How do you feel about lap dance club/pole dancing stuff.........?

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My dh works in a bit of a boyish industry - mobile phones - tends to be bit 'scummy'.

I'd say ohhhh 5 or 6 times now on a night out they have ended up at these lap dance/topless places. At least he doens't lie about it! He says they just want the extra drink. He doesn't get home till about 4/5 in the morning.

I have gently let it be known I don't like it - he says its harmless.

What do you wise lot think? I don't feel like I can 'ban' him but I do feel a bit put out.

i'm bringing mine up to understand that sexual feelings are ok, that boys and girls are both human beings, and you never do anything that you / the other party doesn't want to do. i think it's a good start.

IIRC a couple of the girls who were dancers in the club i worked in were law students at University

bett er than a student loan IMO

my point being that they were obviously well educated girls
who were a bit skint

does anyone think male strippers are exploited? just out of interest?

pinktulips, why do you think you can't be intelligent and exploited? I know plenty of people (not from this country mostly) who are incredibly intelligent but were dealt a very bad hand in life and are horribly exploited as a result

'Strippers never hook and hookers never strip'

true for all but one of the girls i knew expat and her co-workers were the ones who dobbed her in as it was doing us damage

lol at LotF

ipanemagirl, most of the girls i worked with were quite curvy actually, as am i

'expat, when we educate women well they don't have to work as strippers'

Oh, please, ipanema.

I knew two women who were CPAs - certified professional accountants - who worked as strippers.

I knew another one who was a teacher. Another who was a married mother of two.

Stripping is generally pretty good money.

And when you've been made redundant and you can't get another job, or you're low-income - many occupations requiring university-level education don't pay well - or you can't afford childcare, stripping can provide you with much-needed income.

Surely anorexia is more to do with the fashion industry than the sex industry?
Us blokes love a lady with a full, feminine figure - well, I do.

strippers come in all shapes and sizes

dont think i ever met an anorexic one

'expat, when we educate women well they don't have to work as strippers. When women have the vote they have more choices. Education, rights, opportunities: these things are connected imo'

i chose to work as a stripper, i didn't have to

I thin anorexia is more to do with having controling parents actually

Most high-end clubs want to hire women in a range of body types, ethnicities and ages to appeal to their clients.

Women use their bodies constantly to exploit men in every field of life, whether it is waving their tits about in a lap dancing club or fluttering their eyelids at a bar in order to get free drinks.

And all power to them. I know I'd do it if I could, but not many men want to buy a 30-something bloke drinks, let alone watch me dance!!

skidaddle, can you explain further?
That sounds like an intriguing new angle.
How do you mean 'controlling'?

skidaddle, exactly! anorexia is a disease about control, not being seen as attractive

most people who suffer from anorexia will tell you they starved themselves in order to control their image, not in order to look good

anorexia is a serious mental disease.
no one canmake anyone else anorexic!

I learned the cutting the strings off the tampon trick from strippers. Excellent for hillwalking and climbing. This was before my mooncup days, of course.

and again...what is the opinion on male strippers? are they being exploited?

Yes, but who creates this image in the first place? I would have thought the fashion industry, non?

pmsl expat, it's a handy one alright

male strippers must be being expoited too!

nightowl- not exploited no, but certainly unattractive! i like man with a bit of a belly, not a tanned, muscley lump of a bloke. Blurgh!

I was already able to give myself a Brazilian by the time I started working as a waitress there, PT, so that came as no shock to me.

Of course, it's hard to shock me at all.

Expat

Cutting off strings?
Mooncup?

Please enlighten an old man!

pulsating veins, fit to burst.
and thats just the neck!