He's gone back to her again!!

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A month ago I found out my boyfriend of 3 years had been sleeping with someone else, she had no idea about me (apparently) had heard from a friend he had a girlfriend and then messaged me on Facebook, she said he texts and calls her all the time and sent me screen shots of messages of him even saying he was in love with her, how he misses her so much and wants to be with her. He’s been seeing her at least once a week for a few months.

I forgave him because I’m an idiot. Yesterday I found out he has been seeing her again, and even after all the trouble of her finding out about me even delivered flowers at her front door. I know I probably shouldn’t of but this afternoon I’ve text her a load of abuse but I can’t help feeling like such a mug, we spoke on the phone weeks back and she promised never to speak to him again. He’s coming home from work and refusing to talk about it because he’s “tired” he just doesn’t give a shit does he? I’ve asked him over and over if he loves her and he smiles and says “not really”. It hurts more the fact it’s the same girl he’s going back to!

I’m going to have to leave him now aren’t I someone give me a kick up the ass before I end up making myself look even more stupid!

I agree with giving him a deadline to collect his stuff. I was with a narcissistic tosser who spent most of his time trying to be a big man in the pub. He tried to worm his way back constantly with ways of getting me to "talk"

We never lived together but he had a lot of stuff at mine and after a similar refusal to collect his stuff I dumped it on the doorstep of his favourite pub then cut all contact.

Life's so much better without them, well done for how you're handling it!

Shuddering at that age gap

Agree with po - stuff collected by x day or it goes to charity/the bin

Stay strong op.

Pp even

In your position, I'd pack up and drop his stuff to his parents.
This would be purely be for the sake of getting done and dusted quickly and him out of your life.
Feck waiting for him to come (which he will drag out as long as possible) or his crap filling up your bin.

Thank you all.

My dad has just dropped his stuff off at his parents. I blocked his number yesterday but he’s now ringing me non stop on withheld so think I’ll be changing my number. I feel so embarrassed talking about everything with my parents because of how I’ve let him get away with so many things he always used to sweet talk me round, he’d never try and make it up with me it was always stuff like “it’s all in your head” “babe stop being silly and let’s talk face to face” because he knows he’ll chat a load of bullshit and I’d fall for it.

@MissVanjie I know it’s a big age gap, if I had just met him now I would never give him the time of day he has kids an a bit of a past. There’s a bit of a back story to how we met.

I'm really shocked at his age. I assumed you were young, but also him, that he was just some I mmature teenage tosser.

But he's not, he's a 31 year old nasty user who lives with his mum. I've a daughter your age and I'd be horrified if some 31 year old bloke was treating her like Shite and humiliating her in this way. Begging you not to tell your parents. How grown up of him. Begging some other woman to be with him. Very grown up indeed. Living with his mum. Yeah, he has it sorted.

He obviously thought you were some soft touch who would let him away with anything and too stupid to know better. I'm glad you've shown him that you might only be 20 but you're not stupid and you've got some self respect.

Honestly he's a total loser. He will be still living with his mum at 40 and begging girls to be with him. Yuk. Whilst you will meet someone decent and be happy.

Good luck. Stay away from this creep. We have all met the type. Take advantage of young woman because ones closer to his own age won't touch him with a barge pole and he can't handle grown up relationships.

He sounds as grim as they come. His poor kids lumbered with that filth for a father.

Well done Op

I know they couldn't have been easy x

I'm happy for you OP.. you Dads a good'un

Op you were only 17 when you got together with this man. These guys go after young women for a reason, they are nothing short of predators.

I'm still aghast though at just how badly he was treating you, how hard he was going after this other woman, seeing her for months, it's just awful. Taking advantage of your parents, your family home and your finances. Some people really are utter scum.

How old is the woman he was cheating on uou for months with?

Let me have a look into my 🔮 about what this man is like towards his dc: he’s a shit father who rarely sees them and pays nothing towards them but it’s all his ex’s fault because she’s a ‘psycho’ ?

I think they must churn these guys out in a douchebag factory somewhere