met. Major major red flags! I know I'll end up blocking him, I haven't bothered to read the messages from him up until now but bloody heck. I'm actually also shocked he thinks that his messages will make me instantly fall at his feet.

that is bad

I know it can be a frustrating process but no excuse for that!

@Lovemusic33 I'd be feeling very freaked out if a date turned up at my house when I hadn't told him my address. Easy to find or not, you just don't do it. Stalker alert there.

Bendy Yes if you come up with a line that works I'm interested!

Love I agree with Lit would refuse to talk to someone who did that - how did he work out where you live? very stalkerish

200 it can't work for him, he just likes to vent. Block asap.

Deffo sorry it didn't work out, not good when it goes on for longer then stalls, but plenty more fish in the sea sadly we are looking for genuine dates not fish

Ding he sounds nicely keen.

Kin I like men that ask me a question, my opinion...e.g. "I see your username includes the sky, do you prefer dawn or dusk?"

I get "How is u luv" and "u wanna chat?"

I wonder if I'd getter a better response asking for an opinion?

Just now, message to a professional dog sitter...

Me: Did you hear about the mum who asked her daughter to take their dog for a walk?

As the dog was in heat the mum covered it in petrol, thinking that would kill any unwanted attention and sent her out for a walk with her daughter.

A little while later, the daughter returned without the dog.

Frantically, mum asked what had happened.

Her daughter said “It’s ok, she ran out of petrol, but I found a boy dog who could help – he climbed up on top of her and is doing his damnedest to push her all the way home”

Her: lol

That's what I call poor ROI

hmm so I have a couple of irons, 1 mrpoet 2 mrfaraway both nice guys, meeting mrpoet next Thursday as we are both mega busy this week and next week.

mrfaraway is literally far away at the moment. He has messaged me on whatsapp a couple of times, so I will wait to hear from him as and when he can.

Im far too busy and hot to be arsed at the moment with flakes and silly promises. I want actions not words.

Just thought Id check in, this thread is moving at a hefty pace considering the world cup is on.

Whoever said its a long game, it is. Sometimes I log in and I have a dozen messages, sometimes I log in and theres nothing.

Hi All,

Thank you so much for all posting your experiences, it’s great to know that we aren’t all struggling through this alone!

I’m fairly new to MN so please do excuse me if I get some of the lingo wrong!

I’ve been OLD for a couple of years, had some successes, but a lot of bad luck (well all bad luck considering I’m back!)

I think there must be something in the air with all this sun, football and beer? Last week I had arranged 3 dates, and every single one cancelled! One just straight up ghosted me, which I hate, one was messaging me all of the day and then when I was getting ready to leave messaged me saying he was sick! (I’d already done my make up!!) and the final one told me he has no money to take me out until his next pay day?! I’m not sure what he was expecting me to say (Don’t worry hunnyboo I gotchu?) I don’t have a problem if he had no money (Trainee doctor) but just made me think he mustn’t have been that keen, because we could have done something free?!

Sorry for the long rant!! I’m just feeling very frustrated at the moment with it all, and feel I must be doing something wrong? Or maybe I just pick the asshats 😂

Can I ask was is an iron?

I has told him which village I live in (big village), he said he was going to drive to the local pub and then message me but he spotted my van outside my house. He did text to say he was outside and asked if it was ok to see me (didn’t knock on the door), I was out the front so spotted him before I saw the message on my phone. He’s messaged me since saying “sorry for just turning up”. Not sure how I feel about it.

Love I agree with the general consensus that sounds very creepy to me. Time to walk away I think.

200 Time to block and move on. Whilst OLD can sometimes feel like a hopeless task there is no need for that.

Ding That sounds promising.

Kin I like a guy to be humorous.

Jax I feel exactly the same I have had enough of words.

I logged into POF for the first time in ages this evening and I am now sat here wondering why I bothered.

dingdang . an iron is someone you are talking to online. 'Iron in the fire'

Bloody hell Love that would freak me right out. I don't think I would've opened the door to him. I'd be pissed off as well as creeped out if I was in my evening slobbing around clothes, no make up on etc.

Kin I'm sure you can do better.

One for the ladies - I realised today that Adam Lambert and Queen are on at Wembley on Sunday - only single seats left - (prefer standing) but thinking of going it alone - anyone done that ? I'm happy doing things alone but never done a big gig - saw them a few years back and loved it so really want to go again.

Love that happened to me many years ago - he did phone first to say he was in my local pub as he wanted to thank my daughter who worked there for encouraging me to meet him - we had been seeing one other for a few weeks - I ended up marrying him lol

Yeah I know, it was a crap joke Val.

I've seen AC/DC on my own recently and Van Halen many years ago - both an awesome experience and great fun talking to people around me. I might have to look into that for Sunday, love Queen.

Vet, I didn’t open the door to him, he didn’t come near the door, he parked across the road, I was outside messing around with my van and spotted him, then checked my phone and he had sent me a message saying he was outside and could he come and say ‘hi’. I didn’t let him come into my house, spoke to him outside for a bit and then he went.
What I picked up on yesterday on our date is that he is really friendly, speaks to anyone, I’m not sure he has many boundaries (which is a bit odd). He hasn’t been pushy at all, hasn’t attempted to make any move on me and has been a gentleman apart from turning up at my house. I know it’s a huge red flag and seems really odd. I shall be treading very carefully and keeping my options open with other irons.

kin that is the worst joke I've ever heard, and I'm a big fan of Xmas cracker jokes. Ironically of course. It's a bit too overtly sexual and creepy. Not that you asked for feedback!!
If you had sent me that online, if I otherwise fancied you, I would have challenged you to up your game!
In fact, maybe that's an idea for an opening message:

Fisher: " Hello there...[insert short clean Xmas cracker joke]. If you want to join me in rolling your eyes, or even ironically laughing, at more cheesy Xmas cracker jokes, feel free to message me back. Or, I can send you one every day until you do!"

Last sentence optional if you think it sounds stalkery. Could replace with "Return cheesy joke favour is optional" or something like that.

Any other ideas for good opening lines? We should all share good examples!

love would freak me out too. Do you get a vibe from him thats creepy? If I had a good feeling about someone and fancied the arse off them I might think it's cute though 🙈

I really do not know any good opening lines at all to be honest - it's my biggest sticking point with OLD by far.

chocmallows Can you PM me an example of the text in a profile you want to message. I can then tailor a reply to pick up on that specifically. Just copy and paste it.