He's gone back to her again!!

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A month ago I found out my boyfriend of 3 years had been sleeping with someone else, she had no idea about me (apparently) had heard from a friend he had a girlfriend and then messaged me on Facebook, she said he texts and calls her all the time and sent me screen shots of messages of him even saying he was in love with her, how he misses her so much and wants to be with her. He’s been seeing her at least once a week for a few months.

I forgave him because I’m an idiot. Yesterday I found out he has been seeing her again, and even after all the trouble of her finding out about me even delivered flowers at her front door. I know I probably shouldn’t of but this afternoon I’ve text her a load of abuse but I can’t help feeling like such a mug, we spoke on the phone weeks back and she promised never to speak to him again. He’s coming home from work and refusing to talk about it because he’s “tired” he just doesn’t give a shit does he? I’ve asked him over and over if he loves her and he smiles and says “not really”. It hurts more the fact it’s the same girl he’s going back to!

I’m going to have to leave him now aren’t I someone give me a kick up the ass before I end up making myself look even more stupid!

Well done OP!!
You should be proud of yourself. You’re worth 10 of him

I've been cheated on by my ex husband.

Now that you've made the decision to end things, you need to stop obsessing about what him and her are doing. When you find yourself doing that repeat "It's not my business. He doesn't love me"

It doesn't matter if he loves her and would pick you over her. You have evidence that he doesn't love you and you need to remind yourself of that fact.

Be out when he comes for his stuff. Let him face your parents. He’s beyond awful. Far, far beyond.

God he's a piece of shit. Proper using you. Tell your mum. How he can be begging this other woman is astonishing. He's not even hiding it.

Just stick to your guns now. You will move past this and find someone who is a nice guy and won't cheat on you.

He's a shit and if it wasn't this ow it would be another. He's the problem he doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself. The pain, hurt, disrespect and possible STIs and he doesn't care one bit!!
You deserve better than this arsehole

It’s great that you’re telling your mum.

You’re right to tell your mum. Make it real.

But remember whether he gets together or not with the other girl doesn’t matters. The fact if he is willing to repeatedly cheat on you and is brazen about it. You can do SO much better and you deserve so much better. Don’t minimise it and blame the other girl.

You've cottoned on to him- and you're right,he's using you for somewhere to stay.

You deserve better- you've got a lifetime ahead of you, don't waste it on shits like him.

And I think you're right to tell your parents- they'll want him gone, and will support you in keeping him away.

well done Lass

well done babes..stay strong and dont take no shit from him..how dare he expect to be a cocklodger at your PARENTS house..omg..tell your whole fam what a prick he is..im only saying that cause i done it with an ex once and even when he begged me back because i told everyone i felt too ashamed..glad as well cause he has cheated on his new mrs loads and that could of been me. xx

Don't waste any more time on him. Active steps to block him. You have better things ahead. Don't play this silly game of who will take him/who will he pick. You don't want to get stuck with him. He is the booby prize.

You are making a good start by telling your Mum, it is great she won't have him in the house, she must think a lot of you.

RUN....run for the hills!!!!!

Well done OP-echoing yours and others words that he's a user. He will most likely cheat on others in the future. Lucky you didn't move in together. Glad you are with supportive parents. Quite amusing that OW doesn't want him either though but wants her ex-he's doing the pick me dance! -that's karma for you. Best of luck to you OP.

You are a brilliant young woman. Now that you’ve recognised what he is, don’t accept crappy behaviour from any man. I take it he has no access to your savings?

Block him, block her, and move on. Life is way too short to even entertain this shit.

Well done OP!

Once he's out of your life focus on yourself for a bit.
Treat yourself, do nice things with friends, invest time and effort into your own happiness.

It will only get better and better from here

Get his stuff and him out your house. Tell your parents everything. Block him in everything.

Onwards and upwards, life's too short to waste on cheaters and arseholes, you deserve so much better.

Once you have fully rid yourself of this parasitical user, please enrol yourself onto the Freedom Programme run by Womens Aid and read up a lot on red flags in relationships. This will help you also move forward because men like this specimen can and do take time to recover from and mess with your head.

Look too at what you have learnt about relationships to date and unlearn the crap through counselling if necessary as well.

Weirdly, I've been in this situation.

I was in touch with OW, he loved her, told me he loves me etc... We'd been together 7 years.

Turned out he loved her when he was with her and loved me when he was with me.

I played the pick me dance and because I was there, I won! Yay!

But no. It was shit. Constantly wondering who was texting (phone in hand or away all the time) & where he was when 'out with work'.

I realised I wanted to be someone's priority. Not chosen because I'm there.
He was an awful narc and blamed ME for his relationship with OW ending! Oh, how I laughed!

Still, they're married now and I'm sooooo much happier.

It was crap being alone for a bit, and that's why I danced. I was scared to be alone and he was my best friend, but nobody does that to friends.

All in all, a big learning experience that I needed to up my standards and self esteem! Good luck op, you deserve someone who wants to be with you.

I hope you’ve told your mum and Dad about this scumbag and you’ve dumped him. Of course he will try to contact you and tell you it’s over with her and declare his undying love for you. Tell him to fuck right off, don’t believe his lies.

You have no ties to him, so I really hope you’ve dumped him.

Action points: Round up his stuff and put it in a bin bag and tell him it will be on the doorstep for him to collect at the time he'd normally come around. Stop taking his calls and texts, or hers. Block both of them on phone/email/ social media. Tell your parents the story.

He's an utter pisstaker who is just using you. See it for what it is and start to regain your self respect. He is treating you like dirt and so far you have been letting him.

Hope you told your mum last night and that she helped support you to fuck this useless man any fucknugget out of your life for good

Sweetheart - if it wasn't her, it would be someone else.

And, in the future, it will someone else.

He's not the man for you.

how are you today OP