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Dating Thread 135 - Will Harry Ever Meet Sally?

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Kinunir · 21/06/2018 10:16

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Lovemusic33 · 26/06/2018 18:25

I don’t understand what people get out of it Kin , their lives must be pretty boring if they feel the need to spend their spair time being horrible to others.

hatty44 · 26/06/2018 18:39

@bendy yes!!!
IT, accountants and pilots round here.
As well as long distance lorry drivers Grin

Kinunir · 26/06/2018 18:41

Just for the record hatty, I would like to point out that IT folk especially are all incredibly handsome, witty and amazing lovers Wink [ grin]

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pinkpixie83 · 26/06/2018 18:44

Do I need to see this before we've even had a date!!!!

And to have been told that he only bought it because he was single and if we got on he wouldn't need it.

I think I need to block

dogzdinner · 26/06/2018 18:55

pink 😳

TomHardysBitontheside · 26/06/2018 19:09

OMG!! pink

😂😂😂

pinkpixie83 · 26/06/2018 19:10

Trust me I find them all. I'm a proper wanker magnet

VetOnCall · 26/06/2018 19:14

Kin I have no patience at all, I've only sent him two one-line messages right at the start. The rest of it has just simulanteously amused me and pissed me off with his insistence that I should 'change my mind' and 'give him a chance' because his other option didn't work out.

Sorry about those messages you've had too, that's really horrible. I can't believe people would just message someone out of the blue to say something so nasty. It must be a troll surely... It's probably not difficult to set up random accounts using photos off the internet.

Tom exactly! And esk yes to this- “when a man says no it means no. when a woman says no it means maybe”

pink oh dear god Confused Yes, block, very very quickly. That's rank.

VetOnCall · 26/06/2018 19:15

Ha, that looks like I think this is actually correct “when a man says no it means no. when a woman says no it means maybe” - I obviously don't, I mean yes that's what Mr Entitled seems to think!

esk1mo · 26/06/2018 19:18

haha dont worry i thought you were agreeing with me! ☺️

LiteraryDevil1 · 26/06/2018 19:20

OMG @pinkpixie83 Block!!

@Kinunir what horrible people there are in the world 

@VetOnCall I'd be so tempted to play along with someone e like that for my own amusement but would probably sent a curt message then block.

Lovemusic33 · 26/06/2018 19:40

Pink that’s really funny Grin, why did he feel the need to share that with you? I’m not sure what goes through some men’s heads, doesn’t surpise me though, as I said before ‘but plug collection’, I have had ment show me their bondage gear, that was even more scary.
It’s fine for men to have toys the same as it is for women but it’s not something you share with someone you have never met.

pinkpixie83 · 26/06/2018 19:54

@Lovemusic33 I have no issues with sex toys what so ever. I just don't believe you need to share with still essential strangers!

Move on I guess. Leaves me with no irons

ValMc1 · 26/06/2018 21:00

Wish I had air con - got two kittens staying with me for 2 weeks so can't open any windows wide in case they leg it - would have to be this week! They are gorgeous though. Well I've blocked Mr Tosser because he's a tosser. Mr Music and I have exchanged a few messages but think he is a no go - enjoying not being on Tinder/Bumble/POF. My ex is coming on Saturday to do a few jobs - we are just friends without benefits and it's nice we can swop dating stories without issue. Going to wake kitties up now as they woke me at 2 playing chase all over me. Revenge is sweet!

MyUsername200 · 26/06/2018 21:36

Pink Grin block and delete him.

Vet I agree that the constant trying to get you on a date is frustrating. In fact I'd be seriously getting annoyed with him and most likely would block as he can't seem to take a 'no'. It's a red flag for sure.

No current irons for me. I've been messaging one guy but he seems quite flakey judging by the two days of chat we've had. He's asked me for a drink but no firm plans yet. I don't think I'm really feeling it with him, something, most likely gut instinct is telling me he'd be very hot and cold with me so will most likely give him a miss.

I agree that there's not been much activity on my POF or tinder accounts. Very slim pickings and I love in a large(ish) city. I have a feeling everyone is out enjoying the sun and football Grin

marriednotdead · 26/06/2018 21:37

Pink, I opened the thread just as that pic was displayed mid screen, am still traumatised! I will try to view it (the situation, not that bloody thing!) as you having taken one for the team Grin

I've exchanged a few messages from a guy I'll call Mr Smart, he's already suggested swapping phone numbers. He's pushing my minimum height limits but quite dapper so I figured I'd test the water by asking some direct questions, think he's a bit stunned and hasn't answered them yet but do you think I'm being bad?

Is your profile age and other details you've mentioned on POF accurate?
How many children do you have, how old are they and do you see much of them?
What's your definition of social drinking?
Do you think Brexit is a good idea?
Have you ever been married? If not why not?
Why did your last relationship end?
How many years has your longest friend been around?
Do you judge people who buy/wear secondhand items?
Do you believe you can stay on good terms with your exes?
If a friend or family member told you they were gay or became deeply religious would you distance yourself?
What do you think of people in social housing?
If a lady was going to go out with you and she turned up in flat shoes or trousers, would you be bothered?
Three words a friend would use to describe you...

And finally did this list amuse, irritate, intrigue or offend you?!

Am debating whether to hone it further and use again, what else should I add? My profile does say I'm direct and like quizzes so it shouldn't be a total shock Grin

MyUsername200 · 26/06/2018 21:38

Live in, not love in. Hmm Grin

MyUsername200 · 26/06/2018 21:40

married would you send those questions all in one go? Going to be totally honest but I'd be a bit miffed to receive a lengthy questionnaire, especially if someone I barely knew wanted to know personal details about my last relationship. Smile

BendyLikeBeckham · 26/06/2018 21:41

pink OMG!!! that's gross.

kin Nooooo! IT??? lol. Are you sure you haven't messaged me online? hahaha

LiteraryDevil1 · 26/06/2018 21:44

@marriednotdead they are the kind of questions I want to know the answers to too but dare not ask. I do ask some as we chat along but it would be great if dating sites had this "test" as a precursor of being able to message you. That would certainly stop all the "hi there" messages! I'd restrict it to about 5 in those circumstances though.

Kinunir · 26/06/2018 21:48

No idea Bendy - you're not in the London area are you?

Married good and insightful questions but you are proposing sending them to someone you haven't yet met in person? That's a bit heavy isn't it?

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BendyLikeBeckham · 26/06/2018 21:50

ummm.......Wink

marriednotdead · 26/06/2018 21:53

I did think twice about the last relationship one @Myusername200 but yep, I'd already hit send. If I'm honest, I suspect he's a bit of a player and he'll probably bail or get antsy, will be a pleasant surprise if not.
I wouldn't ask more than 3 or 4 usually but I don't fear asking stuff @LiteraryDevil1
They'll never cope with the real me if that scares them off Grin

marriednotdead · 26/06/2018 22:02

@Kinunir Some of those relate to me and I've probably been judged on. Rather filter out those first. This level of questions is not something I have done regularly but was getting a bit fed up with the clowns today so I got harsh... normal service may resume tomorrow Grin

Kinunir · 26/06/2018 22:04

I've no issue with the questions being asked married - I'd answer them all - but I thinking timing is important. If they came over a few dates, fine. If one list while just chatting online, I'd run.

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